I went to the music director this evening at my church to arrange the music. He is the third person who made the comment that I am more prepared than most people when they come in. I hear it every time I see my caterer, when I saw my florist, and now this. I assumed when you went to a vendor you know what you want. This man was kind enough to send me a tape of all the music, as well as the songs listed in order, composer, and who was singing. I figured the least I could do was listen to the tape before I met him. I decided that maybe they say this to everyone. Has anyone had this experience? Or am I just totally anal about this wedding?? And if you do not plan all these details do they just fall into place?
jenny11.9
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It's great that you know what you want. lt will make i lt easier when tons of relatives are putting their two cents in! I knew I wanted all white and cream flowers, and I knew I wanted my girls in black - I knew the music I would walk down to. And I only ever started thinking about any of this on the day we got engaged! It's a great step ahead to be able to tell your vendors your vision so they have something to go on!
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My vision of my wedding has changed drastically from what I thought it would be. The only thing that has remained are pale pink roses. My vision of what I want is basically decided when I get to that detail. And even that changes day to day! Thanks for not making me feel so 'different.' I was starting to get a complex tonight!
jenny11.9
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Oh don't worry - we are alll wedding planners at heart!
LisaT
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I got that alot - take it as a compliment
ChristineC68
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I get a lot of 'you're very organized' & 'you're detail oriented' I think because of sites like these we are better prepared to meet with vendors.
Karen62794
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You are absolutely right --- being organized is the best policy. I think you should be prepared when meeting with these vendors. If you have a clear idea of what it is you want and how much you want to spend, you should do just fine.
Besides reading bridal magazines, I have a bridal planner book (with pockets to keep receipts, contracts, etc), a dozen or so spreadsheets seperated by vendor and an accordian file where I put pictures, coupons, samples, etc.
I get so much mail from vendors, I don't know what to do with it all, so if it's something I'm interested in, I just file it away.
Karen
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When we started planning I started a book. The book was divided into sections (ceremony, music, video, etc.) I put everything in the book: reciepts, flyers, contracts, etc. Whenever we would go to a vendor I would have the book with me. This way if there was ever a question about anything I would have all the material with me. The vendors would constantly comment on how organized I was. My FI used to make fun of the book but now when we are going to a vendor he'll say 'Do you have the book?' I am glad that I was this organized. It has helped me to keep things together and remind me of what I need to do next. Peopl enow comment on how calm I am for someone who is getting married in 8 weeks. I give all the credit to careful and early planning .
dora
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You're not alone -- Look who you're talking to. Most of us on this board spend our lunch hour on this website & others educating ourselves about every detail in putting together a wedding.
Whenever I talk to other brides in the 'real world' though -- I find it's very rare to find another bride that is as 'together' as I am about the wedding details. Call it anal or call it organized -- I'm proud of the fact that I'm working hard to make sure that on my wedding day I don't say 'Gosh, I should have done X.' Obviously last minute things come up & not everything is in our control, but being organized and detail-oriented has to produce better results than doing a half-a*sed, last-minute, rushed, disorganized job of planning.
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I think most of us get a lot of those comments. Ive had some vendors say that as if its a bad thing - those are the vendors I steer away from.
I like the vendors that are excited to see that I am serious about their services and know what I want.
PS: WHat did you choose for your ceremony music? I don't know what to choose.
matt_hos
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no big deal. i am the same way. i think it is better to have an idea of whats going on and being prepared than going in blind. its not like you are going to buy groceries or something trivial. it is your wedding after all.
