Is it just me or...

do people just don't get 'dressed up' for weddings anymore???

The wedding I went to last night (at Land's End) there were so many girls in dresses that I would wear as a beach cover up...half the people there (men included) didn't look like they were going to a wedding at all!?!? I mean I honestly don't care 'that much' what people wear BUT it's a formal affair and I saw a bunch of people wearing old navy flip flops (unless it's to change in for later when your feet hurt but this wasn't the case) or a cotton beach cover up for a dress??? I'd honestly like people to dress up for my wedding, I mean not as much as black tie but what I would consider 'normal' to a wedding?!? I don't want to write anything on the invitation because I don't want people to think they have to go out and rent tuxedos, etc but from the wedding last night I feel like writing something on the invitation would be necessary

wow that is odd, how was lands end!!!!

GIve us details!!!

I went to a wedding last fall and girls were wearing flip flops too! I was shocked!!
I was thinking the same thing- we are getting married on a sunday afternoon but still dont want people showing up in flip flops!! UGH people don't think sometimes!!!

Maybe black tie optional????

That really doesn't make sense that people would be more casual. Can't say i've seen that before.

Here is an idea.

On the invite, write 'Black Tie Optional'. It lets people know that you are having a formal affair and that appropriate attire is required, but tuxes aren't needed. My friend used that on her invite (she had the same fears you did) and it turned out to work well. There were, of course, a few people a bit underdressed, mostly the guys wore suits and the girls wore more formal dresses.

I am definitely using that approach on my wedding.

Good luck!

Even if the wedding invite said Casual Dress I wouldnt wear flip flops. They are beach wear, not casual wear.

Wow, thats really crazy.

That suckks, people just have no common sense anymore.

I'm not writing it on my invites, mostly b/c I don't care - as a bride, you probably won't notice what people are wearing..

Anyway, give me a freaking review already lady!!!

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Posted by MPAS

I have seen people in shorts and beach clothes for a church ceremony and then go home and change for the reception.

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Yes, that I've seen that plenty of times before. If people came under dressed for my ceremony I seriously wouldn't care at all I'd just be happy that they came to the church just because I think when you get married at a church (especially when the church and reception times are so far apart) so many people just end up not coming for that and they just come for the reception...the church is the most important part

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Posted by yelley77

Here is an idea.

On the invite, write 'Black Tie Optional'. It lets people know that you are having a formal affair and that appropriate attire is required, but tuxes aren't needed. My friend used that on her invite (she had the same fears you did) and it turned out to work well. There were, of course, a few people a bit underdressed, mostly the guys wore suits and the girls wore more formal dresses.

I am definitely using that approach on my wedding.

Good luck!

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Ahhhh, that never even crossed my mind....Black Tie 'Optional' you are PURE GENIUS

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Posted by Mizzdimple

Ive noticed this.........as for myself I loveeeeeee getting dressed up for weddings....and for church I always get dressed up....Times are a-changin

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Me too, weddings are when you get to get all prettified (a real word lol?) and all fancy

Flip flops at a wedding? OMG yeah you can't do that.

I agree you have to dress up, not necessarily evening gown floor length either only if it is a black tie event. And guys need to wear suits. I am not a fan of every man in a tuxedo so that is why i dont want to write black tie.

I have seen some people wear things they shouldn't wear to weddings. I'd rather be overdressed than underdressed

I know, I look forward to putting on a fancy dress and getting all done up!!

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

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Posted by MPAS

I have seen people in shorts and beach clothes for a church ceremony and then go home and change for the reception.

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Yes, that I've seen that plenty of times before. If people came under dressed for my ceremony I seriously wouldn't care at all I'd just be happy that they came to the church just because I think when you get married at a church (especially when the church and reception times are so far apart) so many people just end up not coming for that and they just come for the reception...the church is the most important part

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I always dresss up for the church and reception. I cant go into a church with shorts or dressed down.

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Posted by MPAS

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

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Posted by MPAS

I have seen people in shorts and beach clothes for a church ceremony and then go home and change for the reception.

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Yes, that I've seen that plenty of times before. If people came under dressed for my ceremony I seriously wouldn't care at all I'd just be happy that they came to the church just because I think when you get married at a church (especially when the church and reception times are so far apart) so many people just end up not coming for that and they just come for the reception...the church is the most important part

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I always dresss up for the church and reception. I cant go into a church with shorts or dressed down.

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yeah no matter what the occasion i can't go into a church dressed like that...I've gone to church with Fh for x-mas, easter and other events and seriously most of the people are dressed very down, some things are even like OMG are you serious wearing that right now. I will put on like a skirt with a button down, or dressy pants with a nice shirt and FH will wear a blazer.