Kinda bummed

Without getting too personal, FH and I have hit a major rough patch lately and I am just so super exhausted from it. I am feeling really bummed. I feel like we can't really get along lately but we don't really fight either, we just don't talk...

im sorry FH has been so busy the past week, yesterday was the first time we actually had a conversation.it was really hard but i was able to takl to him about it and i felt A LOT better. a lot of people are stressing out with all the crap in the world. i would make time to talk to FH and see what is going on.

Maybe you need to communicate about whats going on lately. Just tell him you want to talk or just bring it up, when its made into a 'we really need to talk sit down' thing then guys prepare themselves for the worst and become defensive even before anybody says anything, well even women do the same. Just bring it up and both of you express how youre feeling lately. Its normal to go through a rough patch so dont feel bad, i know there have been times where i am just like, ahhhh nothing is going right. Maybe things are just too routine now. That happens alot, you get into your everyday routine things and the stress of everything can get to both of you. Many times its not even personal problems you have with eachother but its other outside things that get to both of you and when youre feeling down you just act differently towards everything in your life.

Maybe do something spontaneous. Go out together and do something you havent done in a long time or never have done. Plan a special day for the two of you. Maybe go for massages, or go out to a nice dinner and then do something special after. Sometimes you need to get away from everyday life stresses and put that out of your mind and rekindle things just within your relationship

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Posted by pandafish519

im sorry FH has been so busy the past week, yesterday was the first time we actually had a conversation.it was really hard but i was able to takl to him about it and i felt A LOT better. a lot of people are stressing out with all the crap in the world. i would make time to talk to FH and see what is going on.

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I will talk to him eventually but I think most of it is my fault. I feel like lately all his manly ways of doing things and not thinking pisses me off too much and he dissapoints me alot and I just get mad and hold it inside and would rather just be left alone..We went xmas shopping today and I just could not shop, i made him take me home and i sent him out so I can have alone time

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Posted by gporka23

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Posted by pandafish519

im sorry FH has been so busy the past week, yesterday was the first time we actually had a conversation.it was really hard but i was able to takl to him about it and i felt A LOT better. a lot of people are stressing out with all the crap in the world. i would make time to talk to FH and see what is going on.

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I will talk to him eventually but I think most of it is my fault. I feel like lately all his manly ways of doing things and not thinking pisses me off too much and he dissapoints me alot and I just get mad and hold it inside and would rather just be left alone..We went xmas shopping today and I just could not shop, i made him take me home and i sent him out so I can have alone time

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i completely understand. I didn't talk to FH all week about how much it was bothering me the way he was acting, then finally on friday and saturday we had little conversations about it and i feel 100 times better. when you are ready, hopefully sooner than later, you need to talk to him and tell him that you are upset and want him to me more considerate of you.

aww I'm sorry Jen! I know how that is. FH and I go through that every so often. Certain things about him start to bug him, he doesn't talk about them when I want to, so I just let it build up. Then things get tense and it feels like we're just not as close as we used to be. Eventually we find a way to talk things out and come to some sort of understanding, agreement, or compromise about whatever's in question. Sometimes it takes time to get to that point and it doesn't feel great in the meantime. You guys will work everything out!

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Posted by Future Pepper

aww I'm sorry Jen! I know how that is. FH and I go through that every so often. Certain things about him start to bug him, he doesn't talk about them when I want to, so I just let it build up. Then things get tense and it feels like we're just not as close as we used to be. Eventually we find a way to talk things out and come to some sort of understanding, agreement, or compromise about whatever's in question. Sometimes it takes time to get to that point and it doesn't feel great in the meantime. You guys will work everything out!

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Thanks hun.. I know it will get better once we both talk about it but right now I feel so blah...and tired!!

Great advise Espo...

Sometimes that happens to me too (especially right after my period.)

I really have no advice to give, just have a and hang in there. It will get better, sometimes thinks are just 'blah'.

I think a lot of us can totally relate. Where it's work, wedding planning, stress, and different schedules that cut down on quality time. I know I have been there before. Getting engaged can mean plenty of fights and rough patches. Once they are worked through, you will be fine! You just have to sit down and make time for both of you to talk and get things out there to resolve anything and everything that's bothering you both.

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Posted by gporka23

Without getting too personal, FH and I have hit a major rough patch lately and I am just so super exhausted from it. I am feeling really bummed. I feel like we can't really get along lately but we don't really fight either, we just don't talk...

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Ok this may be a completly wrong thing to say but...Fh is really bad a communicator. He has a hard time finding words etc. Well whenever I want to talk to him about serious things, we have a drink (or 2) together. It totally makes us relax. For some reason it also helps FH open up. He doesnt think so hard about what he is going to say...it just comes out. HTH

Thank you ladies! I am sure everything will be fine, we have got past things like this before.. I just felt bummed and knew you ladies would be able to make me and feel better

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Posted by gporka23

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Posted by pandafish519

im sorry FH has been so busy the past week, yesterday was the first time we actually had a conversation.it was really hard but i was able to takl to him about it and i felt A LOT better. a lot of people are stressing out with all the crap in the world. i would make time to talk to FH and see what is going on.

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I will talk to him eventually but I think most of it is my fault. I feel like lately all his manly ways of doing things and not thinking pisses me off too much and he dissapoints me alot and I just get mad and hold it inside and would rather just be left alone..We went xmas shopping today and I just could not shop, i made him take me home and i sent him out so I can have alone time

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Its very hard out there right now ... Us as future brides to be have ALOT of stress. We are doing alot at once... FH and I get into hard times but we have to think about the good times and what have made us last soo long. Believe me its very difficult to maintain a relationship.. ( We've lived together for 4 years) and it is hard. We always have to come to terms and consider one another.. I know I work hard.. But he does too.. Its alot.. But communication is a MUST!! We are here to chat anytime!!

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Posted by Espo22

Maybe you need to communicate about whats going on lately. Just tell him you want to talk or just bring it up, when its made into a 'we really need to talk sit down' thing then guys prepare themselves for the worst and become defensive even before anybody says anything, well even women do the same. Just bring it up and both of you express how youre feeling lately. Its normal to go through a rough patch so dont feel bad, i know there have been times where i am just like, ahhhh nothing is going right. Maybe things are just too routine now. That happens alot, you get into your everyday routine things and the stress of everything can get to both of you. Many times its not even personal problems you have with eachother but its other outside things that get to both of you and when youre feeling down you just act differently towards everything in your life.

Maybe do something spontaneous. Go out together and do something you havent done in a long time or never have done. Plan a special day for the two of you. Maybe go for massages, or go out to a nice dinner and then do something special after. Sometimes you need to get away from everyday life stresses and put that out of your mind and rekindle things just within your relationship

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ITA! Everything will work out Jen, Don't worry!

Oh no! Don't worry, it will pass. You have us if you need us.

just sending you a great BIG