So, FH and I rarely fight but we cannot agree about something and hence we are fighting.. and so close to the wedding!
Basically he has been trying to sell his Bayside co-op since October and no one is biting. He has lowered the price a lot and can't go any lower. Now we are also going to add the option to rent. If it sells this summer.. we'll look into buying a house. If he rents it, we'll also rent an apartment in the meantime. (we need part of the $ from the sell of the co-op for a house down payment).
The problem is, if it DOESN'T sell/rent by the time I start a new school year (I teach in Shirley) I assumed we would rent an apt. on LI anyway while he's trying to get his place off his hands b/c the commute from Bayside to Shirley is crazy. Now all of a sudden (after talking to his friends) he tells me I should compromise and sacrifice and live there until he can sell/rent his place so we can save $$ and now throw it away on a rent while paying a mortgage. But the thing is, to get to my school in the a.m it would take around 80 min. The way back, I would hit traffic in Western LI, so it would probably take me 1 hour 40 min. or so. I am really not willing to spend so much time in my car- I know I'll be miserable. I told him I'd try it out for a few days in June and see how it is and if I can do it in Sept. if need be.. but I'm feeling very negative about it.. and he's starting to resent me for that.
What do you all think? Do you agree his request is unreasonable, or am I not being flexible enough?
TIA-
PS. Now I commute from PLainview so its about 45 min. and I already think THAT'S long!
irisheyezrsmilen
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Posted by Thar1127
I think you do what you have to do to save money and achieve the ultimate goal of owning a house. You can do anything for a few months. Make it work, hopefully the apartment will sell/rent soon
ITA yea its a long drive but it could be worse and its only temp. you do what you have to do if you want a house. look at bog picture first.
silyss
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Thank you so much everyone.. I have definitely put things in perspective and it will be worthwhile to save $$.
angelscri
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Well..... I guess I'm on the other side of the fence. Although it's a long commute, there are people who have much longer commutes... and to be honest.. you are lucky. Your commute would be the opposite of everyone who goes from the city to the island, which is a much better commute than going from the island to the city.
And.. paying a mortgage while renting? You don't know how long the coop will be on the market. It could be a long time. I've been looking at the same coops for sale in Bayside for a year... maybe 2 years. The market hasn't even bottomed out yet. They expect housing prices to drop even more.
If it were me, I would just suffer with the commute and save as much money as possible to try to save every penny.... especially because they just said this past week that they are cutting back on teaching jobs again.
Sorry to be a downer, but that's JMO and I don't mean to offend.
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jovigirl414
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Posted by Jmrosa1
I understand....you are saving some money in the long run..but not that much because people don't understand the cost of such a long commute in gas and your car.
I feel your pain...traffic I swear took years off of my life. You have to see how much it's really going to save in the end or not save. And decide from there
I agree! With gas at $4/gallon, how much money are you really saving with such a commute??
On the other hand, I also agree that paying a mortgage as well as paying rent could be a little much. This is a tough decision. I think staying there for a trial run is your best bet, this way you can calculate accurate expenses to see what the better decision will be. I hope it works out!
IrishAli
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But see how much that drive is going to cost with gas and wear and tear on your car
That is miserable....an incredibly long commute
Can you find an inexpensive apt on LI just for a year
I'm sure he will atbleast be able to rent his place, though
Pinkchick913
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I used to drive from W. Islip to Hempstead every day & that was an hour commute so I totally feel your pain on this one.
I don't think your being unreasonable, but hopefully he can find someone to buy/rent his place. My fh friend has been trying to sell his co-op in Sayville I believe and they can't find anyone.
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i read that you decided to save but...idk thats a REALLY long commute! almost an hour and a half there and 2 hours back...honestly thats ridiculous!!! i dont think i could do that!
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Ridiculous! Don't know who he's been talking to, but thats funny.... I understand wanting to save money, but if that was me, I'd wanna wake him up every saturday for the next month and take that drive from Bayside out there. Get all the way there, grab a coffee and turn back around... BC THATS EXACTLY what your life would be like. Maybe he needs to experience it to understand! Just my opinion. When you're less agitated maybe you can work something out.
