My fsil is driving me crazy. She got engaged right after I did and at first I helped her so much with her wedding. colors , flowers, halls everything. But she was really rude and most the time ungrateful about it. Then she picked her bridal party and did not ask me. I found this very rude. Since then her wedding is coming up and the only time she ever calls me or emails me is to ask me for favors... where did you get this, what are you paying for that etc. She has 'stolen' so many of my ideas already and she just dosent stop. every week its something.
Now I have had enough of her 'stealing' my ideas. I think thats bad enough but she dosent even say thank you or anything nice. She acts like I owe her telling her this stuff. So the last few things she has asked me about I have either ignored her email or changed the subject and one time I even lied about the price I payed for somehing knowing it was out of her budget and she wouldnt bother doing it.
I feel really bad but I am so sick of it and how ungrateful she is for my help.
Happily Ever After
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Oh and I practically planned her whole shower all by myself b/c she has useless good for nothing bridesmaids that havent helped her do 1 thing for this whole wedding. I have done everything for / with her and I still can't believe she snubbed me as a bridesmaid.
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wow shes out of line. how old is she? sounds very immature. i really think its rude of her to not include you in her bp then to ask you for all of those favors. id be fed up as well. i dont blame you for lying.
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Yep I dont blame you either. Sometimes, and its sad to say, we should really just sit back and say 'frig everyone else' and worry about ourselves. In some situations, thats just the best thing to do.
JanuaryBride06
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I would completely lie too. I'm sorry that she's been so ungrateful to you.
Happily Ever After
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Posted by Preshy7
wow shes out of line. how old is she? sounds very immature. i really think its rude of her to not include you in her bp then to ask you for all of those favors. id be fed up as well. i dont blame you for lying.
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wow shes out of line. how old is she? sounds very immature. i really think its rude of her to not include you in her bp then to ask you for all of those favors. id be fed up as well. i dont blame you for lying.
She is 30 years old!!!!
Do you know how I found out I wasn't in her bridal party???? I went over to visit my fmil one day ( my fsil still lives at home) and as I pulled in the driveway my fsil, fmil, and some future cousins were getting into their car to pull out. I asked them where they were going and they told me ' birdesmaid dress shopping' I was so embarassed and hurt I wanted to cry but I had to put on a happy face and tell them to have fun.
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Posted by Happily Ever After
Do you know how I found out I wasn't in her bridal party???? I went over to visit my fmil one day ( my fsil still lives at home) and as I pulled in the driveway my fsil, fmil, and some future cousins were getting into their car to pull out. I asked them where they were going and they told me ' birdesmaid dress shopping' I was so embarassed and hurt I wanted to cry but I had to put on a happy face and tell them to have fun.
OMG, how terrible! I'm so sorry!
cindyandkevin
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You're totally right, that's sooo rude of her to steal all your ideas!!! As far as not including you in the BP, she might have thought it would be too much $$ for you, but she should have at least asked and saw how you felt b4 just dismissing you. I'm so sorry!!!
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first off she is very rude and she shoulld be very grateful that you helped her at all and planned her shower for her. If that was me I wouldn't of planned the shower at all since it is pretty much the bridal parties job to do. Also I wouldn 't have given her any idea and llied about all prices jsut so she wouldn't steal any of my ideas cuz now if she is getting married before you people (well mainly her) will be like oh she got this idea from my wedding meanwhile it was your idea to begin with.
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I'm sorry that she is being a total Biatch...but I don't blame you for not giving her any more ideas...esp since she can't even say thank you...you are 100% right for not wanting to help her out anymore...some people have to learn that its a two way street...the giving and taking flow both ways down it...
Happily Ever After
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Thank you everyone for making me feel like I am not crazy
The best part is she is one of my bridesmaids. And she has done nothing to help me, is already giving my mom a hard time about my shower, complained about every dress I picked, the color etc.
She has done nothing but make my wedding planning harder on me while I have made planning for her so easy - just copy all my hard work!!!
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Sounds like this girl is totally out of control. I don't blame you for lying to her and to be honest, I would keep avoiding her calls and emails. Let her figure the rest out on her own. As for being a bm, IGNORE everything she says about the dress, color etc. you pick. If she hates what you pick GOOD!!! She deserves to be miserable!!!
