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So, I wasn't going to say anything on here, but i honestly feel very alone in this situation and i don't know what to do. My MOH is a little bit on the drama side but she was trying to do her best to make me happy. Well, everything blew up. She sent out an email to my bridesmaids and the moms about my shower. The email wasn't that bad and didn't say anything crazy. I thought it was nice. Well near the end she said make sure no one tells my FH anything because he has a big mouth. Now one of the problems is that my MOH has not met any of my FH family---no one knows each others personalities. So my mother in law calls her and apparently is very rude to her yadda yadda yadda--my MOH freaks out, tells me everything, and i go home crying having a nervous breakdown. I spoke to my mother in law this morning and she said that MOH took what she said the wrong way---SHE ACTUALLY CALLED MY MOH TO APOLOGIZE, but the MOH didn't like her apology....WHAT DO I DO???? I am in such a bad situation I have been crying for the past two days and i don't know what to do. I feel like no matter what my MOH is going to make a big fuss about everything. Today things got so bad that i told her my mom and mother in law will plan my bridal shower----i asked her if she even wants to be in my bridal party. I feel like this is def. affecting OUR(MOH) relationship AND BTW my MOH is also my cousin so she is saying how my FH family is treating her like ****. She also won't stop talking about it. So, she is making me sick over everything. A part of me wishes she would back out. I was thinking about telling her 'if you don't want to be in the bridal party anymore, i understand' I am SO lost

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Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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I'm with Jess on this one!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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This!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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couldn't have said it better!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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Exactly!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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This exactly!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

Honestly, I think your MOH was totally out of line saying that about your FH to HIS family. It's one thing to joke to you about, but his family is something totally different. If your MIL apologized & your MOH didn't like it, then your MOH is the one treating people like **** and needs to woman up. If I were you, I'd tell her that she needs to stop her drama because you have enough to deal with!

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This!!

Lets talk a little about DRAMA - Long Island Weddings

She may have thought it was a joke when she said it but obviously once FHs mom said something to her she should have apologized and dropped it. Even if she didn't think she was wrong, its your wedding and she shouldn't create drama with your soon to be family over something so stupid.

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Thanks guys. I know i am going to have to say something to her and i am dreading it because it usually ends in a fight and she is my MOH. Ah well! You gotta do what you gotta do, besides i should be the bridezilla not her! lol

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i agree with everyone! also thinking that she was probably joking and should have just apologized and dropped it for your sake.

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I agree with everyone, too! People read different things into emails and texts, pick up on attitudes when there are none!

So sorry that this happened - planning a wedding and dealing with everyone's personality isn't hard enough!

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OMG, you guys! On top of all that i was let go from my job yesterday....this has been a rough week for me. I basically told my MOH that i don't want to know anything about my wedding and that i have so much stress on me already and NOW I NEED TO FIND A JOB ASAP!!! ahhhhhh

Lets talk a little about DRAMA

Seriously, I'd tell her you have enough to worry about, least of all being some 'misunderstanding' between her and the family you're to be married into. Neither of them are going anywhere so if she could, for the sake of your sanity, bite her tonge until the wedding is all said and done. By then, if she still feels there's an issue, you'll be of much sounder mind to address it.

Use the job hunt as a reason to divert your attention away from there even being a problem. Stay positive girl, don't spend another minute worrying about your MOH. She'll get over it and in the mean time you'll get a new job and have a wedding. YAY!

Best of luck, it'll all work out :D