living together?

I'm struggling with this too. We have not met with the priest yet but I am up in the air about whether or not to lie about living together. Problem is, the only people I knew who have gotten married at my church by the same priest didn't have this problem because they were not living together beforehand.

FH says we shouldn't lie and that if the priest has a problem with it than we will find someone else, but if I am getting married in a church I would really like it to be my church (if I had my way it would be getting married on a beach somewhere on a tropical island).

I totally said that I lived with my parents and my FH said he lived at our address.

The priest was so mean about a bunch of other stuff anyway, we didn't want to rock the boat!

FH & I are living together but we have our mail going to our parents houses still so we can just say we live apart.

I didn't really think that mattered, but I guess it does right?

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Posted by AngnShaun

yeah... i used my parents address, and FH used the address we live at now.

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Ditto. I just didn't want to hear it.

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Posted by FutureJOC

I'm struggling with this too. We have not met with the priest yet but I am up in the air about whether or not to lie about living together. Problem is, the only people I knew who have gotten married at my church by the same priest didn't have this problem because they were not living together beforehand.

FH says we shouldn't lie and that if the priest has a problem with it than we will find someone else, but if I am getting married in a church I would really like it to be my church (if I had my way it would be getting married on a beach somewhere on a tropical island).

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ugh i know, i don't want to lie, but if we don't and its a problem, then i'd be pissed. like someone said above, its a white lie, right?

my friend went through this too when she was booking her wedding.

She chose to tell her priest the truth because she didn't feel right lying to her priest, plus she felt like lying to her priest about something wedding related would be detrimental to the sacrament of marriage.

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

my friend went through this too when she was booking her wedding.

She chose to tell her priest the truth because she didn't feel right lying to her priest, plus she felt like lying to her priest about something wedding related would be detrimental to the sacrament of marriage.

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was the priest OK with them living together?

Our priest is super laid back. He didn't ask us directly but when he was taking down our contact info he asked FH his address then looked at me and I said 'same' He didn't care

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Posted by dCa51899

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

my friend went through this too when she was booking her wedding.

She chose to tell her priest the truth because she didn't feel right lying to her priest, plus she felt like lying to her priest about something wedding related would be detrimental to the sacrament of marriage.

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was the priest OK with them living together?

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I think it'd depend on the priest. Our priest was pretty cool and I doubt he would've cared if we said we lived together, but I'd suggest feeling the priest out. If you think he seems laid back, tell him, if not, it's only a white lie. I can't imagine what impact it would have on the marriage.

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by dCa51899

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

my friend went through this too when she was booking her wedding.

She chose to tell her priest the truth because she didn't feel right lying to her priest, plus she felt like lying to her priest about something wedding related would be detrimental to the sacrament of marriage.

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was the priest OK with them living together?

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I think it'd depend on the priest. Our priest was pretty cool and I doubt he would've cared if we said we lived together, but I'd suggest feeling the priest out. If you think he seems laid back, tell him, if not, it's only a white lie. I can't imagine what impact it would have on the marriage.

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yeah I forgot to add the last part. I said she decided to tell the priest.

I forgot to mention the fact that he was fine with it. It's not uncommon for people to live together before marriage, I guess it depends on how progressive their thoughts regarding the subject are.

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by AngnShaun

yeah... i used my parents address, and FH used the address we live at now.

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Ditto. I just didn't want to hear it.

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3 of my friends teach in the school of the church were getting married at... one of them almost lost her job because her DH's uncle told the school admins that she was living in sin... so we figured it was best to just say we dont live together... its a pretty old school type parish also...