Just wanted an opinion ( a lil long sorry)

cantwait2bemrsc Posted: Jun 11, 2010 10:09 PM

Just wanted an opinion ( a lil long sorry)

So we have a friend who just got engage about 2-3 months ago. At that time all of our plans were set. She said that she wanted a fall wedding and asked me about crest hallow... She told everyone that she was going to have a fall wedding, She knows that our wedding is at Crest Hallow, in the Emerald Room with an outdoor cocktail hour in July. Now all of a sudden she is having her wedding 3 weeks before ours which is fine.... BUT now i find out she is having it in the same hall with the same room, and an outdoor cocktail hour. And she knew all of this and now is getting married 3 weeks before us and everything is the SAME!! It just erks me... I don't really want to go because i dont want to see my room, and hall, all dressed up 3 weeks before our day. BTW we had these plans for a year bc she even got engaged. Am i being selfish or self centered? ( not that it matters but FH feels the same and hes closer with her than I am).

Im getting Married Posted: Jun 11, 2010 10:19 PM

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In all honest I would probably be a bit pissed but I would still go. Are a lot of the same people going to be at both?

cantwait2bemrsc Posted: Jun 11, 2010 10:25 PM

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All of our friends are probably going to both..... but the only thing that kills me about this is that she knew when and where and what room we were having our wedding... I am not extremely with her but i personally would never do that to anyone so i guess that's why it bothers me... I will probably end up going but its a little upsetting

Panamasweet Posted: Jun 11, 2010 10:33 PM

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I would be pissed to the heights of pissedisity. My first thought would be that she did that on purpose. Of all the RH and all the rooms in that RH she had to match you exactly....thats crazy. I would let her know how I feel but thats just me

allornil Posted: Jun 11, 2010 11:36 PM

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Id be upset. Notice she booked her wedding before yours in the same exact place and room. Ive seen it happen before. Just make sure you have details that make it your own and dont tell her anything else.

rendel Posted: Jun 12, 2010 12:31 AM

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I would be mad, sounds like something a person would do to get under your skin!!!! Is she the jealous type?

angelscri Posted: Jun 12, 2010 12:38 AM

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I think I would be peeved also.

angelatp Posted: Jun 12, 2010 07:16 AM

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I would be sooooo P O there are so many places to get married in NY and she chooses the same one you're getting married in? Not that it's a problem but it's 3 weeks before your wedding. That's is so not cool, especially since she knew that you were getting married there, the room, the ch. Sounds like she's a B ithkdh if you ask me.

Jsquared Posted: Jun 12, 2010 08:32 AM

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I would be livid!!!! I would kill her with kindness and discuss your frustrations. Or make FH ay something like is she kiddin me!!! I have a similiar story that im going to post in a new topic lol

Aiyana Posted: Jun 12, 2010 09:07 AM

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I would be VERY upset and depending on how close I am with her, I would tell her something. Nevertheless, if it is a good friend, I would go to the wedding. I would say that it is a little selfish if you do not go.

Although the venue and rooms may be the same, each wedding is different and special in its own way. Just make sure that you take a mental note of this and for the future, be hesitant in sharing details about projects or events.

lisafiume Posted: Jun 12, 2010 09:09 AM

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I would be so mad too, its a hard call to go or not.. its depending if u what to lose a friend over it. In my opinion i really friend wouldnt do that. Im sorry you have to go thought this

cantwait2bemrsc Posted: Jun 12, 2010 11:38 PM

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Thanks everyone for the opinions..... She's the type of person who needs to be the center of attention and can be jealous... We were engaged for over a year before she even got engaged and now it seems like shes rushing to get married before us which would be fine but its the SAME.... My FH is closer with her but after she met her FH we only see her every couple of months.... But i know that our weddings will be different because of our different styles but it still kinda takes away the element of surprise for our friends most of whom are in our bridal party...

lilgem250 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 12:09 AM

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I would be pissed!!!! I agree that you should at least say something, you just don't have to be nasty about it.

LaBellaVita622 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 12:23 AM

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OMG!! I would be upset! that is just rude!! for get the 3 weeks before you but at your hall in your room??!! what is wrong with people?? I am so sorry you have to dela with this.

Danielle41209 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 12:35 AM

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Posted by allornil

Just make sure you have details that make it your own and dont tell her anything else.

I agree. I'd be pissed!!!! don't share anything with her. Sorry you're going through this

JTG4EVER Posted: Jun 13, 2010 08:31 AM

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I would be pissed. i would have said something to put her in her place. its not fair. she can't just take your wedding and do it before you. tell her she can have all of that AFTER yours.

Kuklitsa143 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 08:39 AM

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so sorry about this happening and I would be pissed too.

The same thing happen to my step brother. His now wife BFF got engaged a month after him and planned her wedding 2 weeks before their at a different hall but Karma got her back. All her pictures were horrible.

Dont stress it and just take this opporunity to make your wedding look better. Learn from her mistakes

HTH

TheFutureMrs2011 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 08:49 AM

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Tink1118 Posted: Jun 13, 2010 09:33 AM

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I'm so sorry, it's really annoying, but it's probably being done to get a reaction out of you. I wouldn't say anything because then this girl wins...I would just keep your distance from her and smile politely when you go to her wedding.

On a happy note, you get a practice run for your day! You can see the CHCC all decked out and plot exactly what you are going to change to make your day better! Keep your head up!