my sister planning my shower, told me that mostly everyone is somewat helping. she feels that she should take all the responsbility for paying for everything. i tink that is not fair to her. I am grateful to have a sister like this and sometimes i truly know she always have my back . I have one bm that cant give any money because her mom isnt doing well, mind you she dooesnt work, her husband works, she hasnt come to me and ask me if or let know if she cant be my bm. right now it a waiting game if she is going to drop out. The big stumbling block is noone want to pay for restaurant (not sure where they will have it), but noone want to chip in or foot the bill. gosh i should have chosen wisley when i picked my bms , i did not want this drama, nor do i wish it upon anyone. I did not want to aggravate my sister with bm drama, they giving her a headache, i feel bad, I feel bad that no one is chipping in. sorry for the long vent.
Mooshyboo
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awwww try to stay out of this part ~ I know it is hard and is hard because of your sister being your MOH - but it will work out - my Bm's had drama and I was only brought in the mix by accident - but it will work out sweetie! I know you feel bad but let your sister and the BM's work it out ~ that is sweet for your sister to want to do it all but that is tough on one person! good luck and hope it all works out!
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Aw im sorry that this is going on...try not to get involved tho.
I had the same issue-and got to the point where I had wished I didnt have a BP. My FMIL paid for the whole shower...it will work out either way. Maybe ask your sister to do something smaller, back yard BBQ or at the park if you dont want her spending crazy money
JMM7876
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I hear ya! There is always one...I kinda found out some stuff and it is pissing me off too! Worst part is there is nothing I can do right now!
RGV07
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thanks for your inputs ladies, this whole sower things is now going to aggravate me, at this point i dont want it, and second i dont want my sister paying for everything, it just not fair to her.
MrsQ-in2007
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I know what you mean and really understand how you feel. I think you should try to stay out of it, but it's good to know who's really there for you and who's not.
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I came to the conclusion that I was picking people who are important to me in my life, and not a consulting team. That these women are important to me because they have been there for me in the ways that they can. I want these women to be by my side, and who cares if they don't execute like Angelina Jolie as Mrs. Smith. I want them there to share in my day.
dancerandchef
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It will all work out. I had my share of BM drama. Here are some hugs.
~dancer and chef~ charlotte and michael
RGV07
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thanks ladies , i not sure how my sister will pull it off, since she works but doesnt make that much money, and plus she has her own money problems. plus in the end it will work.
Future Mrs.
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I know that you are feeling guilty about your sister spending all the $, but I think you should stay out of it at this point. Your sister sounds great....she can handle this! You...sit back and enjoy being a bride. It only happens once. ENJOY IT! You will have plenty of other wonderful opportunities and life events to give back to your sis....don't rob her of the pleasure of doing this for you. Stay out of it, don't worry too much, and enjoy.
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It's great that you have an awesome sister, and sh!tty that your BM's aren't pulling thru! You really should stay out of it unless there is no other choice. If you do have to get involved talk to them ans see what can be done. GL
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oy.. don't get involved, but your POOR SISTER.
I'm lucky. Aside from my FSIL, I was in all 3 of my BM's Bridal Parties... So it's MY TURN!!
Kara and Todd
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I understand how you feel, however, you really should stay out of it.
Also, I do NOT think it is a BM's responsibility to pay for or help pay for the shower. If they can and want to, that is one thing, but it shouldn't be expected. My mom footed the entire bill for mine and wouldn't have asked any of them to chip in. I understand not everyone has that luxury, but I still don't think it should be expected that the BMs pay for the shower.
B22
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Posted by Kara and Todd
I understand how you feel, however, you really should stay out of it.
Also, I do NOT think it is a BM's responsibility to pay for or help pay for the shower. If they can and want to, that is one thing, but it shouldn't be expected. My mom footed the entire bill for mine and wouldn't have asked any of them to chip in. I understand not everyone has that luxury, but I still don't think it should be expected that the BMs pay for the shower.
my mom is footing the bill also.
RGV07
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Posted by Kara and Todd
I understand how you feel, however, you really should stay out of it.
Also, I do NOT think it is a BM's responsibility to pay for or help pay for the shower. If they can and want to, that is one thing, but it shouldn't be expected. My mom footed the entire bill for mine and wouldn't have asked any of them to chip in. I understand not everyone has that luxury, but I still don't think it should be expected that the BMs pay for the shower.
i guess, but my bms should give at something at least to help her, but not the entire cost if it too much for them to handle.
