lap dances?

hschupp Posted: Sep 01, 2009 08:51 AM

lap dances?

I don't post often,, but I found out my fiance went to a strip club and got lap dances for his bachelor party. Should I be upset??

RPMG26599 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 08:53 AM

Re: lap dances?

Posted by hschupp

I don't post often,, but I found out my fiance went to a strip club and got lap dances for his bachelor party. Should I be upset??

No, its normal for guys to do stupid stuff like that at their bach party.....mine did the same but Im not worried......those strippers got nothin on us hun

springsandra Posted: Sep 01, 2009 08:54 AM

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I wouldn't be if mine did, but I have heard this before on here and a lot of girls get really up in arms and in tears over it.

The way I feel is, you know him better than anyone, and you either trust him or you don't. A strip-club lap dance is not a sex act or prostitution. It's goofy and a very public thing, usually. The guys all joke about it and find it funny but it in no way means anything in terms of your relationship.

I figure, let him have his fun -- he loves you and you two will have your *real* fun for a LONG time to come.

Im a Pepper Posted: Sep 01, 2009 08:55 AM

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Nah... that's normal and very harmless. No worries!

julesrbf Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:08 AM

Re: lap dances?

Posted by hschupp

I don't post often,, but I found out my fiance went to a strip club and got lap dances for his bachelor party. Should I be upset??

If you trust him, then no.

alli3131 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:08 AM

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I wouldnt be....I told DH if he went to a strip club there could just be no nasty touching....and he had to steam clean his clothes when he got home.

FutureMrsM Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:17 AM

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I wouldn't be, it's part of the 'bachelor' party thing... If it was at a hotel room or something and was a private lap dance then maybe I can see getting upset, but at the strip club, the guys were probably the ones pushing him and the strippers to get the lapdance. I wouldn't start an issue over it...

JennyAPH Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:21 AM

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Its not worth the fight IMO

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:36 AM

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Nah, it's not that serious. My FH went to Vegas and there were lap dances....I'm glad he had a good time and I'm SURE he behaved.

His clothes however, are in a plastic bag and he will wash those separately...don't want that filth mixing with my clothing.

AFutureBride Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:50 AM

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No, IMO they are fine. It's a guy thing...don't stress it.

PROBM Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:57 AM

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no matter what its gross and we will get upset if we think about it ,so my motto , try so hard to ignore and go to gym and run out the frustration. i GOT A LAP DANCE AND I know i was laughing hysterically so I am sure he was doing the same.

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Sep 01, 2009 09:59 AM

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I was kinda upset that DH was doing this for his bachelor party, but my girls took me to hunkmania in manhattan and they are very raunchy and crazy so I kinda had no right to be mad at him for it.

Honestly, it's just all in fun, don't worry...strippers are nasty and our guys know that.

little34 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 10:20 AM

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I say no....it is his one get out of jail card....now if he ever went for someone elses bach party and had that done then you blow up.....but whatever....as long as he did not touch let it go. You just go out and have a great time too.

GT143EA Posted: Sep 01, 2009 11:28 AM

Re: lap dances?

Posted by little34

I say no....it is his one get out of jail card....now if he ever went for someone elses bach party and had that done then you blow up.....but whatever....as long as he did not touch let it go. You just go out and have a great time too.

ITA!

bag19 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 11:36 AM

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i think its ok. but PRIVATE lap dances are a MAJOR NO NO!!!!!

gisellea Posted: Sep 01, 2009 12:36 PM

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heck no, dont feel bad about it. im as crazy as they come and strippers dont bother me not one bit.

Sarahgetsmarried Posted: Sep 01, 2009 01:08 PM

Re: lap dances?

Posted by springsandra

I wouldn't be if mine did, but I have heard this before on here and a lot of girls get really up in arms and in tears over it.

The way I feel is, you know him better than anyone, and you either trust him or you don't. A strip-club lap dance is not a sex act or prostitution. It's goofy and a very public thing, usually. The guys all joke about it and find it funny but it in no way means anything in terms of your relationship.

I figure, let him have his fun -- he loves you and you two will have your *real* fun for a LONG time to come.

well said.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Sep 01, 2009 01:14 PM

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we discussed this beforehand so he knows how i feel about them... so he says he didnt get any but i of course dont know for sure... i would be upset if he did... but instead, mine got butt naked on stage at a strip club (montreal does weird stuff to their bachelors) so i was pretty upset about that... a bit worse than a lap dance imo lol

GT143EA Posted: Sep 01, 2009 01:16 PM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

but instead, mine got butt naked on stage at a strip club (montreal does weird stuff to their bachelors) so i was pretty upset about that... a bit worse than a lap dance imo lol

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!???????? Thats crazy!!!!!!!!

MrsGRod09 Posted: Sep 01, 2009 01:19 PM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

we discussed this beforehand so he knows how i feel about them... so he says he didnt get any but i of course dont know for sure... i would be upset if he did... but instead, mine got butt naked on stage at a strip club (montreal does weird stuff to their bachelors) so i was pretty upset about that... a bit worse than a lap dance imo lol

Whoa that's nuts!! I would've totally flipped .

I would be a little peeved about the lap dance but would just let it go.