is this mean

My wedding is still so long away but because my fiancee is overseas and has seen many terrible things he has been writing and calling and wanting to set our plans now. He has been exposed to how fragile life can be and just can't wait to start ours now. So, we have been making decisions.

I know this seems like a silly thing to worry about now but I wanted to get some feedback, when my parents walk in I want them to enter to 'simply the best' but his parents (who we both agree are far from the best, but thats another post ;) ) I want the song to be something different. Not something different, I don't know what yet but I want my parents recognizied as being 'simply the best' is that too rude and blatant to do to his parents?

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If you want to honor your parents with 'Simply the Best', you go ahead and do it. You can find another good song for his parents that I'm sure will not offend them. Good luck!

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IMO this is hurtful, mean, and could really embarrass your FILS. A wedding is really not the place to publicly declare who is the better set of parents. Whether or not they were the 'best' they gave life to your FH and if they are coming to the wedding they should be honored for that and not put down. As your FH has been exposed to how fragile life is, if something were to happen to his parents, this is a decision that you also might regret. Good or bad, they are going to be a part of your family now and that is really not the way to start it off.

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TY for the opinions, I guess I'll have to think it over some more because you both suggested something opposite. but I shouldn't worry too much, I guess the bigger issue is whether or not his parents will even show or if they show will they be on time for the big entrance anway, lol, maybe I won't even have to worry about the song

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Definitely take your time to think about this. If the relationship is that strained, I am sure that there will be even more difficult decisions than this to be made. This is only a song that is going to be played for 30 sec. of your day.

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TY Smiley, I know it seems so silly, I just obsess about silly details cause of the situation I guess. oh and being worried sick and an emtional basket case b/c of FH being overseas, yea that doesn't help me much either, well at least today is a laughing day and not a crying one;)

thanks for the input!

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I dont think it will be that big of a deal, although I dont know how sensitive his parents are...do what you wish...most people dont even pay attention or remember the songs people walked into!

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I think that b/c he is overseas and Im sure his parents whether or not they show it are hurt he is there and fearful so I dont think shunning them at the wedding will be good either. I would choose a song that compliments both parents and trust me a song is not going to make a difference on whether or not people know your parents are the best- Im sure its well known but for you to make a big deal about it may be a problem and you make look bad in front of your guest for doing something like that, Id be careful with this one- good luck.

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Aside from how you feel toward his parent..
The introductions are fast. For the DJ to play 5 second of simply the best, and then switch to a different song for your FIL's isn't too practical.
And would you have the BP come out to a different song?

I wouldn't do that if i were you. And i agree it is on the mean side

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Posted by girlygrl33

I think that b/c he is overseas and Im sure his parents whether or not they show it are hurt he is there and fearful so I dont think shunning them at the wedding will be good either.

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Um thanks for the opinions and I am thinking of what you said, but no his parents aren't hurt he is there. He's had a VERY hard life with them, believe me they are too selfish to care that he is there, they don't even write to him.

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Ok, I am saying this as someone who can't stand her FILs, and from someone who is marrying a man whose parents don't give two f-ing sh-ts about him....if they are as selfish as my FILs are, they won't even notice that you changed the song. If they are dense, which, they probably are, they just won't get it. I am struggling now because JT's parents have done ABSOLUTELY NOTHING for our wedding and aren't planning too, and they are already LYING to people and saying they are doing things for us that they are not really doing. So maybe just leave them out of the introductions period. I would love to do this at my wedding, but it would crush JT. Do what's in your heart. I know it's frustrating to have in-laws like this, TRUST ME!

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PRNCSS RACHEL

um, is lenny JT's brother??? LOL, not even joking that we are in the exact same boat. His parents are unbelievable.

Okay now remember he is overseas I call his mom

me: Mom Lenny is doing okay but seems very depressed.

HIS MOM: oh okay I don't think so he likes it there but anyway you don't have to call me to tell me how he is anymore okay?


then there is his dad

Me: (hysterical crying) I am so worried about him, there was so much bad information on the news today

HIS DAD: I'm not worried about him really, he's fine. I'm a little worried about you.

***! What planet do these people live on??? okay oyu don't want to know how your son is FINE believe me I won't be calling anymore. OH and the last time I checked nobody was trying to shoot me or throw mortars at me, so thanks but I'm okay.

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OMG! And I thought MY inlaws were bad! That's absolutely awful. I'm so sorry to hear that.
We'll have to swap stories because you would throw up at some of the things JT's parents have said and done to him and his sister.
Thank god for MY parents, that's all I can say!
Hang in there I'll kick some @ss if need be!

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LOL~~

OKAY FIRST WE'LL GET MY IN LAWS AND THEN I'LL HELP GET YOURS

HEY WE NEED A BOXING SMILEY FACE,

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Posted by lilqtny

LOL~~

OKAY FIRST WE'LL GET MY IN LAWS AND THEN I'LL HELP GET YOURS

HEY WE NEED A BOXING SMILEY FACE,

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Alright, it's a deal!