If I get the position that I'm hoping for, they offer health insurance, which my FH pays out of his own pocket, almost $400 a month, which is way more than he can afford at the moment. If we get legally married, so that he can be on my policy, but I don't want to change my name yet, until we are married in the church, next year, how would I go about that?? Do I have the option of legally changing my name to my husbands a full year later??
I believe so...nothing really happens until you change your name at social security office
OK thanks! So there are no few associated with changing your name??
I think you can add him as a significant other.
do you live together and have for at least the past year? if so, he can qualify as your domestic partner and get your benefits. you'd just need to submit paperwork including proof that you've lived together for at least a year and he'd qualify.
New York passed a law as long as you live together 6 months you can have him under your insurance. You do not have to get married till the actual big day.
Problem is we won't be living together till after the wedding. The legal marriage would just be a formality to allow him to be on my insurance. My parents would have a panic attack if FH and I lived together before our official church wedding. Thanks ladiess!!!!!!!!
Posted by mjm2012
do you live together and have for at least the past year? if so, he can qualify as your domestic partner and get your benefits. you'd just need to submit paperwork including proof that you've lived together for at least a year and he'd qualify.
Posted by mjm2012
do you live together and have for at least the past year? if so, he can qualify as your domestic partner and get your benefits. you'd just need to submit paperwork including proof that you've lived together for at least a year and he'd qualify.
Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
Posted by Nikki_Liz
You have to check with your employer if they offer the domestic partnership option. A friend of mine at work had a similar situation and our job does not offer benefits for domestic partners they had to get married. She changed her name right away at work but left her drivers license the same so that people who would give her crap about still having the wedding, like Lindsey is having problems with, wouldn't know.
Lindsey I Think it's great that your still having your wedding you still want to have your day and to celebrate with the people you love!
Thank you. We are calling it an affirmation of our vows and having the wording on our invites say 'To Celebrate the Marriage of'. I am Jewish and Justin is Catholic and in his faith / family the marriage isnt even recognized unless it is done by a priest - and for me, the Rabbi blessing the wedding and the traditions are so important.
Yes we are married legally - but to us the wedding is the 'seal' to make it official in they eyes of our family and friends.
But unfortunately - there are still jerks, like my MOH who say 'you are already married Lindsay, so why do you care so much about this wedding' I have no one throwing me a shower, no bachelorette party, nothing a normal bride gets and it really just breaks my heart :(
Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
Thank you. We are calling it an affirmation of our vows and having the wording on our invites say 'To Celebrate the Marriage of'. I am Jewish and Justin is Catholic and in his faith / family the marriage isnt even recognized unless it is done by a priest - and for me, the Rabbi blessing the wedding and the traditions are so important.
Yes we are married legally - but to us the wedding is the 'seal' to make it official in they eyes of our family and friends.
But unfortunately - there are still jerks, like my MOH who say 'you are already married Lindsay, so why do you care so much about this wedding' I have no one throwing me a shower, no bachelorette party, nothing a normal bride gets and it really just breaks my heart :(
Posted by KL824
Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
Posted by Nikki_Liz
You have to check with your employer if they offer the domestic partnership option. A friend of mine at work had a similar situation and our job does not offer benefits for domestic partners they had to get married. She changed her name right away at work but left her drivers license the same so that people who would give her crap about still having the wedding, like Lindsey is having problems with, wouldn't know.
Lindsey I Think it's great that your still having your wedding you still want to have your day and to celebrate with the people you love!
Thank you. We are calling it an affirmation of our vows and having the wording on our invites say 'To Celebrate the Marriage of'. I am Jewish and Justin is Catholic and in his faith / family the marriage isnt even recognized unless it is done by a priest - and for me, the Rabbi blessing the wedding and the traditions are so important.
Yes we are married legally - but to us the wedding is the 'seal' to make it official in they eyes of our family and friends.
But unfortunately - there are still jerks, like my MOH who say 'you are already married Lindsay, so why do you care so much about this wedding' I have no one throwing me a shower, no bachelorette party, nothing a normal bride gets and it really just breaks my heart :(
I can't believe that!! You made a decision to make your life better by getting health insurance during a hard time (I'm sure losing your job is a hard time-I'm going through that right now) and people are actually saying things like that to you? Are they not throwing you shower/bachelorette parties as a reflection of getting legally married beforehand???
And btw I absolutely agree that the wedding in front of family and friends is what really matters!!
Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
Posted by KL824
Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
Posted by Nikki_Liz
You have to check with your employer if they offer the domestic partnership option. A friend of mine at work had a similar situation and our job does not offer benefits for domestic partners they had to get married. She changed her name right away at work but left her drivers license the same so that people who would give her crap about still having the wedding, like Lindsey is having problems with, wouldn't know.
Lindsey I Think it's great that your still having your wedding you still want to have your day and to celebrate with the people you love!
Thank you. We are calling it an affirmation of our vows and having the wording on our invites say 'To Celebrate the Marriage of'. I am Jewish and Justin is Catholic and in his faith / family the marriage isnt even recognized unless it is done by a priest - and for me, the Rabbi blessing the wedding and the traditions are so important.
Yes we are married legally - but to us the wedding is the 'seal' to make it official in they eyes of our family and friends.
But unfortunately - there are still jerks, like my MOH who say 'you are already married Lindsay, so why do you care so much about this wedding' I have no one throwing me a shower, no bachelorette party, nothing a normal bride gets and it really just breaks my heart :(
I can't believe that!! You made a decision to make your life better by getting health insurance during a hard time (I'm sure losing your job is a hard time-I'm going through that right now) and people are actually saying things like that to you? Are they not throwing you shower/bachelorette parties as a reflection of getting legally married beforehand???
And btw I absolutely agree that the wedding in front of family and friends is what really matters!!
YUP. Makes me sadOne of my bridesmaids actually messaged me asking if my MOH was treating me any better - she is ok - by no means is she a good MOH or even a slightly OK MOH - but she is also perpetually single and might just be holding that against me?
