just had my rehearsal dinner what a mess

melissa8781 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:12 PM

just had my rehearsal dinner what a mess

Well it was going great until I had to start pairing the bridal party off. I had my grooms parents walk together and my mom and dad are divorced so i was going to have my half brother (from dad's side) who is a groomsman walk my mom. my dad is like no they are not walking together (he didnt say why probably because my b*** of a stepmother would be jealous) and that made my mom feel like s*** so everyone is pissed including me. I dont understand why my dad creates such drama. I wasnt stressed about anything up until today and I can't believe its over this. now my bridesmaid has to walk with 2 of my brothers and I have to add another groomsman to walk my mom. its ridculous. sorry just needed to vent

MayBride06 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:14 PM

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It's almost here. Don't starting getting upset now. Two more days!!!

melissa8781 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:18 PM

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I know i shouldnt get upset but i can't help it. why do people create drama on a wedding day...its supposed to me a happy time.

MayBride06 Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:26 PM

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Not sure, but maybe they are feeling some stress too? Hang in there, you will be riding on cloud nine this weekend!!

DanaMZ Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:36 PM

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That's not fair. I fear that my parents (well my mom) will cause some drama for my wedding Hopefully they will realize on your wedding day, they have to be more mature!

PegaLega Posted: Sep 15, 2005 11:46 PM

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My dad will probably be the same way-though he has already-2 years in advance-told me he WILL NOT walk with my mom...

Im sure it hurts-but hopefully the drama wont go on for your wedding sat.
It is ok to get upset and stressed over it-but dont let it get to you-your wedding is sat and you are going to have a wonderful day!!!

melissa8781 Posted: Sep 16, 2005 12:03 AM

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thanks everyone for your kind words..i dont know maybe im making a big deal out of nothing?..im just annoyed at what happened, and im upset for my mom. it was embarrassing for her and me too.. im gonna punch a pillow now. lol

October Bliss Posted: Sep 16, 2005 12:22 AM

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Posted by melissa8781

Well it was going great until I had to start pairing the bridal party off. I had my grooms parents walk together and my mom and dad are divorced so i was going to have my half brother (from dad's side) who is a groomsman walk my mom. my dad is like no they are not walking together (he didnt say why probably because my b*** of a stepmother would be jealous) and that made my mom feel like s*** so everyone is pissed including me. I dont understand why my dad creates such drama. I wasnt stressed about anything up until today and I can't believe its over this. now my bridesmaid has to walk with 2 of my brothers and I have to add another groomsman to walk my mom. its ridculous. sorry just needed to vent

Have you considered just doing it the way you want? Send your father w/ new wife down aisle first, and then send half bro with mom when it is too late for him to do anything about it?

I'm sorry you are getting this kind of drama so close to your day.

melissa8781 Posted: Sep 16, 2005 12:30 AM

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i would to do that but my father is supposed to walk me down the aisle and we're the last ones. im thinking to just walk with my mom and leave dad with stepmother becuase obviously they BOTH cant handle a 10 second walk.

girlygrl33 Posted: Sep 16, 2005 08:32 AM

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Divorces do suck!!!! Although I know my parents would have walked down the ailse together if I asked them, I wouldnt ask them to do that especially if there was a 'new' spouse. My mother was one of my MOH but if she wasnt she would have walked down the aisle by HERSELF- just like DH father did ( his parents are divorced and MIL is deceased) my stepmom walked down by HERSELF- Dad was with me! It worked out fine- just put in your program who is who in sequence so your guest know whos who. GL and dont let this stress you out- its really not a big deal.

And I had my mom and dad and his dad and would have had his mom too even though they are all divorced light the parents candle together- if my stepmom was jealous too bad, its MY wedding , MY parents.

103005FallBride Posted: Sep 16, 2005 08:44 AM

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Why is it at times like this our stupid parents have to act like such children! You should tell them to SUCK IT UP! I'm sorry they have to act like this.

Listen...tomorrow is going to be a beautiful day...try and ignore their actions and enjoy it.

melissaandsean Posted: Sep 16, 2005 08:48 AM

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Posted by melissa8781

I know i shouldnt get upset but i can't help it. why do people create drama on a wedding day...its supposed to me a happy time.

because some people are selfish and can't look at the bigger picture? I am so sorry that you had to go through that at your RD!!! I hope it all works out and everyone can be mature and put their feelings aside on your big day! Have fun no matter what though! Really...you can't control them and they will do what they want. What you can do is not let their issues ruin your wonderful perfect day marrying the man you love!!! Hang in there!!

Marcie Posted: Sep 16, 2005 11:01 AM

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Why would he make a big deal? It is not like you have him walking your mom down the aisle. If his new wife don't like it - it is her problem, she has to deal with it for 10-15 seconds TOPS.

Please do it the way that you want. If you don't, it will always remain in your head of what you could have changed, and it will eat away at you. If you feel better walking down the aisle with your mom than do it.

Good Luck to you!!

hmm8191 Posted: Sep 16, 2005 11:04 AM

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Posted by melissa8781

i would to do that but my father is supposed to walk me down the aisle and we're the last ones. im thinking to just walk with my mom and leave dad with stepmother becuase obviously they BOTH cant handle a 10 second walk.

I think this is a great idea...and serves him right!!

DAVALJO2 Posted: Sep 16, 2005 11:12 AM

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Soon2BeMrsS Posted: Sep 16, 2005 11:19 AM

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EmberLynn Posted: Sep 16, 2005 11:26 AM

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Listen to me, DON'T let this get to you! You are going to have a beautiful wedding. No really cares who walks down with who, alls are going to be on you and looking for you. So don't even let this phaise you!