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Is it wrong to try to estimate...........

LMFitz Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:08 PM+

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:08 PM

Is it wrong to try to estimate...........

how much each guest will give as a gift? I know that my FI and I are overly generous, so I'm trying to plan a budget based on practical assumptions - and not the way we give gifts. How much is reasonable to expect that each guest might give (on average, per head) - if that's not too obnixious a question!

RedHead Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:10 PM+

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:10 PM

Re: Is it wrong to try to estimate...........

wrong no...waste of time..yes!
You will be surprised what people will give..good and bad so trying to predict what people will give is useless IMO

OSCARtheGROOM Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:37 PM+

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 10:37 PM

Re: Is it wrong to try to estimate...........

Posted by oct.2004bride

wrong no...waste of time..yes!
You will be surprised what people will give..good and bad so trying to predict what people will give is useless IMO

You hit it right on the nail!

marc_rai Posted: Oct 21, 2004 11:19 PM+

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Posted: Oct 21, 2004 11:19 PM

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Posted by oct.2004bride

wrong no...waste of time..yes!
You will be surprised what people will give..good and bad so trying to predict what people will give is useless IMO

ditto. this is what ii heard too.

2003OCT10 Posted: Oct 22, 2004 12:54 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 12:54 AM

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Aboslute waste of time... there were some people that completely blew our socks off.... and there were some that we wanted to blow their socks off... LOL... J/k... but it was bad...

DONT do it---- youll not only waste your time, but set yourself up for disappointment!!!!!!

june262004 Posted: Oct 22, 2004 01:18 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 01:18 AM

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Posted by 2003OCT10

Aboslute waste of time... there were some people that completely blew our socks off.... and there were some that we wanted to blow their socks off... LOL... J/k... but it was bad...

DONT do it---- youll not only waste your time, but set yourself up for disappointment!!!!!!

I hear ya. I had the same thing

JimmysBride Posted: Oct 22, 2004 01:51 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 01:51 AM

Re: Is it wrong to try to estimate...........

Posted by oct.2004bride

wrong no...waste of time..yes!
You will be surprised what people will give..good and bad so trying to predict what people will give is useless IMO

SO very true!! Don't even bother!

Darcy Posted: Oct 22, 2004 07:49 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 07:49 AM

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My father, of all people, is trying to so the same thing. drives me nuts. Only cause, well, its our guests. Because people are so different, you may just want to sit back and try to make things nice, but affordable. Sounds hard I know, but so far it is working for me.

kissy27 Posted: Oct 22, 2004 07:52 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 07:52 AM

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Waste of time...I agree with everyone...There are some people that are going to REALLY surprise you in both good & bad ways! Don't be too shocked when opening cards

Bride22BB Posted: Oct 22, 2004 08:22 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 08:22 AM

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That's so true, because the person you think that is going to give somethng very good, may surprise you and not meet your expectations, just don't take it too serious..that's all, because you set yourself up for disappointment.

David'sbride Posted: Oct 22, 2004 08:44 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 08:44 AM

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I absolutely agree. When it comes to engagement gifts my FH's homebound (adult onset polio) who doesn't have any money sent us a check for $50., his yuppie sister who has money coming out of her ears... nothing, a family friend who I haven't seen in almost ten years sent a gorgeous Waterford bowl.

It's the people who you expect to be generous won't be and some who have no money are the most generous.

We budgeted our wedding in expectation of no gifts... just how much we would want to spend as if we were getting nothing.

nicknmb Posted: Oct 22, 2004 10:09 AM+

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Posted: Oct 22, 2004 10:09 AM