Is it wrong of me to request that maybe LIW start up a sort of seperate: 'I'm Sad' board? I mean I am ALL FOR therapy and REACHING out for help and talking about feelings... But I feel kind of stupid writing how excited I am about my upcoming wedding right under someone who mentioned something about some family member being sick or passing away. It seems sort of counter-productive. Trust me, I mean no offense. I studied for a long time to be a social worker. I love people and am always there to listen...But...I don't know...What does anyone else think? Am I being totally cruel and heartless?
btrflygrl
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What about calling it a prayer board?? or a vent board?
wenndypoo
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Maybe we should start a 'I'm happy' board instead. This way people who are stressed, overwhelmed or sad don't have to listen to other people gloat about how great their life is, etc.
Sorry, I couldn't resist!
eroxgirl
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while I totally understand where you're coming from, I personally wouldn't ever want to look at an 'I'm sad' board because, well, its just to depressing. JMHO
BMD'sPeanut
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well we all have problems, and while we should feel comfortable to express them here, i feel it defeats the purpose of these boards (at least the brides helping brides one). yea, planning a wedding is stressful...but for the most part it's a good time... and i don't want to have to feel inconsiderate for talking about wedding plans while others are grieving losses.
KarenB
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I do not think there should be a separate board. Happy and Sad can all be part of the process and the purpose is supposed to be to support each other. I don't think anyone sad begrudges anyone happy so you shouldn't feel funny posting something happy if it happens to be near something sad. JMO
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I agree with Karen, especially if the sad thing is wedding related.
eroxgirl
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i don't want to have to feel inconsiderate for talking about wedding plans while others are grieving losses.
And you shouldn't! After all this board is about brides helping brides so that's the topic of conversation that belongs on this board...NWR board is for all other things
Kristinka
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I am for a new board called 'Drama', where people can vent!
ChristineC68
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Posted by eroxgirl
i don't want to have to feel inconsiderate for talking about wedding plans while others are grieving losses.
And you shouldn't! After all this board is about brides helping brides so that's the topic of conversation that belongs on this board...NWR board is for all other things
I agree with eroxgirl, you shouldn't feel bad.
This site is much more then weddings, it's more of a LI Life. Good things and bad things happen everyday and because of the community people are comfortable sharing the news here.
I don't think it should be seperated for a couple of reasons but mostly because I think we have too many forums already that people have a hard time hitting the ones they want to hit and unfortunately, the people that need the hugs or support may not get it if it's posted someplace else.
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Posted by Kristinka
I am for a new board called 'Drama', where people can vent!
That's known as: Not Wedding Related (NWR)...usually can find (and stir up) lots of drama over there.
I agree with eroxgirl & Karen...you shouldn't feel bad about posting happy news - this is a wedding related board...there will be happiness, frustrations, sadness, disappointments, etc. It's life and I think we all know and accept that.
Nora101004
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As a happy person I wouldn't go on that board, as a sad person, I'd get annoyed no one cares about me.
shelly3950
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I don't think we need two boards. Sometimes I am 'sad'. Sometimes I am 'happy'. I have never felt bad about someone's happiness- I have never seen that as gloating- when I am in a bad mood. If you are happy, be happy. If you are not happy- be not happy. I think we can deal with each other moods on one board.
I also agree, I never would want to check on an I'm Sad board. Maybe an I'm stressed board- but we can just have a thread for that ; )
kathleenmarie
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I like the mix of things. Its more real because we are a bunch of different people with different experiences and we can feel glad we get supported when we are having an issue and glad we are getting supported when we are elated! :)
sa070204
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I agree! The NWR board should be used for such situations.
Jax430
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I think that it all belongs on 'BHB', b/c whether happy or sad, we're helping each other...anyone can choose not to read the sad posts...JMO
