Keep her as a friend? Advice...
Not exactly sure what it is I'm looking for by posting this. Maybe just venting...
If anyone has experienced this or has some insight I'd appreciate it.
I have this friend that I know from college, she's not a very close friend, but a good friend that I kept in touch with (been about 6 years since I've known her). When I got engaged I invited her to my e-party. She rsvp'd Yes and then never showed. (She said she was in a car accident the night before and had just gotten home from the hospital - left the msg on my machine during party). She was invited to the shower and came (stayed only for 1hr). I invite her to the wedding, she rsvp'd Yes and doesn't show. She left a msg on my machine that she had knee surgery and was still in the hospital - the message was left during the wedding.
I was really annoyed about the wedding. I mean you have to know you're going in for surgery in advance!! This started making me think that she made up the car accident thing too...there's no way for me to really ever know.
Anyway, I basically just stopped taking the iniciative with her. I was ****ed. She'd write me emails and say we should get together and then leave it up to me to call her. I gave her a second chance and a few weeks ago I talked to her on IM and she said we should get together, gives me her numbers. I called her last week and left a voicemail. She has yet to return my call. I see her on IM and she doesn't say hi or that she got my message or nothing!
I want to confront her about the kind of friend (or not a friend she really is) Do you think I should say something or just forget it and write her out of my life?
The one thing I know she used to do is tell her boyfriend (now FI) that when she went out places that she was with me and really wasn't. I think she's afraid for me to meet her FI - honestly. I don't know why I even care!
Thanks for letting me vent!![]()
If anyone has experienced this or has some insight I'd appreciate it.
I have this friend that I know from college, she's not a very close friend, but a good friend that I kept in touch with (been about 6 years since I've known her). When I got engaged I invited her to my e-party. She rsvp'd Yes and then never showed. (She said she was in a car accident the night before and had just gotten home from the hospital - left the msg on my machine during party). She was invited to the shower and came (stayed only for 1hr). I invite her to the wedding, she rsvp'd Yes and doesn't show. She left a msg on my machine that she had knee surgery and was still in the hospital - the message was left during the wedding.
I was really annoyed about the wedding. I mean you have to know you're going in for surgery in advance!! This started making me think that she made up the car accident thing too...there's no way for me to really ever know.
Anyway, I basically just stopped taking the iniciative with her. I was ****ed. She'd write me emails and say we should get together and then leave it up to me to call her. I gave her a second chance and a few weeks ago I talked to her on IM and she said we should get together, gives me her numbers. I called her last week and left a voicemail. She has yet to return my call. I see her on IM and she doesn't say hi or that she got my message or nothing!
I want to confront her about the kind of friend (or not a friend she really is) Do you think I should say something or just forget it and write her out of my life?
The one thing I know she used to do is tell her boyfriend (now FI) that when she went out places that she was with me and really wasn't. I think she's afraid for me to meet her FI - honestly. I don't know why I even care!
Thanks for letting me vent!
