My FH and I get into this all the time. I want to be 24 when we start (we are 22 now) and he wants to be 28!!! He said he wants to be 26 when we start so we would have a kid at 27!
What is the age you want to have kids?
bettybcafe
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I am ready now. But I dont think it would be wise to start right when we get married...I want to be a bit stable before we start. But FI and I have talked about this ever since we started dating. I am 24 and he is 32...I want to be at least 25 or 26 when I have my first child.
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I'm hoping 27 or 28 (I'm 25). FH always used to say he wanted to have kids before he was 30 but he's 28 now and we can't afford them anytime soon.
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i'm 27 and FH is 30 (he turns 31 about 5 months after the wedding)
we've never lived together before, so i would like us to have that HM phase for about 2 yrs or so before we even begin trying. he's pretty much in agreement. so maybe when i'm about 30 yrs old we might begin to try (he'll be about 34 at that point)
vmystique33
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I had my 1st with fh @ 19 and my 2nd @ 24 and im hoping to have my 3rd by 28 im 27 now
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we are both going to be 24 when we get married. we thought we would wait a year to settle a few things with the house and finances. our biggest concern is getting health insurance. but we both cant wait. i think he is nervous though.....which is cute.
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before 30 lol so i have some time
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we've been together about 5 years, but haven't lived together and probably won't till right before the wedding....so we want to make sure we are settled with our finances and a house, and travel a little. but we are ready!! we talk about it all the time!! I just turned 29, and my FH will be 35 in march. so maybe in 2 years time after the wedding.
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We'll both be 22 when we get married and to be on the safe side, we'd like to wait til after he's out of the Army to have babies -- so I would say we'd start trying at 26. Thats IF I can hold out that long
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I'm 29, FW is 28... we've been talking about waiting 2-3 years, wanting our lives to get a little more settled before we start.
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Yup we planned to start trying after the wedding and when I was 30!! HAHA for that plan!! We had a almost 3 years ago!!! We wanna try for another but Id really like to wait till we get our own house..But if it happens i'd be thrilled!! My daughter said to me yesterday for her 3rd bday she wants mommy to have a baby in her belly! I felt sooo bad....but hey you never know!!!
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Yup we planned to start trying after the wedding and when I was 30!! HAHA for that plan!! We had a almost 3 years ago!!! We wanna try for another but Id really like to wait till we get our own house..But if it happens i'd be thrilled!! My daughter said to me yesterday for her 3rd bday she wants mommy to have a baby in her belly! I felt sooo bad....but hey you never know!!!
Aw. that is too cute
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I just turned 27 and FH will be 32 by the time we're married.....he wants them pretty much right away, but I'd rather wait a year and then start trying. Which would mean that by the time our first is born I might be 29, and he'd be 34.
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My daughter said to me yesterday for her 3rd bday she wants mommy to have a baby in her belly! I felt sooo bad....but hey you never know!!!
aww that is cute! My BM's little girl did the same thing to her.
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Okay... I already HAVE kids.. so I probably am exempt from this question BUT...
I wanted to start when I was 25. I wanted to get out of school and start having kids right away. I actually wanted 7 of them. BUT... it took a while to meet the right guy. And then, when I did meet him he said (and I quote) - 'Kids are just money sucking screamboxes and I don't want them'. We weren't dating at the time - just talking. Then we did start dating and he re-iterated that idea. I told him we need to end things because I wanted to have children. We agreed to just hang in there and compromise when the time came. Then I got pregnant (I was 31). We had Robbie about 2 weeks after my 32nd birthday and Noah about 2 months after 34th birthday. FH still can't believe how much he loves having children and how amazing it is to be a father!
I no longer want a brood of children. It is difficult to focus on giving them the best of your attention and yourself when you are forced to divide yourself up too much. And they are EXPENSIVE!!!
I know I am older - but I have 2 sons and I DO want to try for the girl. AFTER we are married. FH agrees we can start trying after Noah (our youngest) is in kindergarten.
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O yea we have been talking about them alot lately. We became 'aunt and uncle' in September and ever since then I have had a bad case of baby fever, and once we saw our niece and FH started holding her and playing with her I think it started to rub off on him a bit. So we are planning to start a few months after the wedding. I know I need IVF, so we've actually got a few appointments these next copule of weeks with clinics and doctors to just get the ball rolling and learn a bit about what to expect. I can't wait!
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my fh wants to have one before hes 30 he'll be 29 when we get married. and i wanted to wait till i'm 30 i'll be 26 when we married. so we're going start trying at our 1 year anniversary when i'm 27 and hes 31. so we'll one when i'm 27ish and hes 31ish
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I'm ready!!!!!!! Hopefully we'll have a honeymoon baby!!!!!!!!! XOXOXO Kitty
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FH and I have talked alot about this and decided that we want one before 30. We both love kids. Then about a week or two ago...a song came on the radio and he got this giddie little grin on his face. It was so adorable!!
Here's the song...
Watching You
Drivin’ through town just my boy and me With a “Happy Meal” in his booster seat Knowin’ that he couldn’t have the toy ‘til his nuggets were gone. A green traffic light turned straight to red I hit my brakes and mumbled under my breath. His fries went a flyin’, and his orange drink covered his lap Well, then my 4 year old said a 4 letter word It started with “S” and I was concerned So I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to talk like that?”
Chorus: He said, I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that kool? I’m your buckaroo, I want to be like you. And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are. We got cowboy boots and camo pants Yeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad I want to do everything you do. So I’ve been watching you.
We got back home and I went to the barn I bowed my head and I prayed real hard Said, “Lord, please help me help my stupid self.” Just this side of bedtime later that night Turnin’ on my son’s Scooby-doo nightlight. He crawled out of bed and he got down on his knees. He closed his little eyes, folded his little hands Spoke to God like he was talkin’ to a friend. And I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to pray like that?”
Chorus: He said, I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that kool? I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you. And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are. We like fixin’ things and holding moma’s hand Yeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad. I want to do everything you do; so I’ve been watching you.
With tears in my eyes I wrapped him in a hug. Said, “My little bear is growin’ up.” And he said, “But when I’m big I’ll still know what to do.”
Chorus: ‘cause I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that kool? I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you. And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are. By then I’ll be strong as superman We’ll be just alike, hey, won’t we dad When I can do everything you do. ‘cause I’ve been watchin’ you.
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i always wanted to start young - like 23, but no such luck..i'm 27 now so as soon as we get pregnant its fine with us...we're gonna allow things to happen after the wedding night. :)
