Living Arrangements

Any of you ladies waiting to live with your FH until you are married? Well well are, but I'm like DYING to move in together. We have been stalking apartment listings (just for fun) and I just feel in love with an apartment. I seriously want it. I don't know how I am going to make it to June!

we moved in together in February but the orginal plan was to wait!

The apartment we are in now is sooo amazing and great and couldnt pass up the offer. We have 2 cats and a dog and I was worried we would never find something afforable and close to my parents without it being a gross and/or too small.

So even though it was a fight to the bitter end with my mom we decided to move in!
Couldnt be happier with our decision.

we moved in together 4 months after we met
but its been good. I like knowing that I live well with him, and I already know all of his weird habits!

We've been living together for 2 years already (a full year before we got engaged).

PP was right-you learn SO much about a person when you live together! The beginning was NOT easy; i'm so glad that we got that period of adjustment out of the way!

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Posted by jesstangney

FH and I were lving together for nearly 2 years before we got engaged. I am a BIG proponent of living together before marriage. This way you can sort of figure out each other's little idiocyncracies and really see if you can live together. There are so many couples that are great before and then move in together after the marriage and realize that they just can't stand living together! You are better off finding out before hand and canceling the wedding or postponing it so that you can work things out then waiting until afterward! Just IMHO - HTH!

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Thanks for your opinion. I hear this argument and think it has many valid points... but it's just not for either of us.

We have been living together for 2 years now. When FH got home from Iraq and out of the military I was desperate to spend every second with him!! And well now... He drives me crazyyy!!!! Hahah! We live at my parents, so we technically dont have our 'own' place- once we are married (and done spending all our money!!!) we are going to go house hunting!

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Posted by DCgirl82

We are waiting until a few months before the wedding... usuing the Apt money for the wedding LoL!

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I think that's exactly what we are gonna do, too. We'll probably start seriously looking at apartments in March.

Do you guys know where you want to live?

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Posted by DCgirl82

We are waiting until a few months before the wedding... usuing the Apt money for the wedding LoL!

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Us too.

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Posted by jesstangney

FH and I were lving together for nearly 2 years before we got engaged. I am a BIG proponent of living together before marriage. This way you can sort of figure out each other's little idiocyncracies and really see if you can live together. There are so many couples that are great before and then move in together after the marriage and realize that they just can't stand living together! You are better off finding out before hand and canceling the wedding or postponing it so that you can work things out then waiting until afterward! Just IMHO - HTH!

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FH and I totally agree!!!!! we have been living together for almost 4 years and have 2 kids (yea we like to do things backwards ) FH says hes so happy it went this way bc we had LOTS of bumps along the way he we both know now how to make it work great! FH said that if anyone asks him to marry one of our daughters he will tell them no unless they live together first

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Posted by jesstangney

FH and I were lving together for nearly 2 years before we got engaged. I am a BIG proponent of living together before marriage. This way you can sort of figure out each other's little idiocyncracies and really see if you can live together. There are so many couples that are great before and then move in together after the marriage and realize that they just can't stand living together! You are better off finding out before hand and canceling the wedding or postponing it so that you can work things out then waiting until afterward! Just IMHO - HTH!

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i totally agree.

my fiance and i have been living together for about 4 years now.

you definitely learn a lot about a person by living with them.

FH and I live together, but I waited until we were engaged. Only because I worked and lived in Jersey, and I told him I would NOT commute unless I had a ring and knew it was for keeps.

We have been living together for just over a month now and while it's going good, we definitely encounter challenges (note: me hysterically crying over him having waaay too many clothes and building 'me' a closet and then trying to fill it with t-shirts he never wears and still have tags). It's the choice we made, and I think it's what's right for us (saving money etc).

However, I do think that you're going to encounter challenges either way, and so you're always going to have to work on it, so I totally respect the decision to not move in together too. I understand it's tough but I think I wouldn't move in with someone if I really thought we were going to have significant problems and not get married? Just my opinion.

Nope we live together...2 years on Tuesday actually 5 years dating...
We are paying this wedding ourselves and both paying rent separately was just a waste of money for us...

We're waiting despite the fact that we're always at each others places. I would love to move in together but my parents are old fashioned and strict catholics when it comes to that sort of thing and seeing as how they are paying for half of the wedding, I want to respect their wishes.

Plus am I weird to think that it's part of the experience? I'm oddly looking forward to getting married and then adjusting to 'married life' by living together...