is this too harsh? for my bm - they havent gotten measured yet
gabbie83
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is this too harsh? for my bm - they havent gotten measured yet
My cuz wrote back. said shes sorry they slacked and they're getting it doen today. they promise :) YAY!!!!
I decided on Thanksgiving weekend what dresses I want and where they are... Here we are a month later and two of my cousins havent gotten measured yet. Every week its a diff excuse. I thought they were going to go this sat or sun but they didnt. the owner of the boutique is leaving for greece for 3 weeks this wedn & this needs to be done YESTERDAY. I am reeallllllly tired of calling and asking (politely), texting and emailing them,,, so this is what i wanted to write is this tooo harsh? let me know.
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yeah they better get their assess in there!!! some designers take about 4 months to come in...if you are going to a shop this can be the case! i just ordered mine saturday if i waited much longer they would all have to pay a rush charge witch is another $50!!!!!!!!!!!!!
send the letter. where r u getting the dresses?? did they tell you when to order them by?
i told my BMs i am gonna be bridezilla ablout the dresses....for my MOH weddign some of them picked the dreses up the day BEFOR THE WEDDING i am not dealing with that. they need time to get altered and stuff. I even told them if it wasnt done by the 15th they couldnt be in the wedding! lol hows that for bridezilla?
gabbie83
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yeah they better get their assess in there!!! some designers take about 4 months to come in...if you are going to a shop this can be the case! i just ordered mine saturday if i waited much longer they would all have to pay a rush charge witch is another $50!!!!!!!!!!!!!
send the letter. where r u getting the dresses?? did they tell you when to order them by?
well when i went there thanksgiving he said that he can guarantee by march 1. but this was 3 weeks ago. so now when my aunt went with my 2 other cuzins he said now its march 15. he called asking me where are the other girls. i told him this weekend. I am soooo mad. omg. im getting them in forest hills
gabbie83
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I even told them if it wasnt done by the 15th they couldnt be in the wedding! lol hows that for bridezilla?
yeah tahts what im about to do. oman i am sooooo mad right now
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is it a bridal shop? what designer? mine are alfred angelo...and the order goes in tomorrow probobly cause they are closed mondays....and they will be in mid april! id call and find out if i were you! good luck
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You should tell them that if they arent in by Wed they wont have dresses to wear b/c they wont be here in time You shoud be harsh since you've been asking to do this for a while.
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Personlly, I think it's a little harsh.... I would just ask them if they can't get measured, to send their regular clothing sizes and they will just have to deal (you can order them based off their sizes, they are just taking a chance that it won't fit). I would write:
Hi Girls,
I am going to be ordering my BM dresses by Wednesday, no exceptions. If I don't have your sizes, I can't order your dresses. Please let me know if you need any help getting measured or if it's a $$ thing, let me know that too and I can help. I appreciate you doing this for me... Thanks!
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That's just me though- I wouldn't give an attitude. Even though your wedding is the most important thing to YOU right now, it might not be to everyone else. Super annoying, I know but it is what it is....
Mici n KC
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Just ask them what's going on and enough with the excuses. Tell them this stuff needs to be done and stop putting it off. You wouldn't be doing this to them so tell them to knock it off!
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I dont think its harsh... Especially since you have been asking them over and over now... They are putting a hold on things for your wedding and chancing ruining your day... You need to be straight forward!
angl2001
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1 of my BMs said she wasnt gonna make it saturday and she will pay the rush charge...i told her if she had a rush charge everyone gets one cause they need to be in the same dye lot....maybe that will help a little! i def dont think you are being harsh. They accepted to be in your BP they have resposibilities they should be on top of them! i was on top of everything for my MOH wedding adn i wasnt her MOH !! lol man her BMs were hateing me for a while there lol
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Posted by minibride08
Personlly, I think it's a little harsh.... I would just ask them if they can't get measured, to send their regular clothing sizes and they will just have to deal (you can order them based off their sizes, they are just taking a chance that it won't fit). I would write:
Hi Girls,
I am going to be ordering my BM dresses by Wednesday, no exceptions. If I don't have your sizes, I can't order your dresses. Please let me know if you need any help getting measured or if it's a $$ thing, let me know that too and I can help. I appreciate you doing this for me... Thanks!
