Just wondering

we have been getting into fights about his job. He transferred to the NYPD from the FDNY and I am trying to be supportive. But the job is dangerous, the hours/days off suck and don't get me started on the pay!!! Are they f-in kidding? But what REALLY makes me mad is when i feel like he puts his job before me. I mean I was here long before the NYPD and I'll be here long after it's just a faint memory. If God forbid anything ever happens to him, I will be the one there to pick up the pieces -- not the f-in NYPD.
I think the key is to sit down and really tallk about what's bothering you and communicate your feelings in a positve way.
I think most of us have either been there or we're still working our way thru it

Hang in there!

We never fought, as soon as the wedding stress began the fights started and has gotten worse...now we are controlling ourselves. So you are not alone, many people go throug this...just talk with FH and tell him whats bothering you other wise it all builds up and explodes.