It is horrible to say

Deedlebug126 Posted: May 09, 2006 11:55 PM

It is horrible to say

but I hate my FMIL. She and I always gotten along very well, but tonight, she calls FH and asks him to put me on the phone, so I start talking to her, thinking it is wedding related, and she tells me, you need to either get a better job or start working more hours. I have no idea where that came from, FH hears me defending myself, and grabs the phone from me and is like ***! Mind you, she is not paying in anyway for this wedding.

Sorry I needed to vent

BellaEyes Posted: May 09, 2006 11:57 PM

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sorry to hear that she upset you. She sounds like she is intruding a little too much there. What did you tell her when she said what she said? Just wondering..

Deedlebug126 Posted: May 09, 2006 11:59 PM

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All I could say is 'are you kidding me? you have no idea where i work and how often I work' thats when FH took the phone away, he was pretty shocked that his mother did that.

BellaEyes Posted: May 10, 2006 12:03 AM

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Ugh.. what she said was out of line. First off.. where is she getting this incling from? You don't think that perhaps FH said something to his mom about money or something and now she is twisting it around and thinking you should be working more? Ugh... still it's NONE of her business. I would just let it go for now.. forget it.. Have FH handle it.. Did her say anything to her about what she said to you?

evnme Posted: May 10, 2006 12:05 AM

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Deedlebug126 Posted: May 10, 2006 12:09 AM

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At first I thought that FH must have said something, but after grilling him he swore up and down that he would never involve his parents. FH is a Nassau Cop, he works very weird hours, and he has two children, from a previous marriage that I have to care for when he is working. So I dont work as often as I would be able to if he didnt have children. but is this my fault? His parents have HUGE boundary issues. I have to say almost every fight we have had has been because of something his parents have said or done. Im just getting tired of it. FH isnt one to cause family issues, so basically all he said to his mother was he was very upset with her for saying that to me, and it did nothing but cause problems now. UGH

BKtoLI Posted: May 10, 2006 12:28 AM

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That's not his mother's place for her to say anything about your job.

I could understand if she has concerns about how you both will get along financially, as most parents always do, but she should bring that up to him, and NEVER to you.

Deedlebug126 Posted: May 10, 2006 12:31 AM

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That is what I said to FH. Sure my parents ask ME about our financial plans and such, but they would NEVER ask for me to put FH on the phone and do that to him. Then again, two weeks ago, his mother did bring up to FH that I should be signing a pre-nup and offered to bring him and pay for it.

msnora Posted: May 10, 2006 01:03 AM

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Posted by Deedlebug126

That is what I said to FH. Sure my parents ask ME about our financial plans and such, but they would NEVER ask for me to put FH on the phone and do that to him. Then again, two weeks ago, his mother did bring up to FH that I should be signing a pre-nup and offered to bring him and pay for it.

UHHHHHH that is so out of line first off that is between you and your FH if you even wanted to do somethng like that..... dag where does she get off !!!????

CLMon7906 Posted: May 10, 2006 06:54 AM

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what a mean thing to do.

SIBride06 Posted: May 10, 2006 08:13 AM

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Ignorance.. Thats all I can say.

ewickens Posted: May 10, 2006 08:15 AM

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She's being cruel!! She had no right to say that and you have every right to defend yourself to her and argue you with her. I'm glad that you FH stepped up and got in the middle, but he should do more too!!

Goldi1021 Posted: May 10, 2006 08:17 AM

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She sounds like one of those MIL's who feels that NO woman is good enough for her son. Tell her that you would be more than happy to accept an endowment if she is hell bent on keeping those apron strings in tact.

nygirl77 Posted: May 10, 2006 11:58 AM

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Wow - what a b!tch!

cindyandkevin Posted: May 10, 2006 12:03 PM

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Omg, that was completely out of line for her to say!!!!!! I'm so sorry, you shouldn't have to deal with that!!!!! Your financial situation is none of her business, I'm glad FH stepped in and did something tho!!

Kerrycec Posted: May 10, 2006 12:04 PM

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oh my god, I'm so sorry, that was totally un called for.

kmkelly Posted: May 10, 2006 12:06 PM

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She was so out of line, but if FH's parents have boundary issues, work on detaching?

chander618 Posted: May 10, 2006 12:11 PM

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Thats horrible

MissingTheBGene Posted: May 10, 2006 12:12 PM

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I would have flipped out too, it was none of her business and I can't even believe she had the nerve to say anything to you.

Deedlebug126 Posted: May 10, 2006 02:35 PM

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So she called today, and I didnt answer the call, she leaves a message saying 'I hope you arent going to ignore me' doesnt even say she is sorry or was out of line. So yes, I will be ignoring her!