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That's just me though- I wouldn't give an attitude. Even though your wedding is the most important thing to YOU right now, it might not be to everyone else. Super annoying, I know but it is what it is....
ugh I know... Yeah I cant be that nice, (lol) I've been that nice for the past 3 weeks, sending reminder emails.
angl2001
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i also had 1 BM call with her size and she paid over the phone......they can do this but if the dresses need alot of altering its their problem! i had 3 of my BMS try on a dress similar to the one i picked at the shop 1 swore she was a 12 i was like um no!! and she said yes...well i had her try on a 20 in the similar dress and it fit.....same with the other girls they all tried on a similar dress cause there was no sample and they ended up ordering a different size than what they were measured............if they will let them pay on the phone than go for it as long as they get ordered! sorry to respond so much i just know what you are going thru right now with procastinating BMs lol! hope it all works out!
gabbie83
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This is also sooo annoying because I had friends I could have asked to be in my BP & they would have gotten this done a long time ago. I dont get it. I mean my one cuzin just got engaged 2 weeks ago so wouldnt she atleast try, since this is going to be flying her way soon?
dont get people.
minibride08
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Some people are just selfish... I would give them the opportunity one more time to send over and give them a FINAL deadline. If they miss it, ***** for them and then they either have to pay the rush $$ or not be in it at all. Or, maybe try to talk to the 2 cousins live on the phone and see what the hold up is....
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Posted by minibride08 Hi Girls, I am going to be ordering my BM dresses by Wednesday, no exceptions. If I don't have your sizes, I can't order your dresses. Please let me know if you need any help getting measured or if it's a $$ thing, let me know that too and I can help. I appreciate you doing this for me... Thanks!
I think that this is perfect~
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maybe say something like: the deadline for the measurements are past due and the shop called to let me know that you havent been in, i hope theres not a problem, if so let me know maybe i can help. it is really important to me that your in the wedding, but it is also important that these measurments are done in a timely matter with there deposits, please let me know something asap. i am looking forward to hearing from you.
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I had the same problem. I told my girl that they had to be in. That the other girls went and ordered there and it's not fair to them cause they went earlier to get it. I would just ask them flat out whats going on. Thats what I did with mine.
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Posted by minibride08
Personlly, I think it's a little harsh.... I would just ask them if they can't get measured, to send their regular clothing sizes and they will just have to deal (you can order them based off their sizes, they are just taking a chance that it won't fit). I would write:
Hi Girls,
I am going to be ordering my BM dresses by Wednesday, no exceptions. If I don't have your sizes, I can't order your dresses. Please let me know if you need any help getting measured or if it's a $$ thing, let me know that too and I can help. I appreciate you doing this for me... Thanks!
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That's just me though- I wouldn't give an attitude. Even though your wedding is the most important thing to YOU right now, it might not be to everyone else. Super annoying, I know but it is what it is....
I tend to agree. I think that it is a LITTLE harsh. The Holidays are a busy time, and while they should have it done by now, these are your friends / family. . .you don't want to come off with an attitude like that, even if you are justified in being upset! I'm sorry you are going through this, but I think they will respond better to something a little nicer. JMO (I don't blame you for being mad at ALL, I just know how easily girls tend to get offended!)
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i actually just finalized my BM dresses this past saturday. yesterday i sent them all an email with all the information and a deadline date of jan. 15th. i was very clear that the order is going in on the 15th, so any dresses not measured for will not be able to be in the wedding party.
i would do more along these lines.
Hey Girls,
The BM dresses are being ordered on XXXX. Unforunately if your measurements arent on file by this date they will not be able to order your dresses so that they are here in time for the wedding. I'd hate it if you weren't in the wedding party, so I hope you get by the deadline date.
Thanks
if they dont go, well, then they arent in the party. you have enough things to worry about and concentrate on without having to babysit your BMs.
gabbie83
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The deadline for the measurements are today. it is really important to me that you guys are in my wedding, but it is also important that these measurments are done in a timely matter. ( the shop closes at 8 tonight. ) I'm sure that this is an expense for you both & maybe you guys have second thoughts I dont know. Let me know, bc i dont know what to think. Gabs
