JUST BALH

Does anyone ever feel like so much is going on right now that ur just not in the wedding planning mood??

For me, work has been so bad, i have been getting stuck here late and doing the work of 2-3 people since Ihave to fire my help that ive been going nuts. I have a pounding headache on a daily basis. Honeslty this week has been thr worst. I know that I am defentley overworked and undepayed but thats not even the point, its just so much stress, and everyone ecpects miricals of me..
Then I feel like our family members are kinda 'whatever' about our wedding since it is still so far away so other than my Fh and you girls I can't really share my excitment with anyone and that inda annoys me too...

I dunno Im just balh.. and I had to vent. Im sorry!
thanks for listening.

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I know the feeling. I think its a lot of pressure trying to juggle everything. Plus, I think this wedding planning thing can get carried away. Take some time for yourself. I love to light some candles and relax in a hot bath - afterwards just relax in bed/on a couch and close my eyes or read a book and just do whatever makes me happy. Clearing your mind is sometimes the best thing to do. Also we have plenty of time to plan so keep that in perspective

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

Does anyone ever feel like so much is going on right now that ur just not in the wedding planning mood??

For me, work has been so bad, i have been getting stuck here late and doing the work of 2-3 people since Ihave to fire my help that ive been going nuts. I have a pounding headache on a daily basis. Honeslty this week has been thr worst. I know that I am defentley overworked and undepayed but thats not even the point, its just so much stress, and everyone ecpects miricals of me..
Then I feel like our family members are kinda 'whatever' about our wedding since it is still so far away so other than my Fh and you girls I can't really share my excitment with anyone and that inda annoys me too...

I dunno Im just balh.. and I had to vent. Im sorry!
thanks for listening.

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Hugs for my Penny!

I know EXACTLY what you are going through - to a T. But I'm sure after talking yesterday you might have seen it. I actually had a conversation about feeling so BLAH last night with FH. My family still doesn't understand why you have to book things early...so I hear about that all the time - and it's like they just can't be bothered....

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I'm sorry to hear that you are so stressed Penny! I totally hear you on that though for different reasons...most of which you know...but like you said, just keep smiling and realize that this time will FLY by and before you know it your wedding will be here! Right now it is important to just enjoy being a future bride and cherish all of the time you have with FH....keep your head up girl! Things always get down for everyone but it will soon pick up...and don't let your fam get you down...I get the same crap (it's too early to do anything, why are you worrying about it now, etc. etc.) It's your wedding, you do what makes you happy when you want to!! Hope you are feeling somewhat better!!

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Yes, its totally normal to get blah!!! Maybe you need a weekend getaway!!!!

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Posted by Lola0703

Yes, its totally normal to get blah!!! Maybe you need a weekend getaway!!!!

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I totally agree!! After me and FH went away for those 4 days - it was so great!! Upstate to visit my sister is next! (Unlike family here - she's really into all the planning!)

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Yeah I know the feeling. I haven't done anything wedding related (besides read these boards) in a couple of weeks. We are currently in the middle of shopping around for a photographer and need to get back on that. FH has been busy with work and school and now he is in Miami for the week so hopefully when he gets back we can start up with that again. I kinda just want to relax too. It was like every free day that FH had (which are very few) we would be going to some appointment. But you and I are date twins and we have plenty of time. Take some time for yourself. Everything will eventually get done. (I hope! )

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Posted by ZuzusPetals

I know the feeling. I think its a lot of pressure trying to juggle everything. Plus, I think this wedding planning thing can get carried away. Take some time for yourself. I love to light some candles and relax in a hot bath - afterwards just relax in bed/on a couch and close my eyes or read a book and just do whatever makes me happy. Clearing your mind is sometimes the best thing to do. Also we have plenty of time to plan so keep that in perspective

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this is exactly what I do and it so helps!!

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First off..

I know the feeling! Right around the holidays I got like this. Didn't want to plan anything! But don't worry it is normal to feel blah sometimes - especially during stress times. LIke the other girls said - take some time for yourself or plan a get away. It will help!!

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aaww, take a break and go away for the weekend! feel better!

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I feel exactly the same way...I thought I was the only one with the 'blah' feeling. I think it all gets a little overwhelming. Sometimes you have to take a step back and doing something completely selfish!!!

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you are so not alone with that!i went through that for the past 2-3 months, now im starting to feel better and focus on the wedding...i also quit my job b/c i was so stressed and tired so that may be what helped too, try to make more time to hang out with FH and relax, you cant stress so much or work so hard, your gonna burn out....and i know what you mean about family, my family didnt really seem interested much b/c they were like oh you got plenty of time, now im almost at my year mark, so they are getting more involved. itll get better

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oh yea I hear ya. I know I still have so much to do and I keep pushing some of it off. and there are days when I don't even want to hear about wedding stuff

except here!!

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I totally understand what your saying. Take a day or two off to relax, maybe do something fun this weekend to stop thinking about work and concentrate on happy things like UR GETTING MARRIED

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Posted by lilqtpie2181

Does anyone ever feel like so much is going on right now that ur just not in the wedding planning mood??

