It still bothers me... Sorry Long Vent

I know I have complained about this before, but... FMIL is really hurting me.

Here is some background for those of you who don't know. FH and I are getting hitched on January 22 2011. His Brother is getting married on 10/1/10. Although I wanted a summer wedding I was told we couldn't steal his thunder, and I didn't want to be engaged 2 years. Anyway, FSIL's shower is in JULY. FMIL has offered to pay for some of her shower. ( Mind you she also said that the bridal party should pay for a third of the shower. The bridal party is the MOH and ME, THE GIRL MARRYING HER OTHER SON 3MONTHS LATER AND PAYING FOR THE WEDDING MYSELF.

Anyway, when we booked FSIL's shower I told her that my shower was probably going to be in August. 1 month after FSIL. Has she offered to help my mom at all?????????? NO Has she offered to pay for anything???????? NO . She said that she was surprised that my shower would be in August because she thought it would be in November. That's great, lemme ask people for gifts right before the holidays.

I'm just so hurt that she is being so blatant about it. Obviously I know what she is contributing to FSIL's shower, I am one of 2 bridesmaids. Sorry this was so long, I just keep waiting for things to change and they never will. Just gotta get over it I guess.

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Posted by aquag12283

That really stinks what you are going through. Maybe try talking to your FH and asking him to talk to his mother about this. Thats what I did with my future in-laws. I made my FH talk to them. My parents are paying for most of my wedding and I told FH that his parents better be paying for the RD. So he talked to them this weekend and they said of course they would pay so maybe have FH talk to his parents about all this.

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I agree with this. Dont stress yourself about this, let FH take the reins on this!!

I'm with everyone else. Have FH talk to her. I'll have this problem with my own Mom. she'll want to complain about everything but wont throw me a shower or anything. I now her.

Try not to stress too much. I know it's hurtful, but in the end you dont need the aggravation.