Is it wrong for me to be infuriated about this??
So, here's the deal:
My FH's brother is married to a total witch. She's very spoiled and obnoxious, and has to be the center of attention at all times. Everyone in my FH's family pretty much thinks she forced FH's brother to marry her because all of her friends were getting married. Their wedding was in 2003, and she still talks about it all the time as if it was yesterday. We'll be at family functions and someone will ask me a question about the wedding plans, and this is how the conversation will go:
Family member: 'Claire, have you decided on the flowers yet?'
ME: 'Yes, actually we've decided that we're going with...'
Evil FSIL rudely interrupting me: 'At MY wedding we had the most beautiful flowers ever...'
I've sort of learned to deal with that and ignore her as does the rest of the family.
Anyway, the latest in her LONG list of offensive behaviors is the worst yet.
Here's some background info:
She is currently working as a teacher full time and attending law school at night (she won't be done with law school until May 2007). FH's brother is a mutual fund manager, works ridiculous hours (leaves the house at 5AM and doesn't get home until 9 or 10PM, works holidays, weekends, etc.) and also has a debilitating back problem that causes him pain 24 hours a day. He can't walk up stairs, tie his shoes, or basically get comfortable in any position. He's on the waiting list to have surgery to correct the problem, but the surgery only has a 50% success rate, and he's not even sure when he'll be able to get a date for the surgery at this point.
When FH and I got engaged, she started talking about wanting to have a baby, but FH's brother told everyone that they absolutely weren't going to start trying until after she was out of law school. Needless to say, there is no way I would be actively trying to get pregnant if I was in school, working, and my husband was practically bedridden with no end in sight (everyone in the family pretty much shares this opinion). Well, she dropped it for a while and then started bringing it up again this fall. My FMIL and I were even joking around that she was going to try and steal the spotlight by announcing that she's pregnant at our wedding (FMIL joked she would announce it at the rehearsal dinner, I said I wouldn't put it past her to announce it while we're cutting the cake at the reception).
Anyway, they just announced that she's pregnant and is due....get this....9 DAYS AFTER OUR WEDDING!!!!!!! I know I should be happy because a baby is such a wonderful thing, but I am so angry! I feel like this was really deliberate timing. She even joked when they told us that she couldn't believe how lucky they were because they got pregnant on their first try and they had only had $ex once in the last three months because of FH's brother's back problems. Ok, so his back is so bad that he can't even have $ex with his wife, but you're trying to get pregnant? The really bizarre thing is that FH's brother didn't seem excited at all, and had this forced smile on his face the whole time. As soon as we were alone, the first thing that my FH said to me was, 'Was is just me or did it seem like my brother was totally weird? I don't think he knew they were 'trying.'
I hope I'm not being a selfish little bridezilla about this...I just had to vent. Am I wrong to be upset?
My FH's brother is married to a total witch. She's very spoiled and obnoxious, and has to be the center of attention at all times. Everyone in my FH's family pretty much thinks she forced FH's brother to marry her because all of her friends were getting married. Their wedding was in 2003, and she still talks about it all the time as if it was yesterday. We'll be at family functions and someone will ask me a question about the wedding plans, and this is how the conversation will go:
Family member: 'Claire, have you decided on the flowers yet?'
ME: 'Yes, actually we've decided that we're going with...'
Evil FSIL rudely interrupting me: 'At MY wedding we had the most beautiful flowers ever...'
I've sort of learned to deal with that and ignore her as does the rest of the family.
Anyway, the latest in her LONG list of offensive behaviors is the worst yet.
Here's some background info:
She is currently working as a teacher full time and attending law school at night (she won't be done with law school until May 2007). FH's brother is a mutual fund manager, works ridiculous hours (leaves the house at 5AM and doesn't get home until 9 or 10PM, works holidays, weekends, etc.) and also has a debilitating back problem that causes him pain 24 hours a day. He can't walk up stairs, tie his shoes, or basically get comfortable in any position. He's on the waiting list to have surgery to correct the problem, but the surgery only has a 50% success rate, and he's not even sure when he'll be able to get a date for the surgery at this point.
When FH and I got engaged, she started talking about wanting to have a baby, but FH's brother told everyone that they absolutely weren't going to start trying until after she was out of law school. Needless to say, there is no way I would be actively trying to get pregnant if I was in school, working, and my husband was practically bedridden with no end in sight (everyone in the family pretty much shares this opinion). Well, she dropped it for a while and then started bringing it up again this fall. My FMIL and I were even joking around that she was going to try and steal the spotlight by announcing that she's pregnant at our wedding (FMIL joked she would announce it at the rehearsal dinner, I said I wouldn't put it past her to announce it while we're cutting the cake at the reception).
Anyway, they just announced that she's pregnant and is due....get this....9 DAYS AFTER OUR WEDDING!!!!!!! I know I should be happy because a baby is such a wonderful thing, but I am so angry! I feel like this was really deliberate timing. She even joked when they told us that she couldn't believe how lucky they were because they got pregnant on their first try and they had only had $ex once in the last three months because of FH's brother's back problems. Ok, so his back is so bad that he can't even have $ex with his wife, but you're trying to get pregnant? The really bizarre thing is that FH's brother didn't seem excited at all, and had this forced smile on his face the whole time. As soon as we were alone, the first thing that my FH said to me was, 'Was is just me or did it seem like my brother was totally weird? I don't think he knew they were 'trying.'
I hope I'm not being a selfish little bridezilla about this...I just had to vent. Am I wrong to be upset?
