I am terrified of the chair and the height and all an I dont want to be embarrassed if they cant pick me up (not likely but it's a fear I have)
This causes me anxiety just thinking about it.
We are still doing the horah, just no chairs.
FHs cousin did this at her wedding and FILs said- oh no- you have to do the chair.
BUT I really dont wat to do it and I'm stressing about it.
FH doesnt care he says we dont have to if I dont want to.
Anyone not doing it?
I know its tradition and all but we are doign every other tradition and still doing the horah and FILS can go in the chair if they want.
TIA
ChristineAaron08
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thanks ladies- i feel better about it now- i feel like its ok to tell them no chairs and stad my ground
SB7308
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Posted by ChristineAaron08
thanks ladies- i feel better about it now- i feel like its ok to tell them no chairs and stad my ground
Exactly, you are the BRIDE!! They have to listen to you!!
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I think you do not have to do it! Is it a Religious act... or a celebratory act? If it is the celebration part,,, celebrate a diffrent way!
i dont mind the dancing in a circle hava nagila stuff but its just the chairs i want to cut out. They really cant complain if its a fear of mine right
Who cares if they complain!!!! It is FH and your day!
when i said no, someone saud- 'oh dont worry- you will be fine' like tough shiit- you are doig it.
I think i will have FH tell them NO and dont try it.
My man has my back
People kill me...why would anyone care if you do it or not?
bluegreen08
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It's your day, don't do it if you don't want to!!
Our hall has a special chair with arm rests and little handle things to hold onto during the horah which makes me feel better about it -- I'm afraid to fall out! I think a lot of halls have these chairs. We also did it at my bat mitzvah and it made for some hilarious pictures.
