Is it Tit for Tat????

As I am going over the guest list, I am such a pyscho about this.

I am noticing that we have quite a few ppl, who are FH's friends from when he grew up.

We hardly talk to these people, if you count the occasional email. Come to think of it these ppl are already married w/kids and we were never invited to THEIR weddings or any special events that have happened in their or their children's lives.

I guess my question is are these ppl worthy of an invite? Are you guys inviting ppl whom are your so called friends who have not invited you to their wedding or any other special events in their lives.

As you can tell I am always looking for ways to trim my guest list.

Please give me your honest opinions, I will NOT get offended.

Thanks very much.

In my opinion I would not invite them. I'm with you on this one....

If communication with these people are through occasional e-mail and you NEVER get together otherwise... I do not think it is necessary to invite them.... JMO of course!

Thanks Oct.

I know the solution should be obvious, but my FH chooses now when $$$$ is definetely an issue to be sentimental- Oh we grew up together we had alot of fun times, etc etc.

Yeah yeah all dandy, but we or you do NOT socialize with these ppl anymore.

Well, what your FH said about it? Is he aware that it adds $$$ and that you were not too involved in these people's lives? May be you need to talk about that a bit. We are leaving a lot of people that we would like to invite, because we can't afford it. So we are inviting only the closest to us. JMO

We only invited people who are in our lives now and who have been.

We kept it close, its up to you.

I cut people off my list every single day...if you don't socialize with them then don't even worry about it...and there's always the b list

I actually used that as my cutoff especially when our parents were giving us their lists. I said that if they were not invited to their children's weddings, then there was no reason to invite them to mine. Same thing with our friends, unless we've started talking more in the past year. You have to draw the line somewhere. JMO.