Jewish Brides (or not), Need your help!

D's Girl Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:32 PM

Jewish Brides (or not), Need your help!

I am getting married on a Sat. night before sundown and just realized that no Rabbi that I have spoke to so far is going to be able to perform the ceremony.
I am obviously not the most religious person on the block, but would like to get married by a Rabbi if I can.

If anyone can recommend someone

Jaims0603 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:40 PM

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I am so happy with the Rabbi we found. He part of a Reform Temple in Nassau, and is marrying us on a Sat. night but he is traditional about other things. He does not want our rings to have diamonds during the ceremony and he wants us to have a Reform Ketubah. I'm not sure if he does interfaith. FM me if you want info!

Blu-ize Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:43 PM

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Can't move up the ceremony? How about having the cocktail hr first. I'm not sure you are going to get any rabbi to marry you before sundown.

pigs222seal Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:47 PM

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How about a cantor...that is who is marrying us.

R&J0806 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:50 PM

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unfortunately i don't think any rabbi will marry you before sundown. i also suggest you review the less-known holidays.

I originally had booked my wedding on a holiday that i didn't even know about, and had to change it! Oops!

FallBride05 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:52 PM

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Posted by Blu-ize

Can't move up the ceremony? How about having the cocktail hr first. I'm not sure you are going to get any rabbi to marry you before sundown.

Reform or not, I have to agree.

lrs2005 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:53 PM

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If I were you, I would move the cocktail hour to the hour before your ceremony, then do the ceremony and then have the reception. I don't know any rabbi that will perform a jewish wedding unless it is 30 minutes after sundown for the sabbath. sorry.

D's Girl Posted: Feb 01, 2006 03:57 PM

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Thank you all so much.
Hopefully I will come up with a solution

BelMal Posted: Feb 01, 2006 04:08 PM

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Good advice about checking the calendar for lesser holidays. I almost made the mistake of booking my wedding on Sukkot. Luckily FMIL caught it and emailed me a copy of this years holiday calendar.

FallBride05 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 04:12 PM

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Posted by BelMal

Good advice about checking the calendar for lesser holidays. I almost made the mistake of booking my wedding on Sukkot. Luckily FMIL caught it and emailed me a copy of this years holiday calendar.

Yes, you have to be careful especially in the fall when the bulk of Jewish holidays fall out. We got married in November, and I realized in October that I may have a hard time ordering yarmulkes and such because most places were closed for the holidays. It didn't help that they all fell out during the week in 2005 either!

BHW Posted: Feb 01, 2006 04:25 PM

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ShortBride Posted: Feb 01, 2006 04:34 PM

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You have FM

D's Girl Posted: Feb 01, 2006 04:59 PM

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You guys are the best
Can always count on all of you :)

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Feb 01, 2006 05:02 PM

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my sister got married by a VERY reformed Rabbi and even he refused to marry them before sunset on Shabbat. since they got married in June, it was late!

evnme Posted: Feb 01, 2006 06:24 PM

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not every reform rabbi is a stickler for the sundown- 3 stars in the sky to indicate shabbat is over -rule.
what time is your ceremony? how much before sundown?
usually, we (i'm a cantor) start sat. nite ceremonies around 7:30-8 depending on the time of year.

liwinebride Posted: Feb 01, 2006 06:30 PM

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I highly recommend Cantor Harris Cohen. He did a great job at our wedding.

D's Girl Posted: Feb 01, 2006 10:19 PM

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My ceremony starts at 7:00. May I believe sundown is closer to 8:00.

evnme Posted: Feb 01, 2006 10:20 PM

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Posted by D's Girl

My ceremony starts at 7:00. May I believe sundown is closer to 8:00.

that should be ok w/ most reform clergy.

ssdbk Posted: Feb 01, 2006 11:27 PM

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My friend is getting married on a Saturday afternoon and having the Interfaith Union. It's a rabbi and cantor that work together. Mayber you can call about their rabbi.

My rabbi would not even start to travel to our wedding until after sundown. So, I even had to factor in his travel time before I could figure out when to start the wedding. it worked out fine!

Goldi1021 Posted: Feb 01, 2006 11:31 PM

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This may rub people the wrong way but one of the Ten Commandments is to Remember the Sabbath and Keep it Holy. I personally could not and would not get married until the sun went down. I am not Shomer Shabbos but I just couldnt do it.