Just Not Sure.......

We are making our list and we weren't sure about the rules on inviting People with Guests. We wants our wedding party to be able to bring guests, but not all the single people invited. We are on a tight budget and trying to minimize the number of people. Please let me know what everyone is doing, so we don't offend our guests. thanks!

What we did

We are in the same position. On the invitation I wrote the person we are inviting and guest, as long as they were really dating someone. We had a few exceptions to the rule, but so far it has worked out fine. I think people generally understand that weddings are very expensive.

fm221

How did you word that on the invitation??

Keep it simple...

For outside envelopes, you just write - Ms. Jane Smith (for single person, no guest) or Mr. John Smith and Guest (for couples, not married) However, if you know the person they are dating/engaged to, then you should write the guest's full name also. For example: Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Plain Address City, State Zip The inner envelopes can be: Mr. Smith and Ms. Plain or, if they are really close friends or family, you can just use first names on inner envelopes: John and Jane or Aunt Jane and Uncle John Hope this helps...let me know if you have any questions!

fm221

The outer envelope said the friend's name ex: Mr. John Smith. On the inside envelope: Mr. Smith and Guest or just Mr. Smith, if the person isn't in a 'relationship'. I have gotten about 50 responses and people have responded accordingly. I haven't heard any complaints. We aren't trying to exclude people. We just can't afford a really big wedding. Good luck.

Just Not Sure.......

We were concerned about offending our guests so this is what we did. All single people over 21 were invited with a guest. We were shocked out of about 45 singles invited with a date about 10 took us up on it. We let them have the choice and they were appreciative but some did not have someone to bring or they didn't want to have to give a bigger gift and rather go it alone or with another guest. Hope this helps.

I read that...

In the Emily Post book it said that you should send each 'Guest' an individual invite and not use the word Guest on the invitation. I think that could get very expensive plus it is hard to find out who someone is going to bring and their address too. But that is the 'proper' way to do it or so says Ms. Post. Practically speaking I am inviting anyone over 21 with a guest. But if you are not having a large wedding, and your friends all know each other it should be fine. And a lot of fun too.

Here is what Im doing...

All adults have the opportunity to bring a guest. Im doing this because I would hate to go to a wedding alone (even if I wasn't seriously involved). I think if you invite your friends solo, you should defintely explain the situation so they understand. Lastly, if you do not invites guests, be prepared for fewer bodies on the dance floor b/c not many people like to dance alone.