just called off my bachelorette party - STRESS!

Tthink it's abad idea? I am sooo THRU with these girls - they all can't stand each other and we were supposed to go to Ocean City for the weekend starting fri morning but all i have been hearing are gripes. All my friends are very separate from one another and they really dont click well at all so after countless arguments about who cant stand who, I decided that its just not worth it afterall. Besides the fact that they booked LAST MINUTE which would mean 6 girls in one room. What do I do???? I just can't take it anymore! And my FI is going to New Orleans with his buds this weekend and he is going to have a blast. What do I do? Why can't my friends just put their differences aside and suck it up? I am so jealous of my FI bc his friends are gonna make sure he has a great time while I sit at home and sulk all weekend long.

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I am so sorry you are going throuth this! I have been in that situation before and it is very unpleasant. Shame on your friends for not being able to put aside their differences for your bachelorette party weekend! If you still want to go, I live in MD and would be happy to meet you at Ocean City this weekend - gripe free

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do any of them get along with each other?....maybe you could do smaller things w/each of them during the weekend--i know it won;t be the same but at least you'll get to spend some time w/ them........and yes i do feel that they should suck it up for the weekend out of respect for you!:) good luck!

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i know - it's sooo upsetting! the thng is it was kinda ok because they come in 'pairs!' but now that one person can't go, then one other person is going to feel extremely uncomfortable and i wouldnt do that to anyone. i just can take it. i just called the hotel and cancelled our trip.. i am thru! thanks girls

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i am so sorry this happened, but ya know what - you reach the point when you think 'enough is enough and i have freaking had it'. I totally understand. Feel better.

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So sorry you have to deal with this stress. We have all felt this at one point or another.

But since the Ocean City thing does sound like it took some effort to plan - maybe your bridesmaids ARE trying but just not suceeding. Also, you may feel like cancelling your bachelorette party cheated you out of a right of passage.

Maybe you can work it out before its not too late?

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Tell the girls while they are ALL together 'I am sick of the BS between you all. You are my bridesmaids and I would really love it if we could have a nice weekend together'
Honestly I would just do something with my best friend, the person who supports me and never causes me stress.

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oh trust me how i would love to.. i just cant take it any more and just told them to work it out amongst themsleves. if they want to do something nice for me, i am all for it, but they better know how to act. i am losing it...of all things that i have to worry about right now! i am only getting marrie din two 1/2 weeks and they gve me this to deal with? GROW UP! i swear - just wait til it's THEIR turn! hahahahaha

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You have to be honest with these girls. Tell them how it is! It's a shame they have to act this way. You don't deserve this at all and I am sorry you are going through this.

Maybe you can arrange a day of beauty for yourself then. Go to a spa and get pampered or go shopping!

Or, try to get a couple of your friends together and just hang out. Nothing wrong with dinner and a movie...or a blockbuster night!

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thanks girls - it all so crazy these days but thanks for letting me vent!

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I'm going to sulk a bit too, and maybe this will make you feel better. I had no bachelorette party. I had no mention of a bachelorette party from any of my friends. I guess it just never occured to anyone involved, and I certainly wasn't going to ask for it. *pout* I don't mean to undermine your situation, but at least these people all seem to want to do something with *you* just not with each other! Best of luck to you in your last minute planning. *HUGS*

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Valenia - that's terrible! You should TELL them that they HAVE to do somehting for you. Throw the guilt on them and I am sure you'll be just fine. You deserve it esp after all the hard work and effort you out into a wedding. You have to!!! Seriously - I had told them from the start - this is what I wanna do and this is where I wanna be. Who knows - maybe if I hadn't, they wouldn't have thrown one for me either. But frigg that - DEMAN IT! I hope all is well and you TELL THOSE GIRLS like I did yesterday! It's actually back on, but not before a grueling fight with every single on eof them. I spent yesterday heer at work sobbing at my desk because I think they are all so petty and selfish and I can't stand it. It truly shows you who your REAL friends are - and it is unfortunate that I had to learn of this thru my wedding planning. Keep you head up and like I said - YOU TELL THEM how it is going to be! Let me know! :)

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Lauren you are such a sweetie, and I'm glad to hear yours is still on. Unfortunately, my wedding was in June, so its too late for me. The only time it really bugged me is when my DH was away with his pals for the weekend at his bachelor party, and I couldn't even find someone to go with me to dinner. To their credit, they are split among Boston and New York so it would have been hard to pull off. Oh well. I think I need some new girlfriends. LOL

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Lauren, I hear you, I had nothing but bickering and immaturity between my wedding party. Between my shower and my bachelorette party, all I heard were complaints about each other. However they ended up pulling both of those events together very well in the end...
Perhaps your 'girls' could do that too. I would hate to see you miss out on this weekend...do you think that talking to them would help? What about going with just your closest friend??

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Valenia - yeah, that could be a tough situation, but still. They could have had a small little somehting for you - even if it was just for dinner. I get so aggravated when I hear things like this. 'Just wait!!' is what I think to myself but I know better than that and just would never do that to someone! I wish I could be so evil sometimes!
JennK - My closest friend (which SHOULD BE THE MOH) who I hadn't heard a PEEP out of during everythng (my saving grace!) in starting in a new school - Nursing School. This is her life and I completely understand that she has to do what she has to do so unfortunately won't be able to come to Ocean City. the trip is back on, but I just want to see how catty these girls are going to be. It's really unfortunate.. I told them that I will make SURE i have a good time even if tha tmeans making NEW friends while I am down there! Oh and I MEAN IT!
Thanks for all your help and listening. Jenn - it makes me feel better knowing that someoen else went thru the same thing. Oh yes, and they pulled this about the shower too. It;s really sad.