Is it ok to be upset???

Is it ok to be upset???

Re: Is it ok to be upset???

but you have the most romantic day of the year!!!!

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i understand why you're upset, but it will work out ok..and even though they're at the same place, you're at completely different times of year so im sure the look of each wedding will look nothing alike

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Try not to be upset..there are so many ways you can make your wedding different from their's. Plus, your wedding is first, so everyone will be like 'oh this is familiar!'

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I think anyone in that situation would be upset. Depending on your relationship with her, she should have at least mentioned it to you. I know its hard not to be emotional over it, but your wedding is first and it will be amazing.

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i could def see why you'd be upset, i honestly would be too, but if you try to bring it up it'll just backfire and turn everything into a drama.... they knew you were getting marries there but i guess didnt think it was a big deal, youre wedding will be special all on its own so no worries about that!! try to be happy for them and at least you guys wont be 'competing' lol now that your on the same playing field, it might be kinda fun, you two can go to the showcases together etc

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This almost happened to me, but from the other side. I really loved one of my friends halls. She got engaged first. I did tell her first that I was looking at it and considering booking it (I decided against it in the end because I thought it wouldn't be as special for me). However, she was okay with it because 1. I asked her first, and 2. I am getting married 1 year after her. The key here is that you are getting married first. Yes I think she should have asked you if it was okay that she book there. But on the other hand, I would be flattered that she loved the place I am getting married so much that she decided to have her reception there too. I know it stinks right now, but I think there are plenty of ways that you too could make the weddings different. Can you guys do the wedding in different rooms? I hope it works out!

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hel! yeah u can be mad, id be furious... but u still have a wonderful day despite anyone else

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I would be upset...but like someone said, it is also flattering!!

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are they in different rooms? that totally changes the atmosphere on the reception

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I would be be upset, but the good thing is that you are getting married before her

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Of course it is OK to be upset!! Nobody can tell you NOT to feel a certain way. But as previous posters said, your wedding is first, so in hindsight, you should feel flattered! Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!! xox

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i would be upset too esp bc they didn't check with you first to see if it was ok. However, your wedding is first so it will really make them look bad for choosing the same place. Don't worry...your wedding willl be amazingggg!

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Well atleast you don't have to worry about their food or place being better then yours because it's the same! I'm not going to lie, I would be pissed but having the weddings so close together was bound to have some degree of discomfort for both brides. Whether they were getting married WM or on Mars controversy was enevitable Just keep your cool and be the better person. Don't let anyone get the wrong idea because they will think you are jealous.

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Re: Is it ok to be upset???

I don't think you should be upset. Yes, there are hundreds of places in LI to get married but you really shouldn't be so upset about her choosing the same rh. And I don't think that she should have asked you permission unless you are helping to pay some of the bill for her wedding. Maybe what she should have done was tell you that she was considering it and see how you felt just for good measure, but maybe instead of being upset you can talk to WM and tell them that there are going to be two weddings in your family there and see if maybe they will cut a deal for both of you. Tell them that you referred her, maybe they will throw in some goodies for you.

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I would definitely be a bit upset. The least she could do is ask how you feel about it. But, as everyone said, you're wedding is first. Now, if they had booked there AND had it before your wedding, I'd go insane. If she wants to have it at the same place, then it will just make people question 'Hmm... Wasn't this the same as...' and it will look strange for her, not you.

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I definitely think it's OK to be upset. You have every right to feel like your thunder has been stolen a bit. That being said, think of everything YOU loved about the hall. You didn't choose one of the hundreds of other halls in LI for a reason. She didn't choose one of them either, probably for the same reasons. Your wedding will be beautiful and unique no matter where it is! Let yourself be upset, but don't let it ruin your relationships!

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I would be upset but the thing is..every wedding is different! You now just have to up the anty and make it a blow out

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Im sorry that happened but try not to be upset. Truthfully, just like we can't decide WHEN people ge tmarried we can't decide WHERE.. Your wedding is first so people will go to yours first. I think I could see being upset if your wedding was after hers ya know? Definitely be flattered, shows you both have good taste! Also, you will be able to go to a wedding as a guest at WM which will def be different from your own day!