I am just curious who lives with there FH already? Also for those of you who dont will any of you be moving in together before the wedding? I would love to move in with him now...if we only had a place! I am just hating driving home from his house all the time. Just curious who already has the joy of living with there hubby to be!
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My FH and I have lived together for about 1 1/2 years. I think it has really helped prepare us for what married life is like. We rent a house, so we know how to budget and run a household together, we have adjusted to each others work schedules (we both work crazy hours), and we have learned how to deal with each others living habits and moods. Dont get me wrong, there are days I want to strangle him and Im sure days he wants to strangle me, but we get over it pretty easy. We moved in together 2 months before we got engaged, partially to see if we could live together and still be happy and also because I lived in Queens and he lived in Bayshore and we didnt get to see each other that much. So, now that we got the living together thing down, after the wedding the next thing is to look for a house of our own!!
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we've been living together for 3 years. I can't imagine not living with him.
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Sonicstef
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We have been living together for close to 4 years now.
I am really thankful that I won't have to deal with stress that comes with adjusting to each others habits when you first live together after we are married. Those first 6 months were really tough.
Before moving in, we spent almost all our time together so we expected very little adjustment. We were so wrong! Spending time together and living together are worlds apart and there is a lot of surprises and compromises to be made.
So now after we are married, we can just enjoy that without all the bad stuff.
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We've been living together for a little over 3 years - I too am glad we did this before the wedding for a few reasons. Like Stef said, the first few mths were tough for us too, and I didn't want to start our marriage off that way! LOL 2 - no moving once we're back from the honeymoon!
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Living together for 2 years. It was the best decision we ever made. We moved in before we were engaged, and he proposed a few months after we moved in together. To be honest, I know he NEEDED to live with me first - he was slightly terrified of marriage!!
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We have been living together for about a year now. I totally recommend it to everyone. As much as you think you know someone ... things are so different when you live with them.
We were lucky in that we were both living on our own before we moved in together and we dating for along time so our adjustment period wasn't too bad. I have seen so many people who have a hard time when they first move in.
We save so much money too! (Before we were paying two NYC rents!)
Being a teacher I would spend most of the summers living at his apartment and then about 4-5 nights a week at his place (and the other 2 we were at mine) and then it became official 9 months before the wedding...its just easier to find a place, set it up, unpack and clean, without last minute wedding stress..
It was not my mothers ideal situation, but I told her since we had a long engagement, we really would have been married already - living together...
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I'm in the same situation as missmmpr. We do not currently live together and we are actually closing on our house this Tuesday .
My FH will be moving in and even though I want to move in also, I am going to wait b/c my mother would not like it and we only have 90 days left until our wedding. So, I feel like I can wait out the 3 months to keep the peace in the family. If I had to wait longer than 6 months, I would move in. I also figure that I'll be over there all the time anyway and will spend most of my nights over there. My mother wouldn't mind that as long as I don't permanently move in untill after our wedding.
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My FH and I got a place together a few months after getting engaged. We wanted to buy a house, but coudn't swing it on top of saving for the wedding. We spent every night together before moving in together, so we didn't have any adjustement period at all. It was like we had always lived together becasue we had spent so long alternating nights driving to the others apartment. It is so nice to come home and not ever have to pack a bag to spend the night somewhere else!
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My FH and I don't live together yet. We are looking to buy a home (which we all know is so hard to do because of the prices). We plan to buy a home and move in together before the wedding. We've spent 6 years driving 30-40 minutes to see each other, so we'll be happy when we won't have to do that anymore!
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I live with my mom and my grandparents. I will not be living with FH before the wedding. But, I don't have too far to go to visit him because he lives next door
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I don't beleive in living together b4 marriage. Just my opinion. I think it's cool for those who do but it's not for us. We will be buying a house and live in it AFTER the wedding.
IrishTracy
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I've lived w/ my Fi for over a year
tarakinspa
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I would love to but I guess we are old fashioned (my mom always said he'll never buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free haha lol) but we figure we've been apart for 5 years why not make it till after the wedding. Now finding a house is the tough part!!
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We have lived together for 1 year, only 1 month before we got engaged. It is too expensive to pay for 2 rents plus 2 household bills AND the wedding. I am glad we did move in together first. We have learned all of the small tough that drives people crazy and already dealt with it.
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We have been together for 8 years, but live with our own parents. We feel this is best since we are able to save for our home. We only live 2 miles away, so we're pretty close to one another.
Our wedding is next July, so we hope to start looking for home in the winter.
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Been living together since December - but here is the kicker...3 days after I moved in, his sister moved in with us. We have a 2 bedroom apartment on the 2nd floor of his father's house, and she broke up with her fiance, whom she was living with, and is staying with us while his father converts the basement into an apartment for her.
Not that she's nothing but a pleasure, and in her defense, is hardly ever there. (She has since reconciled with her fiance, but refuses to move back in with him until they walk down the aisle.) But still it would be nice to know the place is all ours.
