Ladies taking their HM a few weeks/months after their Wedding....

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 09:50 AM

Ladies taking their HM a few weeks/months after their Wedding....

How many days are you taking off from work for the wedding?

We arent going on HM till the end of December and since I am limited to 10 whopping vacation days a year, i have to use them wisely and am going to save them till the HM.

How many of you are only taking off a few days during the wedding time? I took off the Friday before the wedding, and Monday afterwards. Sux-it feels like I cant even enjoy my time after the wedding. Literally I'll be back at work on that Tuesday

melcc83 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 09:58 AM

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about 2 1/2 weeks

MrsGRod09 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 09:59 AM

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I'm taking 3 days after the wedding and don't know how many for the HM. I'll get docked anyway so theres nothing i can do.

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:00 AM

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Yeah I wish I was at my old job, I had 3 weeks vacation and Im only here 2 years which =2 weeks....

KerriJohnS Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:28 AM

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Donna - you need a new job!!! So you can be rid of those nasty people!! You and Ali both need new jobs!!! I don't like the way they treat you guys!!!!

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:31 AM

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I'm taking off Wed. and Thurs....get married on Friday and am back to work on Monday. Kill me.

BUT we leave that following Friday for our honeymoon so it's really only showing up to work that week- mentally I wont be here.

KYBride09 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:35 AM

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My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:42 AM

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Posted by KerriJohnS

Donna - you need a new job!!! So you can be rid of those nasty people!! You and Ali both need new jobs!!! I don't like the way they treat you guys!!!!

lol i know. They cant stand me here lololol

KittyGags Posted: Aug 11, 2009 11:07 AM

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Posted by KYBride09

My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

Nice that your job is so understanding....

I am pretty sure thats illegal though, have you looked into it? I know someone here had a sick mother and he was off for like 6 MONTHS paid....

KYBride09 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 11:16 AM

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Posted by KittyGags

Posted by KYBride09

My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

Nice that your job is so understanding....

I am pretty sure thats illegal though, have you looked into it? I know someone here had a sick mother and he was off for like 6 MONTHS paid....

really?? My boss told me that I could only get unpaid leave if I was the one sick. And she has a terminal illness.

MrsCM Posted: Aug 11, 2009 11:16 AM

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FH is probably taking 2 days after the wedding, none before. He's using his personal days. He's a teacher so he doesn't get vacation but he gets 2 or 3 personal days each year and he accumulates sick days. Our wedding is on a Sunday so I think he is taking off Monday and Tuesday.

NayNay3021 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 11:56 AM

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Hey Donna..The wedding is on Saturday and I am taking Thursday and Friday off to do last min things. I am also taking Monday off. We are going on a mini honeymoon the following weekend...from like Thursay -Sunday. Then going away in Nov. I already used alot of my days so..I will probably have to take some days unpaid

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 11:58 AM

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Posted by NayNay3021

Hey Donna..The wedding is on Saturday and I am taking Thursday and Friday off to do last min things. I am also taking Monday off. We are going on a mini honeymoon the following weekend...from like Thursay -Sunday. Then going away in Nov. I already used alot of my days so..I will probably have to take some days unpaid

I didnt think about taking days off unpaid. I might just go ahead and do that come time for the HM.

KittyGags Posted: Aug 11, 2009 12:50 PM

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Posted by KYBride09

Posted by KittyGags

Posted by KYBride09

My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

Nice that your job is so understanding....

I am pretty sure thats illegal though, have you looked into it? I know someone here had a sick mother and he was off for like 6 MONTHS paid....

really?? My boss told me that I could only get unpaid leave if I was the one sick. And she has a terminal illness.

Well FMLA says differently--they don't have to pay you for it, but I think you can collect short term...does anyone work in HR that you can talk to?

Overview

Covered employers must grant an eligible employee up to a total of 12 workweeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons:

for the birth and care of the newborn child of the employee;
for placement with the employee of a son or daughter for adoption or foster care;
to care for an immediate family member (spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or
to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.

ETA LINK:
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/

pooh57362 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 02:15 PM

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I took 2 and a half days off before the wedding and went back to work that Monday. I def wish i could have taken longer.
I only get 10 days also at work so we're going on the HM the last week in December through the first week in January. This way I'm only using a week from each year.

FutureMrsG Posted: Aug 11, 2009 05:49 PM

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Posted by KYBride09

Posted by KittyGags

Posted by KYBride09

My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

Nice that your job is so understanding....

I am pretty sure thats illegal though, have you looked into it? I know someone here had a sick mother and he was off for like 6 MONTHS paid....

really?? My boss told me that I could only get unpaid leave if I was the one sick. And she has a terminal illness.

You can take up to 12 weeks unpaid to care for a parent, child or spouse under the family medical leave act:
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/

KYBride09 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 06:00 PM

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Posted by KittyGags

Posted by KYBride09

Posted by KittyGags

Posted by KYBride09

My mother has been ill so I had no choice but to use my sick and vacation days (lots lots of dr's appoinments). I will be taking 2 weeks off unpaid for my HM

Nice that your job is so understanding....

I am pretty sure thats illegal though, have you looked into it? I know someone here had a sick mother and he was off for like 6 MONTHS paid....

really?? My boss told me that I could only get unpaid leave if I was the one sick. And she has a terminal illness.

Well FMLA says differently--they don't have to pay you for it, but I think you can collect short term...does anyone work in HR that you can talk to?

Overview

Covered employers must grant an eligible employee up to a total of 12 workweeks of unpaid leave during any 12-month period for one or more of the following reasons:

for the birth and care of the newborn child of the employee;
for placement with the employee of a son or daughter for adoption or foster care;
to care for an immediate family member (spouse, child, or parent) with a serious health condition; or
to take medical leave when the employee is unable to work because of a serious health condition.

ETA LINK:
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/
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Thanks. I called HR today and I was told that I can take unpaid days only.

lizzzie35 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 06:46 PM

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Wedding is in September, HM in December. I get a total of 10 vacation/sick/personal days and I've already used 2. My HM has me missing 9 days of work and I'm also taking off the Friday before the wedding and Monday and Tuesday after. I just did not want to go back to work right away plus we have family in town. So, I won't get paid for 4 days of my HM... unless my bosses decide to be nice. Luckily they haven't given me a problem.

coldasice217 Posted: Aug 11, 2009 06:51 PM

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I'm taking off 3 days before the wedding, Wed-Fri, and then going back to work on Monday. Then I work a full week and a half, then taking Thursday and Friday off for our minimoon. I'm really not working much in December at all, just 15 days haha because of the 4 day holiday weekends too.

Then I'm not taking off till first 2 to 2 1/2 weeks of August for the real HM.