For me, work has been so bad, i have been getting stuck here late and doing the work of 2-3 people since Ihave to fire my help that ive been going nuts. I have a pounding headache on a daily basis. Honeslty this week has been thr worst. I know that I am defentley overworked and undepayed but thats not even the point, its just so much stress, and everyone ecpects miricals of me..
Then I feel like our family members are kinda 'whatever' about our wedding since it is still so far away so other than my Fh and you girls I can't really share my excitment with anyone and that inda annoys me too...

I dunno Im just balh.. and I had to vent. Im sorry!
thanks for listening.

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i feel the same way this week at work, it blows

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I know how you feel-havent been in the mood to do really anything, no motivation on my end...FH literally has to drag my @$$ out in order for me to do anything

Cheer up it i will get better

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I cant definentely relate.... I have been working crazy hours. I have not been on LI weddings in so long. I miss you guys and all the great ideas too!!! I have not planned or met with anyone in the past 3 months ... Blah...

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OH I KNOW THE FEELING...TRUST ME....THINGS HAVE BEEN HECTIC AT WORK TOO......SO MUCH TO DO AND SO LITTLE TIME

I JUST GOT INTO A FIGHT WITH MY MOM ABOUT HOTEL BOOKING SINCE THAT IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN WORKING ON NEXT. MY MOTHER SEEMS TO THINK THAT MY WEDDING IS JUST SO FAR IN ADVANCE THAT I SHOULDNT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT IT NOW....

BUT HERE IS THE KICKER, BOOKING/BLOCKING HOTEL ROOMS IS LIKE BUYING AN AIRLINE TICKET....THE CLOSER YOU GET TO THE DATE...THE HIGHER THE PRICE...I WAS TRYING TO EXPLAIN THAT TO MY MOM BUT SHE JUST WOULDNT HEAR IT....

AS FOR YOU...AT LEAST YOUR FH IS INVOLVED..MINE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE PLANNING WHICH IS GOOD AND BAD IN SOME WAYS.....ARRRGH

BUT I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU AND WHAT KEEPS ME GOING IS THAT ALL THE GIRLS HERE JUST LIKE YOU KEEP ME HAPPY AND SANE....

I WENT TO A PARTY THE OTHER NIGHT AND MY ONE FRIEND WHO IS GETTING MARRIED THIS SEPT WAS ASKING ME WHAT I HAD DONE ALREADY AND WHEN I TOLD THEM...THEY WERE LIKE...YOUR WEDDING IS SO FAR AWAY....WHY ARE YOU MOVING AT SUCH A FAST PACE....IT JUST KILLS ME THAT PEOPLE WOULD MAKE A COMMENT LIKE THAT....

I MEAN...ITS ONE THING IF MY FRIEND MOVES AT A SLOWER PACE THAN I. SHE STILL NEEDS TO GET A PHOTOGRAPHER, HER DRESS ALTERED, FLOWERS, INVITED AND OUR BM DRESSES ETC ETC AND HER WEDDING IS THIS SEPT....I DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN TO ME...AND PESONALLY I LIKE WEDDING PLANNING AND SO WHAT IF I LIKE DOING IT NOW!! GEEZ

OK SORRY TO VENT ON YOUR VENTING TOPIC....BUT WHAT I WANTED TO SAY IS....WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT AT ONE POINT OR ANOTHER....SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!!

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i feel like wedding planning is the least of my stress right now!!! yet i still manage to spend hours on the comp,,,,,,i guess thats my prob!

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Hey girls.
Thanks for the support. I guess I've been feeling so much pressure for differnt reasons.
I know that when i leve work at the end of the day I DONT leave it there. It follows me home. Since I still live at home many time they bring up work convos here and mostof the time I walk out of the room but it drives me nuts.... there is inly so much one person can take. I have to hera bout it all day long, on the ride home ( sometimes 2 hours depending on the traffic) and then when i get here I cant just relax. I dont vent anymore cuz everyone just thinks Im a bi*ch.
I haven't been on vacation ( not even a weekend getaway) in over 3 years and everyt ime i try to plan something it falls through because everyone else has priority. I let them walk all over me and although i have been cutting back on that i think it finally caught up to me. I have had enough. I am one person doing EVERYTHING!!!!!! Book-keeping, invoicing, orders, custome orders, customer service, customer dilemas, banking... they just dont seem to understand that I am 1 person. SOMETIMES IT ***** TO BE THE BOSs!!!!!!!!!!!
Then i don't expect anyone to join me in my parade but at least show some interest every now and then. I talked to my FH about how I havebeen feeling and I told him that i don't want to sound selfish but what it kinda *****. someone else's drama or happiness is always overtaking ours. Like my bor and his wife are having a baby and I couldnt be happier and his bro and his wife are having thier second baby now and again i am happy for them but it seems like noone is happy for me. Why are we alwyas the one going out of our way to be happy or to share if someone else enthusiasm and we dotn get an of that in return. I know our wedding is 18 months away but I guess I am venting beyong the wedding too. My Fh told me that he thinks we get this kind of treatment because even though we are the youngest...we are the more capable ones and everyone just feels like we dont need the extra attention cuz they know we can hold our own. And although this is all true, i guess Im tired of being the only one who shows care and concern about others and never getting much in return.



IM soooooo sorry girls. I guess Ijust need to vent some more.