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I cant relate but I can understand. It may be hard but i am sure its worth it. Make dedicated time for you guys and rememebr there is always txt mess. Its not the same but it helps..
It's hard and it's something you have to make sure you can do for the rest of your life. I've been through bad schedules and some good ones (knock on wood) but in the end you have to make whatever you are stuck with work for you. I was miserable when FH worked midnights sliding schedule and then right before he was finally getting some weekends off they changed his squad to one that just finished up their weekends off. We went like 14 weeks (I think) without a weekend off and I thought I was going to go off the deep end. But an assignment came up that works really well for us now. We only really see eachother Fri night and Saturdays but that is a happy medium for us. It's steady at least son we can make plans and most events do take place those nights. He gets to do his stuff fridays I get to do my errands sundays and we have eachother on Saturdays. WOuld I like to see him more, of course, I'd love to cook us dinner together every night but his schedule doesn't allow it so we make the best of what time we do have. FM me any time to vent or ask questions. I don't know too many people who really understand what we go through. And I hate always being alone on NYE =(
FH has been NYPD for the past 17years...He used to have great hours 6am to 3pm. Now he decided to go back to 4-12 shifts with the wedding and all. I see him in passing when I come home for lunch, but thats about it. He works every new years. We try to make the best of it, by having our weekly 'date night' every friday evening when he comes home even if its 1am and we do have the weekends together. I'm kind of getting used to it. I would probably be a little more uptight and nervous if he was out on the streets still, but he is a Sargent/firearms instructor and works at one of the shooting ranges,so I don't have to worry sick....I know he is safe....Every now and then he does work some overnighters which I welcome since we have to save money now :) Only when there are big events where he does have to work details I usually won't see him for a week...I really can't complain since alot of you girls go days without seeing you FHs. Hang in there girls :)
My father is in the law enforcement, so I grew up and got used to the whole situation of not having him around for the holidays and being worried every night not knowing if he got hurt. Fh is not in law enforcement, but I am on the waiting list to become a police officer. My true desire is to become a detective one day. FH and I have spoken about this and he seems fine. I guess I will not truly know until I'm actually in the field (hopefully soon!)
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Posted by FallBride2012
Oh no is this what I have to look foward to?? FH is waiting for the call from the NYPD to go into the academy..![]()
I just thank goodness sometimes that the economy is bad & they have been cutting the size of the academy classes so he hasnt gotten the call yet. I know I'm pretty selfish and a bad FW, lol but I don't want to be lonely all the time while he's out fighting crimeand I want him to be safe. I like the job that he has now much better!
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My FH is also waiting to get called into the academy. He was all processed and then they started to cancel and cut classes. I feel like he has been waiting forever but it probably has only been a little over a year.
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My father is in the law enforcement, so I grew up and got used to the whole situation of not having him around for the holidays and being worried every night not knowing if he got hurt. Fh is not in law enforcement, but I am on the waiting list to become a police officer. My true desire is to become a detective one day. FH and I have spoken about this and he seems fine. I guess I will not truly know until I'm actually in the field (hopefully soon!)
Yes I can relate. I never get to see him. Weekends are totally shot and we need to take vacation days to do ANYTHING. its really annoying.
