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mmordocco Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:10 PM+

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Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:10 PM

Is it rude to....

....Ask someone to be a bridesmaid after you asked all the other girls months earlier?

I have a friend that I would LOVE to be a bridesmaid. I didn't ask her sooner because I have only known her for like 2 or 3 yrs and I wasn't sure if she thought it would be weird... also, she is paying to put herself through college and I don't want to burden her with the expense...

...So we are going to lunch tomorrow and I am contemplating asking her. Should I? If so, what should I say about the delayed invitation?

RoandJoe Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:11 PM+

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Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:11 PM

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Do it!! What do you have to lose? In regards to the invite..I would be honest. She might be more understanding of your choices than you think!

mmordocco Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:12 PM+

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Posted: Jan 08, 2013 11:12 PM

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Thanks =)

Alyssa M Posted: Jan 09, 2013 07:18 AM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 07:18 AM

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If you want her in your bridal party then definitely ask her!!

brads girl Posted: Jan 09, 2013 08:51 AM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 08:51 AM

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Posted by RoandJoe

Do it!! What do you have to lose? In regards to the invite..I would be honest. She might be more understanding of your choices than you think!

I agree with this!!! Good luck! Let us know what she says!

LadyReeRee Posted: Jan 09, 2013 09:59 AM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 09:59 AM

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If you're unsure you could also ask her to do a reading or be your 'something blue' (like wear a blue dress. My friend did that for her college roomates wedding.

mmordocco Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:04 AM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:04 AM

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Ok, I am about to leave to go to lunch with her now!! I will let you all know how it goes! =)

Soon2BeMrsMango Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:39 AM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:39 AM

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I would do it. My FH was asked to be a groomsmen in my cousins wedding after the other groomsmen were. He was not offended & was really honored.

helena noelle Posted: Jan 09, 2013 05:31 PM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 05:31 PM

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I don't think it's rude at all - I'm sure she will be so flattered that it wouldn't even occur to her to think about when you asked the other girls.

I asked all but one of my girls, but I'm waiting a little bit to ask my last friend bc she is going through some family stuff right now and has a lot on her plate - don't want to overwhelm her! Good luck - hope it all went well!

mmordocco Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:12 PM+

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Posted: Jan 09, 2013 11:12 PM

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So I asked her by giving her a letter. She jumped up and screamed and hugged me!! She didn't care at all that it was a delayed invitation... she's thrilled =)

helena noelle Posted: Jan 10, 2013 02:11 AM+

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Posted: Jan 10, 2013 02:11 AM

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AWESOME!!

Glad you got such a nice response!

brads girl Posted: Jan 10, 2013 07:56 AM+

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Posted: Jan 10, 2013 07:56 AM

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Posted by mmordocco

So I asked her by giving her a letter. She jumped up and screamed and hugged me!! She didn't care at all that it was a delayed invitation... she's thrilled =)

That's great!! So happy for you!

Alyssa M Posted: Jan 10, 2013 08:26 AM+

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Posted: Jan 10, 2013 08:26 AM

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Posted by mmordocco

So I asked her by giving her a letter. She jumped up and screamed and hugged me!! She didn't care at all that it was a delayed invitation... she's thrilled =)

Yay! So happy for you!

ACarter Posted: Jan 10, 2013 09:43 AM+

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Posted: Jan 10, 2013 09:43 AM

Re: Is it rude to....

Posted by mmordocco

....Ask someone to be a bridesmaid after you asked all the other girls months earlier?

I have a friend that I would LOVE to be a bridesmaid. I didn't ask her sooner because I have only known her for like 2 or 3 yrs and I wasn't sure if she thought it would be weird... also, she is paying to put herself through college and I don't want to burden her with the expense...

...So we are going to lunch tomorrow and I am contemplating asking her. Should I? If so, what should I say about the delayed invitation?

Just say what you just said to us! Tell her 'I would LOVE for you to be a bridesmaid. I didn't ask sooner because I wasn't sure if you'd think it would be weird, and I don't want to burden you with the expense, but I would love for you to be a bridesmaid.'

RoandJoe Posted: Jan 10, 2013 10:26 AM+

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Posted: Jan 10, 2013 10:26 AM