Is it strange to not get a card from your BMs on your wedding day?
Kathy116
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Is it strange to not get a card from your BMs on your wedding day?
I told my BMs that it wasn't necessary to get us a gift becaue of all the $$$ they spent on hotel rooms and dresses.
However, I was surprised to see that I didn't get a single card (you know, typical congrats on your wedding day, etc).
I didn't expect any money, but I thought I would get a simple Hallmark card
I don't know, maybe they assumed 'no gifts are necessary' that it meant no cards either. A few of these girls are married, and engaged, so it's not like they don't know the drill.
Oh well...I was also a bit tacky because I called 3 of them this morning to ask if they did bring a card, because I was missing some...and they said they didn't bring a card. So, the catering hall didn't loose them.
Jen_n_Dale
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hmmmm that is weird. a card is still a nice sentiment. i would be upset.
JimmysBride
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I would be a little upset too..... but I already know not expect anything from my BMs... I guess you can excuse them because you did say no gifts.... hmmmm
kdelace
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i was a bridesmaid many time and even after I spent money on everything I gave a gift... it was my choice to participate in the bridal party and knew the financial responsibilities.. I just assumed everyone gave a gift..
CherylBooch
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You did say 'no gifts' so alot of people equate cards with gifts at weddings. I know I do.
bethsiar
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First of all, Congratulations!!!!
I would be upset, only because if I were in a wedding and the Bride said no gifts please, I would be so sad! How could I not get someone I am obviously close with nothing at all? So if she was really adamant about it, then at the very least I would get a card and a cutesy wedding gift. But that's just me, who knows how others think? thats one thing I can never figure out.
Sage10.03
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I think to not even give a card is tacky!!!
I don't think of a card as a gift....it's more of a 'sentiment' and I think they could have done at least that!
sorry Kathy!! I do agree with you totally! (and probably would have done the same thing...with the phone calls )
Donna
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First off, congrats on your wedding! Can't wait to see review and pics!
I don't agree that no gifts is the same as no cards - the gift is usually what's inside the card. I too would be hurt if my friends didn't at least give me a card. I'm sorry this happened to you and your DH.
palebride
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i'm a card person, so i would be upset also.....
Diane
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I think I would be ticked off too not to at least get a card. No I dont think a card is a gift at all. So that would have been nice at least.
MrsTC
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i didn't get any cards from mine....only the 'gift' cards...
franksbride
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I would be upset...definitely.
I know being in a bridal party is a huge expense...but, I would have at least given a card and a little gift...even if you did tell me NOT to give one.
