Just had to vent...
So my maid of honor moved to Amsterdam this month to be a nanny. She won't be back until June and the only way I can talk to her is through email. There's something about emails that allow people to say things that they wouldn't say to your face.
I had told her a few days ago that I was having some problems with FH and I just needed her advice. I had finally figured out what the problem was and I just wanted to see how I should go about solving it. She writes back and tells me that if she was me, she wouldn't marry FH because we're too young and it's only our first relationship. She knows that I've been hearing this constantly since we got engaged and that it really upsets me. I don't see why meeting him at thirty after I've had 17 relationships would make it any better other than that I would have had more experience. It just really hurt to hear it from her since not only does she know that I'm tired of hearing it but she never said anything about it until now. It was always 'don't listen to anyone else' and now I find out she agrees with them.
No one gets along 100% of the time, but because everyone has these assumptions about my relationship, I don't really talk to anyone because I don't want to hear 'well maybe if you guys would have waited...' because I don't think it has anything to do with waiting. We're just two people who love each other enough to work through anything that comes our way but we're gonna hit bumps along the way. I just feel like no one will believe it will last until we've been married 50 years, or even if it does end after 50 years that they'll still blame it on us having been too young.
Sorry this was so long. I'm just really hurt![]()
I had told her a few days ago that I was having some problems with FH and I just needed her advice. I had finally figured out what the problem was and I just wanted to see how I should go about solving it. She writes back and tells me that if she was me, she wouldn't marry FH because we're too young and it's only our first relationship. She knows that I've been hearing this constantly since we got engaged and that it really upsets me. I don't see why meeting him at thirty after I've had 17 relationships would make it any better other than that I would have had more experience. It just really hurt to hear it from her since not only does she know that I'm tired of hearing it but she never said anything about it until now. It was always 'don't listen to anyone else' and now I find out she agrees with them.
No one gets along 100% of the time, but because everyone has these assumptions about my relationship, I don't really talk to anyone because I don't want to hear 'well maybe if you guys would have waited...' because I don't think it has anything to do with waiting. We're just two people who love each other enough to work through anything that comes our way but we're gonna hit bumps along the way. I just feel like no one will believe it will last until we've been married 50 years, or even if it does end after 50 years that they'll still blame it on us having been too young.
Sorry this was so long. I'm just really hurt
