just went to lunch w/fh and got into a huge fight w/him. a friend invited me to her daughter's third bday party this sat... i told her i would go and asked if i could bring my goddaughter and her little brother (ages 5 and 3). i asked fh if he would come w/me to keep me company while the kids play and also bc i would be driving on the highway and honestly i'm scared... (i've never really taken the kids anywhere in a car). he flipped out, he got really mad and asked me why i volunteered him,k that his wknds are made for relaxing (bc his week consists of nothing but sitting on his a$$ at work), and that he did not want to watch other ppls' kids. i'm very hurt by all his comments bc he knows my goddaughter and her brother never do anything fun (their parents are pretty much like fh, huge, lazy couch potatoes). the first thing i said was how do you expect me to want to have kids w/you when you act this way? (ladies he really put up a fight , i was soo speechless). he said so many more nasty things, and then said he would go so that i dont complain...
i'm very upset.. what kind of father would he be? i know he doesnt like kids... i'm a little afraid of them too, and sometimes i wonder maybe we shouldnt have them...but now i'm really scared... what am i getting into?
flibbertigibbet
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i agree with haroula 100%
that 1. you probably just caught him in a bad mood or something.
and 2. you absolutely must must must talk this out. (not right now) but after the issue is over - just that you wnt to make sure you're both on the same page so you don't get married and find out that he doesn't want kids.
if bill told me today that he decided he didn't want kids... i'd walk away like THAT. but ... to me... having kids is not a negotiation. i was put on earth to have babies and be an awesome mom so to give that up would be like asking me to blow my brains out.
TraceySLP1
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if it makes u feel any better, my FH has NO interest in kids....
except his own.
He has a 20 year old son, and he is the most AMAZING father. It's one of the things that made me fall in love with him....
he's told me on numerous occasions, he's just not into kids, unless their his.
don't worry that ur FH isn't into kids......once he has his own, it's a whole different world!!!!
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**update**
thx for the support ladies. i talked to fh right away last night, he could def tell i was upset abt the whole situation...
he's upset that i volunteered him and that we are watching someone else's kids. i explained to him that the way he came about it was very hurtful and rude, and he apologized. he assured me that one day (we both dont know when) we will have kids.
idk why he's afraid of children...hopefully when we have our own, he will change.
GiannisWifey
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glad you had the talk........its important to be on the same level with these types of big issues.....I am happy it all worked out!!!!
Clover23
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glad you guys talked and it was productive. my FH is afraid of children but assures me it's because they're other people's, not his own. he's afraid to 'break' them. lol.
AngnShaun
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thats great that you were able to talk...
MisyMiss32
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Thank goodness!! I am very happy to hear you guys talked
dfw343
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my H is same way and he has two kids!!! MOST (not all) men are missing that gene...they can love theirs and do the things they have to..but they dont coo like most women. Like I helped with H's nephew and he didnt even want to pick him up!!!!!!!!!!!
