Is it rude to have JUST my dad walk me down the aisle?
Original post by shanny200
I told my mom I wanted just my dad to walk me down the aisle and she freaked! My sister had both my parents walk her down, so that's why she's upset.
I just like the father-daughter idea, besides, the mom-dad-daughter down the aisle is a newer thing, ya know!? Father-daughter is tradition.
Uh, what to do?
MrsJuneB2B
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i have the opposite...i wanted them both and my mom freaked. i guess it all depends on what makes you and everyone happy, and less about tradition. do what you feel will make it special for you (and if you can, them
kirstenjk
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I had both my parents walk me down the aisle. They both had a hand in my upbringing and both deserved the honor of 'giving me away'.
DH was walked down the aisle by both of his parents as well. I felt bad that the parents of the groom usually get shafted during the wedding and wanted them to feel like a special part of the day.
BTW, We are not Jewish so this had nothing to do with religious tradition. We were married in a Catholic church.
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just having my dad!
Sandradv121
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My daddy is just walking me down. I want him to be just as surprised on my wedding day as FH. I think he'll feel more honored for the fact that he is the main man in my life giving me away to someone he knows and trust....
soontobemrsag
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Actually its the jewish tradition that has both parents. My father is deceased ;( and i am not asking my mother - i was going to ask my fiances 'dad' (hes like a dad to him his father is also deceased) but my grandfather wants to do it - hes like 90 - so i might do the both of them. Its really what you want to do and what will make your day the most special. Hope that helps !!
wo0shply
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I know that in Jewish tradition both parents walk the bride down but I usually see just the father walk the bride down.
shanny200
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Hogie2b, I am totally with you on the dad and grandpa walking me down the aisle idea, but my grandpa is also deceased.
Niether of us are Jewish, but in a lot of the weddings that my parents and I have attended (actually, all of the weddings I've ever been to), both parents have walked the bride down the isle -Jewish and non-Jewish.
I guess I will talk to my mom again when the wedding is closer and she is she's still upset...I will bring up the point of my dad saying that 'her mother and I' will be giving me away.
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In Jewish ceremonies it's both parents, Christian, usually just the dad.
Maybe you can have your mom walk part of the way? Or maybe your dad can walk you down the aisle and when you get to where your mom i sitting she can join you and 'give you away' with your dad.
Jna2010
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I've only seen father's walk down the aisle but i dont see the harm in your mother along side with you as well
TommysWife08
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my father isnt in my life so i had my mom and brother walk me down... i think whatever you want you should do... just dad or mom and dad... its your day!
and when you think 'this hasnt been done before' it HAS! so your not weird lol
Butterfly123
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I think the tradition is the father giving away his daughter. I had my father and step-father walk me down together. My mom didnt. I think your mother is being too sensitive!
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Posted by TommysWife08
my father isnt in my life so i had my mom and brother walk me down... i think whatever you want you should do... just dad or mom and dad... its your day!
and when you think 'this hasnt been done before' it HAS! so your not weird lol
That's exactly what I'm doing. Mom and brother.
laurenandmike618
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Nope not rude at all... I'm having just my dad. It's traditional. But it's definitely your personal preference.
GinaZ
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I think usually it is just the father who walks the bride down the aisle. I believe the only time it is both tradtionally is in Jewish weddings. But do what you want- its your wedding. You can always have her meet you guys at the asile and have both of them give you away.
Brendanzgirl
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I'm just having my Dad, my mom freaked out too, telling me she's been wanting to walk me down for my whole life (very dramatic). I told her that i love her and its not about that, its about what I envisioned, what I wanted and I want only my dad.
HTH Tricia
ckleinismine
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Im having both my parents do it
NYYankeeGirl72
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I am having them both walk me down the aisle. My parents are divorced and for the past 18 years I have been living with my mom, my dad lives in Puerto Rico. My mom has been there for me through thick and thin, so I want her to partake in walking me down the aisle.
KellyGirl 2010
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I am having only my dad ....
SoonToBMrsC
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Yeah, i've only seen dads walk their daughters down the isle. My dad is walking me down, but at the reception after the father-daughter dance I'm def. having a mother-daughter dance. Why don't you suggest that to your mom and see how she feels.
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I am having my mother and step-father walk me down the aisle bc it has been my mom and me since the beginning and my step-father is great and I consider him my father 100%
