Is your final guest list 50/50?

Can you tell I am stressing over the guest list?

Just wondering if the guest list should be 50/50 split between both of our families. Here is my problem, my FH and I sat down when we got engaged and decided that we wanted something small and intimate (120 people the max) so when I wrote down my side of the guest list, I left people out that ordinarily I would have invited if we were having something larger. Well, now my fiance and his mom are adding on people that they forgot? It now seems like the guest list is totally uneven (more for his side). I can't add on anymore on my end because we have a max capacity of 180- but really are hoping for around 150 to be comfortable. Our guest list (and I think it is still growing on his end) is 210. What do I do now. I know it shouldn't be about the numbers but it is my wedding too and I would feel more comfortable if it were 50/50. Anyone else feel like this or am I just being sensitive?

I understand where you are coming from. You should talk to your FH about your concerns. If you are going to raise the total number of people invited and go beyond the 120 initally planned, you should work out a more equitable distribution of the # guests everyone can invite. It's not really fair that you left people off your list that you would like to invite and they keep adding on.

Our guest list was completly uneven, mostly b/c my family is very small while DH's is quite large. I didnt worry about that though - I would have had to invite my dry cleaner and hair stylist if I wanted to add more people

Good luck

Ours is not 50/50, but not for the reasons that yours is turning out to be (my family has very little money and many will not be able to afford to travel here and stay the weekend-so my shower with my family is a BBQ for men and women so we get to see them).

I would definitely talk to your FH. If you left people out that you'd like to invite, you should be able to do invite them if your guest list is growing. Also, who is paying? If you guys are, you should certainly both be able to invite the people important to ou (even if he has more $, since what's yours is his and vise versa). Same if your parents are.

Now, if his family is paying for it, you should express your concerns and desires and they should respect them. But, ultimately, if they are paying for it they can invite however many people they want.