Just had a big blowout with

Nrauch8191 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 12:13 AM

Just had a big blowout with

FH. as a lot of you know my BIL and SIL split up. BIL is FH's brother and SIL is a very very good friend of mine. Both of them were in the BP including my niece/goddaughter. BIL is wrong about everything he did and he whole family knows it but they say we are blood so we need to astick together. i asked both of them if they still wanted to be in it. They both said YES and didn't mind since their daughter was going to be a FG. All of a sudden BIL doesn't want her in the party anymore. I received a text tonight from FH stating SIL is Out of the wedding. So I ask now what happened and he says NOONE wants her in it besides you because she has you brainwashed and you are so far up her ***. Excuse me, she was my friend. i introduced them.... We are very close.....

I am so mad and upset he would ever say that to me...........

I am at the point I dont want either of them at the wedding...

FDNYwife1029 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:21 AM

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sorry you are dealing with this. i have a similar situation but no one will tell me who is in my BP! my BIL & SIL broke up a few years ago & have both since moved on but they are still technically married. luckily my bil has no issues with her being in it. Even if he did, it's not about him - It's me & fh's day. They need to act like adults!

rosatemp Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:23 AM

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Posted by FDNYwife1029

sorry you are dealing with this. i have a similar situation but no one will tell me who is in my BP! my BIL & SIL broke up a few years ago & have both since moved on but they are still technically married. luckily my bil has no issues with her being in it. Even if he did, it's not about him - It's me & fh's day. They need to act like adults!

I have to agree...its your day tell him to grow up and get over it since he is the reason they are no longer together

FDNYwife1029 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:31 AM

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OH and whatever you do - I know it's hard. try not to fight with FH over other peoples drama. easier said then done. but go take a walk or something if you guys get heated over it. it's not worth it!

KrisBren2011 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:34 AM

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I'm soooo sorry!!! But I agree with everyone else...these 2 need to be adults and suck it up for you guys for one day!! I would sit down with FH and calmly talk to him about it. Good luck!

ColliMac23 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:44 AM

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OMG! I am so sorry your dealing with this! I would honestly put my foot down though My Bridal Party MY CHOICE! GET OVER IT! Were all adults and they need to realize this is your day and to get over it. Seriously I would also bug on DH if he ever talked to me like that. I hope everything works out for you, but that just made me mad thinking people were even being like that to you!

Moonmist09 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:54 AM

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if its going to create more prolbmes than its worth, than i would just say that neither of them can be in the party. HOWEVER, both of these people mean something to both of you, so they should both be able to grow up and act like civil adults to each other for 1 day.
Your FH is probably really upset about everything that is going on and is automatically going to take his brother's side. Don't take it personally, but right now might not be the best time to try to convince him that your friend is blameless.

InLuvWithMyBF Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:54 AM

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Posted by FDNYwife1029

OH and whatever you do - I know it's hard. try not to fight with FH over other peoples drama. easier said then done. but go take a walk or something if you guys get heated over it. it's not worth it!

This.

SoonToBeMrsFox Posted: Jul 21, 2011 09:55 AM

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i'm so sorry you're dealing with this.. people need to grow up!

NYtherapist Posted: Jul 21, 2011 11:55 AM

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I think the circumstances of the break-up have a lot to do with what is or is not appropriate. My FH was previously married and I can tell you that if FH's sister considered putting FH's ex-wife in her wedding party, that would not be acceptable. This is based upon what the ex-wife did to FH. I'm a firm believer in family coming before friends.

Nrauch8191 Posted: Jul 21, 2011 01:25 PM

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Posted by rosatemp

Posted by FDNYwife1029

sorry you are dealing with this. i have a similar situation but no one will tell me who is in my BP! my BIL & SIL broke up a few years ago & have both since moved on but they are still technically married. luckily my bil has no issues with her being in it. Even if he did, it's not about him - It's me & fh's day. They need to act like adults!

I have to agree...its your day tell him to grow up and get over it since he is the reason they are no longer together

We tried this but my MIL is not normal. She is a witch.. she called me today and told me if she is in the wedding party that her and FH's 2 brothers (both Best Men) will not be at the wedding. This is so much drama. I do feel bad for FH because that is all the family he has. He literally doesn't have anyone else here besides close friends..