I recently received an FM from --- (I refuse to post bc heaven forbid I get another fm) and the intent of this is not to reflect negatively on someone merely performing their job and I’m sure it was sent if only to cover all bases and as an FYI (perhaps it was a uniform blanket sent to all those who posted)…?? Anywaze this was in regards to advice for me not to “warn” other brides about a particular limo company in question – supposedly in my best interest and to protect me. I hope y’all know what limo company I’m referring too…
First and foremost – I Luv this website and I think client services are beyond awesome and do an amazing job!!!!!!!!
With that being said - I understand that that may have to protect vendors but what about us?
I did post a response on that thread –two posts to be exact – 1) I stated that I would be sure to steer clear thanking her for her honest review and that she should report them to the better business bureau. 2) She asked for help spreading the word so I recommended she post her review on yelp and the yellow pages and that I was horrified by what she experienced and she should take them to court. (Never mentioned the name of the company) & 3) (Separate thread) A bride was inquiring about a unique car idea and I told her to do research before booking due to prior negative reviews (someone else referenced the company earlier in the thread). (I didn’t mention the name and advised her to research before booking which would call upon her own judgment) and we tell brides to research different photography options everyday so what’s the big deal on this particular company- why should they get special treatment!???… What exactly was I being warned about and protection from what? Because in my opinion – that was an opinion – not even negatively reviewing them except for the fact that I mentioned they had negative reviews (no further details included) on these other sites (which is fact): surprise surprise.
I also sent an fm to a total of three brides who solicited information on another post regarding the aforementioned so I provided them with just the name of the company (and that’s it). But never publicly displayed in any way shape or form unless the content of my fm is assumed– so unless the “right to change policy” (privacy policy page) has been exercised – I don’t see how this was harmful as it was an internal communication, which supposedly is not displayed to vendors.
I felt threatened by this message, even though it was “in my best interest” because it made me apprehensive in regards to stating my opinions and made me feel as though they were in fact looking out for the vendors best interest and that I was simply being warned; actually told to “refrain” from replying in this thread with a thanks for my support and understanding. I understand it may have something to do with compliance but I do not support this stance.
So with that being said I don’t see how I did anything wrong – I thought this was about brides helping brides???
I don't think we should pay the ultimate price for vendors who suc*k and there should be a better screening process for the vendors they choose (or higher standards) to advertise or some sort of contract review and renewal process... their are plenty of viable and honest vendors on waiting list for this site (because vendors I met with have mentioned this before) and someone else should be given the chance to prevail where others have failed! & That’s my three cents! I understand there are often mixed reviews with certain vendors (all subject to oPiNiOn) but they shouldn’t be protected by only good reviews… In my opinion I think this aids a false representation of the company.
Oh and as far as best interest:
These posts are specifically in an area designated for opinion anything other than that is speculation by the vendor. “Long Island Brides helping Long Island Brides!
Come and post your Long Island Wedding concerns, solutions, dilemmas or just blow off some steam. Receive some advice or just hear what other Long Island brides and grooms have to say” That’s the intro before any one logs into BHB. Word for word. Soooooo… what up?
Just because they pay$ doesn’t mean we should pay the ultimate price of tears on our wedding day and after-all -opinions are simply what we have to say based on our personal judgment- brides should be able to make well informed choices through research, review and recommendations, which I’m sure we all do… posts like these merely contribute to decision making but by no means enforces a choice. We make final conclusions and one good opinion may weigh just the same as a negative depiction therefore who’s to say we wont judge for ourselves?
Furthermore, there's a clear difference between libel/slander and opinion. Stating your opinion is a protected constitutional right. It’s not a smear campaign.
I never had an experience with this company and mereley sympathized with the bride as I am sure all of you can understand… I never posted anything against this company nor did I mention them and responded to the inquiry on a post via fm… If my best interest are in fact affected by this – I should sue over freedom of speech – there was no defamation, slander, or offense. I mean Im surprized mcdonalds is still selling burgers god forbid someone sues over a heart attack? Sh*t B*tch next thing you know I’m going to go ape sh*t on someone for breathing on me and take them to court for getting a cold.
…Because after all isn’t that what my “protected interest” boils down too or am I subject to the same crime of assumption and speculation?
Sorry for the rant (actually I’m really not)– and mind you I have not yet had the need to post a thread until today (other than botw week and because y’all are ever so helpful and usually a search does the trick) but I was outraged by this.
I personally think this is a Double standard on an honest opinion – Yay for good nay for bad – what is up with that…
I hope I still get a t-shirt with my 1000th post but I’ve always stood up for what I believe in and my opinion is simply that. My opinion! & No one can take that away.
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