Leaving for Honeymoon a week after wedding? (long and X-post)

Hi ladies.

We are getting married on a Saturday evening. We are most likely honeymooning in Moorea and Bora Bora. Takes about a full day to get there.

Based on what all of my friends have recommended, we do NOT want to leave for our HM on Sunday, since we'll still be recuperating from wedding. So we want to leave Monday.

To leave for this trip, we'd leave from NY area in the afternoon on Monday, and not get there til Tuesday. We then would need to leave on a Friday to come home, since it takes a full day, and that would get us home on a Saturday, with Sunday to recuperate before we go back to work. So we'd be away about 10 days.

However, that Friday coming home is Christmas. We don't like the idea of traveling on Christmas. We then realized that if we waited a week after our wedding, we could leave on the Saturday, and come home on New Year's Day (a Friday). This would give us 2 more nights of our honeymoon than if we went right after our wedding, for not much more cost (the biggest expense of the trip is the airfare to get us there, not the hotel).

We have floated this idea past a few friends/family members, and some have discouraged it - they think we should leave right away to relax, etc. I see pros and cons of going right away versus waiting the week. The big pro for waiting a week is that we get two extra nights on our dream honeymoon.

Thoughts? Sorry so long, and sorry for x-post - sometimes I'm not sure which group to post in.

first hooray for the bora bora moorea trip! we are going there too. and so i totally understand the travel and all that. i think either way is fine. i see nothign wrong with leaving a week after the wedding. sure it isnt ideal.. or typical... and some people may even stick their noses up at it... but who cares.. if it gets you a better deal and you can stay longer?? screw it I say go for it. Personally i wouldnt want to wait to leave... but at the same time being able to stay longer is well worth it to me!

we are coming home the day before thanksgiving and fh goes back to work that friday. i wasnted to come home on like tuesday but that would shorted the hm and i wanted a full 14 days there.... then add on travel time to that. we are having a fri wedding and leaving sunday... so i agree with the day in between. we are leaving sunday to cali and staying in cali until that monday night flight that gets you to tahiti early in the morning on tuesday. then we wait like 2 hours to take a 40 min flight to moorea. the travel is insane but im pretty sure the trip will be well worth it!

A friend of mine got married on a Saturday and didn't leave for her HM until the following Saturday so they could get the extra day due to a holiday.

If that's what works for you and FH, who cares what people think? I understand about not wanting to leave the morning after your wedding (I'm getting married Saturday, leaving for the HM Monday).

Do what works for you and FH. I would want to be selfish and take the longer HM too.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

first hooray for the bora bora moorea trip! we are going there too. and so i totally understand the travel and all that. i think either way is fine. i see nothign wrong with leaving a week after the wedding. sure it isnt ideal.. or typical... and some people may even stick their noses up at it... but who cares.. if it gets you a better deal and you can stay longer?? screw it I say go for it. Personally i wouldnt want to wait to leave... but at the same time being able to stay longer is well worth it to me!

we are coming home the day before thanksgiving and fh goes back to work that friday. i wasnted to come home on like tuesday but that would shorted the hm and i wanted a full 14 days there.... then add on travel time to that. we are having a fri wedding and leaving sunday... so i agree with the day in between. we are leaving sunday to cali and staying in cali until that monday night flight that gets you to tahiti early in the morning on tuesday. then we wait like 2 hours to take a 40 min flight to moorea. the travel is insane but im pretty sure the trip will be well worth it!

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Thanks, that's helpful. I'm really torn. Oh and the other thing is that I have more vacation days than FH, so if we wait a week, he's already off 4 of the days (Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day).

Where are you staying on your HM?

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Posted by Tracey1979

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Posted by KerriJohnS

first hooray for the bora bora moorea trip! we are going there too. and so i totally understand the travel and all that. i think either way is fine. i see nothign wrong with leaving a week after the wedding. sure it isnt ideal.. or typical... and some people may even stick their noses up at it... but who cares.. if it gets you a better deal and you can stay longer?? screw it I say go for it. Personally i wouldnt want to wait to leave... but at the same time being able to stay longer is well worth it to me!

we are coming home the day before thanksgiving and fh goes back to work that friday. i wasnted to come home on like tuesday but that would shorted the hm and i wanted a full 14 days there.... then add on travel time to that. we are having a fri wedding and leaving sunday... so i agree with the day in between. we are leaving sunday to cali and staying in cali until that monday night flight that gets you to tahiti early in the morning on tuesday. then we wait like 2 hours to take a 40 min flight to moorea. the travel is insane but im pretty sure the trip will be well worth it!

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Thanks, that's helpful. I'm really torn. Oh and the other thing is that I have more vacation days than FH, so if we wait a week, he's already off 4 of the days (Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day).

Where are you staying on your HM?

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i say do it.
we are staying at moorea pearl resport and spa in a garden with private pool bungalow and then in bora bora we are staying at le maitai polynesia in an overwater bungalow! im sooo excited! it really gives me something to look forward to after the wedding is over and im sad that the wedding is over.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

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Posted by Tracey1979

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Posted by KerriJohnS

first hooray for the bora bora moorea trip! we are going there too. and so i totally understand the travel and all that. i think either way is fine. i see nothign wrong with leaving a week after the wedding. sure it isnt ideal.. or typical... and some people may even stick their noses up at it... but who cares.. if it gets you a better deal and you can stay longer?? screw it I say go for it. Personally i wouldnt want to wait to leave... but at the same time being able to stay longer is well worth it to me!

we are coming home the day before thanksgiving and fh goes back to work that friday. i wasnted to come home on like tuesday but that would shorted the hm and i wanted a full 14 days there.... then add on travel time to that. we are having a fri wedding and leaving sunday... so i agree with the day in between. we are leaving sunday to cali and staying in cali until that monday night flight that gets you to tahiti early in the morning on tuesday. then we wait like 2 hours to take a 40 min flight to moorea. the travel is insane but im pretty sure the trip will be well worth it!

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Thanks, that's helpful. I'm really torn. Oh and the other thing is that I have more vacation days than FH, so if we wait a week, he's already off 4 of the days (Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day).

Where are you staying on your HM?

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i say do it.
we are staying at moorea pearl resport and spa in a garden with private pool bungalow and then in bora bora we are staying at le maitai polynesia in an overwater bungalow! im sooo excited! it really gives me something to look forward to after the wedding is over and im sad that the wedding is over.

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How did you decide on the hotels, we are SO overwhelmed. Any discounts re: airfare - that is the worst part!