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Holly87 Posted: Aug 01, 2014 03:20 PM+

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Posted: Aug 01, 2014 03:20 PM

ISSUES:(

A good friend of mine has a behavior problem whenever she drinks alcohol, she has gotten into fights with other girls at bars disappears from groups of friends while we are all out together causing us to all search and babysit her....with no alcohol she is great! lol

long story short of how we met...I'm friends with her ex boyfriend who I knew first since high-school and we are still close, they had a horrible break up that lead to battles in court ect...but that was 3 years ago.

I already have him and his wife on the guest list but I am afraid to invite her because of how unpredictable she can be.

My friends say to invite her to the bachlorette party because she can get as nuts as she wants there lol and/or the brunch after the wedding so at least she can be involved with some things... but my fmil thinks that I should not invite her to anything if i'm not inviting her to the wedding :(

opinions?

Thanks!

Jsabbatino Posted: Aug 01, 2014 03:53 PM+

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Posted: Aug 01, 2014 03:53 PM

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I have to agree with your FMIL on this. If you are not planning on inviting her to the wedding - I do not think you should invite her to other things (shower, bach party,etc). I think it will lead to a very awkward situation once she realizes you are not inviting her to the wedding.

ang5774 Posted: Aug 01, 2014 05:27 PM+

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Posted: Aug 01, 2014 05:27 PM

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I agree all or nothing. If you want her there and she wants to be there have a heart to heart. Did your friend the X ask if she was going?

ndc923 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:49 AM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:49 AM

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I agree that if she won't be invited to the wedding she shouldn't be to the bachelorette either. Also - even though she can get drunk and go crazy, do you want to spend your night looking for her or getting into a fight because of her?

Kimberley2015 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:03 AM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:03 AM

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I agree with your FMIL. It's really all or nothing :/

Nicole0408 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:29 AM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:29 AM

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I agree with everyone that it should be all or nothing.

FBC81 Posted: Aug 02, 2014 12:32 PM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 12:32 PM

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I also agree that it has to be all or nothing. I would be afraid of her acting out even more if she knew she was intentionally not invited to the wedding.

gonnabefrank Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:51 PM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 07:51 PM

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I agree with the other ladies. Another thing to think about-you may be used to searching for this friend or calming her down when she gets too drunk at bars, but you definitely don't want to deal with that at your bachelorette party. I also don't think I'd want to invite someone to bachelorette that isn't invited to wedding.

sjquappe Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:24 PM+

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Posted: Aug 02, 2014 08:24 PM

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Totally agree, all or nothing.

Holly87 Posted: Aug 03, 2014 03:33 AM+

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Posted: Aug 03, 2014 03:33 AM

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Thanks girls! I was totally lost from getting mixed reviews by everyone! I'm going to talk to her though.

HRM2015 Posted: Aug 03, 2014 10:00 AM+

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Posted: Aug 03, 2014 10:00 AM

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If you do not invite her to the wedding, I would not invite her to the other events - it would make it seem like she isn't good enough to get an invite to the wedding.

MissMaster13 Posted: Aug 04, 2014 11:41 AM+

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Posted: Aug 04, 2014 11:41 AM

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Posted by Jsabbatino

I have to agree with your FMIL on this. If you are not planning on inviting her to the wedding - I do not think you should invite her to other things (shower, bach party,etc). I think it will lead to a very awkward situation once she realizes you are not inviting her to the wedding.

THIS

Chels Posted: Aug 04, 2014 04:57 PM+

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Posted: Aug 04, 2014 04:57 PM

Re: ISSUES:(

Posted by Jsabbatino

I have to agree with your FMIL on this. If you are not planning on inviting her to the wedding - I do not think you should invite her to other things (shower, bach party,etc). I think it will lead to a very awkward situation once she realizes you are not inviting her to the wedding.

this!