Let' s be honest girls about the BP.....................

mrszg2be Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:42 PM

Let' s be honest girls about the BP.....................

Is there anyone who put someone in their wedding party just because she or he is a member of your FH's family. Deep down u know they are going to do or say something that will annoy u on your special day. I have a feeling my FH will want his rowdy little niece as a flower girl and his equally rowdy nephews as ushers. I feel like once u feel obligated. Your whole family will end up being the wedding party. Who will be the guest. When does the BS wedding politics stop!

johnsae Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:44 PM

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yes, my FSIL is on my side and she has done nothing but ***** about the dress, 'doesn't know' if she can make it to the showers and bachelorette party, and shows a general lack of enthusiasm.....if it was my choice I wouldn't have her in my BP.

mcb916 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:47 PM

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No family members in either side of the wedding. I know his sister would not want to be a BM and I have 3 brothers so he couldn't pick just one so they were all left out. We are having my nieces as flower girls but they will only be at the church and they are 3 so not too much drama from them hopefully

SIBride06 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:50 PM

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Yes I put my FH's cousin, but shes cute & harmless

thefirstlady Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:52 PM

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Thank God I'm not dealing w/ that! The only thing is one particular family member on his side who his parents automatically thought would get to be in the limo bus w/ us. I can't get into details, but it's gonna get ugly if they insist!
But I agree wedding politics ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kris516 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 08:52 PM

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I def have some friends who I felt obligated to ask due to 'package deals', and somehow I wound up with 12 BMs!! I waited as long as I could to ask, and although everyone was excited about our engagement, my true friend's colors have shown through.

BlueTulip Posted: Feb 07, 2006 09:16 PM

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Not on my side, but 3 of FH's 5 groomsmen are my family so he might feel it

MrsD06 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 09:55 PM

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yes, there is somene like that and that's all I'm gonna say!

jennandrob Posted: Feb 07, 2006 10:00 PM

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been there, had that. 'Nuff said.

beautyq115 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 10:00 PM

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Um YES! Partially because there was no one else...and then she was in my FI's family...and guess what...SHE is the one giving me the MOST problems

MrsStefan Posted: Feb 07, 2006 10:45 PM

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Yes...I am dealing with that right now. FSIL said to me after I asked her to be in the bridal party 'well, I dont want to but now that you asked me, I have to'. That's just the start of how things have been going. While she hasnt said anything directly to ME, she has said things to FMIL who has, in turn, said them to me (in a not so nice way). FMIL informed me that she told FSIL to 'back out while she can'. Thats wonderful! She dosent want to order the dresses when we need to, dosent want to be up in front of everyone at the ceremony, and shows little to no enthusiam that FH an I are getting married...but then again, not many people inFH's family have.

pigs222seal Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:39 PM

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Yes, this happened to be a bit of a problem at first. I have two brothers and 4 sisters. I am haveing all my sisters as my BM and I had to include my brothers as GM. My FH had a problem with this b/c he believes he she have the say and he wanted all his frineds. In the end he gave in and I am including my two brothers. I love my FH

nov06 Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:42 PM

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Honestly, no. I'm having both my two FSIL's in the BP. FH said I didn't have to but I really wanted too and they have been so great and helpful.

Preshy7 Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:43 PM

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yes- and that same person has given me stress about the dress and everything else

EMES2006 Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:51 PM

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For so many of the above reasons, and others that aren't as 'upsetting' (for lack of a better word), we chose to only have a MOH and a Best Man. Not sure if anyone disagreed with this or not, but it was our decision, and one I don't regret one bit!!

amstellitelady Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:51 PM

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I'm lucky. My FI has only brothers

jada2destiny Posted: Feb 08, 2006 01:55 PM

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I put my FH's Niece in the wedding knowing that her mother would b!tch about the cost of the dress. She said she wasn't paying the amount for the dress, I kicked her off my line, and the rest is history!

TheBigDay Posted: Feb 08, 2006 02:10 PM

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I am having FSIL, but we are friends... i kinda fear some complaining, but that is ok... I do kinda fear political crap not having FH SIL in the BP, but we just dont really get a long and are NOT friends...