Let me preface this by saying that FH has offered many times to help...and he did punch the maple leaf hole in all 150 of my invites.
With that being said...
Isn't is annoying that the bride does almost everything??
FH is going out on his boat tonight with his dad...he offered to stay and help me with the invites, but tonight I can only fix the spreadsheet (it's a mess) and that's a one-person job. I would like to sit around and relax, or go on the boat or something, but I can't. But I can't complain, because he did offer to help...and he can't help me anyway...
I field all the phone calls about the wedding. I respond to all the e-mails. I book everything. I have to remember everything. I have to buy everything (well, we are both paying, but I have to physically do it.)
I have done pretty much EVERYTHING, and I know most of you ladies have too. I do want to be in charge of this, which FH points out and I agree with. But it's still just so frustrating that I have to worry about everything! One day I would like to not worry about invites, or centerpieces, or addresses, and let someone else worry.
He will be stuffing invites with me and stamping them...but I have to be the one fixing spreadsheets and printing them and probably weighing them at the post office and mailing them.....taking time away from work to do so...
I love FH and he always offers, but everything inevitably falls really on my shoulders, and our shoulders, being the Bride. I hope people are impressed with the wedding, because it was a one-woman show.
Anyone else feel this way???
chris1082
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
I should also say that I don't *NEED* people to be impressed with my wedding! The day really is about FH and I and I hope that didn't come off wrong. I just meant that I pulled it all together
SoonToBeMrsFox
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
i hear ya, sista
i do EVERYTHING!
Bree71584
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
i feel the same way and its even worse bc my FH works on a boat in the gulf coast so even if i wanted his help he's not even in NY most of the time. plus when i give him a task he never negotiates with the vendor so he takes the first offer which just about kills the cheapskate in me. i know im better off doing it all myself which i would say 90% of the time i enjoy doing but every once in a while it would be nice if other people just took over worrying and planning. you know what would be awesome if our FH surprised us with something amazing on the honeymoon like kick *** spa treatments or something as a thank you for the last year and 1/2 of stress we willingly took on.
MrsMikeyT
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Omg I feel like you just read my mind... lol!
I wanted FH to do tuxes and limos... guess what 2 things we don't have yet!
It's so true, too, when you're paying for everything... I want to do everything myself b/c it's so much cheaper and FH is like, relax we don't have much left to do
Really buddy? I have to design / print / mail invites, get & make gifts for the bridal party, menus, programs, I'm doing my own friggin FLOWERS for pete's sake!
All in 94 days. With 2 weddings and a Christening and a side business thrown in the mix.
Wow, I need a drink all of a sudden! lol
toniann921
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
I know exactly what you mean!!!! At least your FH offers to help!!! lol.
If I ask FH to help with the wedding he gladly will... BUT with that said, he is a genius because every time I ask him to do something he somehow manages to do it wrong (makes a payment to the wrong vendor) or delays doing it for so long that I end up doing it anyway!! lol.
I think he does it on purpose. Gotta love 'em.
KrisBren2011
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
I totally agree!!!! I feel the same way. Even though I want to do most of it myself, I am the one worrying and planning EVERYTHING!!! I'm the one with all the stress from everything and from his family...and nothing phases him.
I'm at the point where I'm soooo done planning this wedding. I just want it to be here already!
futuremrstaheri
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
I feel the same way. I asked FH 4 months ago to go pick out his tux. With it being less than 2 months to the wedding, I DRAGGED him this weekend to pick it out. Then when it was over he goes 'oh, that wasn't that bad' SERIOUSLY!! I also have a feeling I will be doing all the thank you card writing...
leesah85
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox
i hear ya, sista
i do EVERYTHING!
same here
EVERYTHING
i even picked the tuxes
the only thing he has picked is the groomsmen gifts - he ordered them and had them engraved, but now they have to be wrapped
rosatemp
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
yep all the time for everything!!! its so annoying if it was up to him id get measured for his tux lol
toniann921
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by rosatemp
yep all the time for everything!!! its so annoying if it was up to him id get measured for his tux lol
LMAO!
FutureMRS.Benn
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
I hear ya girl!!! I did EVERYTHING and my DH never offered. Well he helped assemble the invites - which was nice. He was more concerned with working hard to pay for the wedding so I did not push too hard for his help.
He did make a speech at the wedding and thanked me and gave me all the credit. I got so teary eyed and forgot all about the planning in that moment.
Everyone will love your wedding. You have nothing to worry about. You have great taste - I should know!
chris1082
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Thanks girls! So good to know so many of you feel the same exact way!
Boooo FH's being stress-free
We better get something nice for all this work!
chris1082
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by FutureMRS.Benn
I hear ya girl!!! I did EVERYTHING and my DH never offered. Well he helped assemble the invites - which was nice. He was more concerned with working hard to pay for the wedding so I did not push too hard for his help.
He did make a speech at the wedding and thanked me and gave me all the credit. I got so teary eyed and forgot all about the planning in that moment.
Everyone will love your wedding. You have nothing to worry about. You have great taste - I should know!
Hahaha awww thank you! This made me laugh!
rosatemp
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by toniann921
Posted by rosatemp
yep all the time for everything!!! its so annoying if it was up to him id get measured for his tux lol
LMAO!
lol its so true thats the sad part...men
chilly313
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by rosatemp
yep all the time for everything!!! its so annoying if it was up to him id get measured for his tux lol
Too funny!!! And sadly, so true
rosatemp
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by chilly313
Posted by rosatemp
yep all the time for everything!!! its so annoying if it was up to him id get measured for his tux lol
Too funny!!! And sadly, so true
im glad im not the only 1 whose fh does this too
anszusterman
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
i literally had this conversation with FH yesterday, as we walked home (STUPID MTA). And I was like ' Are you not freaked out at all with all the stuff that needs to get done in 75 days?' and without even blinking, FH says 'Nah'. I am with you though- I need to be the one that is in control of it, and most of the stuff is a one-person job....but it sucks I am that one person.
FH did get brownie points on Friday. Our invites got delivered and he said 'They look really good! Thank you for all your hard work in designing these'...
itbroi805
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Yup I hear ya!!!!!!! Feel the saaaaame exact way.
SoonToBeMrsFox
Posted:
Member since
Re: Isn't it annoying?
Posted by leesah85
Posted by SoonToBeMrsFox
i hear ya, sista
i do EVERYTHING!
same here
EVERYTHING
i even picked the tuxes
the only thing he has picked is the groomsmen gifts - he ordered them and had them engraved, but now they have to be wrapped
