Is it too late to ask someone to be a BM? (updated)

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 01:34 PM

Is it too late to ask someone to be a BM? (updated)

When FH and I first got enagaged, he wanted to ask his SIL to be part of the bridal party as one of my BM. I quickly dismissed it (in front of her no less-what a dork I can be) and moved on. Now we have her husband (FH's brother) and FH niece as our FG as well already.

She's been super helpful and is even helping me out this weekend with shoes and jewelry shopping- she is coming all the way from NJ to LI.

How can I ask her to be another BM for me without sounding stupid? Is it too late to ask her? I am not worried about her ordering a dress since David's Bridal takes about a month or two to come in.

TIA for the help,
Danielle

DavaDay Posted: Nov 23, 2007 01:38 PM

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Being asked to be a bridesmaid feels like an honor and a privilege. Whether you asked her the day you got engaged or the day before the wedding, it's a lovely gesture and she will only be happy to hear that you like her that much. Ask her!

BoxOfRocks Posted: Nov 23, 2007 02:26 PM

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Aw, that is sweet! Nope, not too late. Tell her you appreciate all her efforts and support and would be honored if she were your BM (in your own words). GL!

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Nov 23, 2007 02:41 PM

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No I don't think its too late. One of my cousins had to drop out of my BP and I asked FH's SIL to be my BM. I think its great and since she's been super involved anyway I'm sure she'll love the idea!!!

mariaobride Posted: Nov 23, 2007 02:44 PM

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I think it would be nice to ask her she will feel honored

LoveRocks Posted: Nov 23, 2007 02:44 PM

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I really don't think its too late and I'm sure she will be thrilled!

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 03:30 PM

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Thank you all for the support.. I am going to ask her this Sunday and I hope she does say yes.. I feel already bad for negating the idea in the first place I hope that she does say yes.

Trying to think of a creative way for me to ask now so that she definitley says yes.

katleigh3 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 03:36 PM

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I say go for it, Danielle. I did a similiar thing to one of my BM too. I had said I didn't think I was going to ask her in front of her...but then decided to and she was very happy.

Good luck Sunday. Let us know how it goes.

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 03:39 PM

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Definitley will update this thread to let you all know how it goes

:crosses fingers:

SAMORY Posted: Nov 23, 2007 03:58 PM

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Posted by DavaDay

Being asked to be a bridesmaid feels like an honor and a privilege. Whether you asked her the day you got engaged or the day before the wedding, it's a lovely gesture and she will only be happy to hear that you like her that much. Ask her!

I agree, but the person might feel that she is second choice. I think it depend on the person and you all relationship.

bella1028 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 04:15 PM

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whenever i have been asked to be a bm for someone i was so honored...it means that person is one of few special people to you...i would think most people feel this way...go for it...it is such a nice gesture

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Nov 23, 2007 04:19 PM

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It is def. not to late. It is never to late Fh just added another guy after already asking the others.. I think she deserves you to ash her since she is being so helpful to you .

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 06:32 PM

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You ladies always make me feel so much more confident in what I do wedding-wise.

I can't wait now for Sunday so I can ask her.

MsPotterhead Posted: Nov 23, 2007 06:34 PM

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I wouldn't worry about a creative way to ask her, just ask her honestly and sincerely, and I'm sure she'll be moved, and not feel at all slighted. You can mention how your relationship has grown,and how helpful she's been, and how you wished you asked sooner. I'd appreciate the honesty!

bemyyoko Posted: Nov 23, 2007 06:41 PM

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i think it's a great idea.
especially if the dress isn't an issue for you guys.
As long as you ask sincerely and everything, i think she'd be just as honored as if you'd asked her the day you got engaged.

JoesFutureWife Posted: Nov 23, 2007 07:56 PM

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I think she will be very flattered and it's a really nice gesture!

LauraD419 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 08:23 PM

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It's never too late, especially if getting a dress is not an issue. She will be thrilled since she is clearly already involved. ASK HER!!!

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Nov 24, 2007 10:21 AM

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Ok 24 hours to go .. lol

We're meeting up with her at 12 noon tomorrow.. going to go and hit a shoe place and jewelry and see how things go. Plan is I ask her when we're at dinner...lol.

SugaBeans Posted: Nov 24, 2007 10:30 AM

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i think its perfectly fine to ask her now. with all the help she has been giving you, im sure she will be more than willing to be a BM and very honored.