Major Vent. Can't stop crying.

Am I wrong to feel jerked around?

One of my bosses just canceled on me. His wife's father is sick. Also, two of my parent's neighbors might not come because the father is literally on the death bed. He was just moved into the hospital, so they may not come.

Then, my parents tell me my Great Uncle is sick, and they believe there cousins won't come. We're talking about 15 people. <--- why wouldn't they all come? I would think my great uncle & aunt would be the only No's if my uncle is on Chemo, I would totally expect his wife to stay home. And besides, this is from my parents, who heard from grandma, who heard from great aunt. COULD SOMEONE PLEASE CALL ME? I AM ADULT, AND I KNOW HOW TO TAKE IT WHEN THERE'S SOMETHING TERRIBLE GOING ON.

While I hope people are ok, and I really hate to sound like I have no cares for anyone but myself, I want my answers now because I cannot do my name cards or table settings. Do people not understand wedding plans and how they work?

I felt the past 2 months to be a nightmare. I knew once those invites left my hands there were going to be issues. I lost friends over this wedding (none that I really cared to fix anyway, if they were selfish enough to make me feel worse than I already did about certain things). I am seeing sides of people that I wish I didn't, because I will always think of what they will pull with me when a big event pops up in the future. I dread having kids.

I guess I shouldn't be upset because this lowers the bill. I feel down, real down. I'm stressed, I'm tired. I'm almost sick of talking about this wedding with people. And even on facebook, I usually have happy statuses exclaiming my excitement, and I get jerks who keep telling me 'thank god, i'm sick of hearing about it'....

WELL THEN DON'T READ MY POSTS, YOU JEALOUS SINGLE A$$HOLES!!!

Would they rather me complain about it over there like I do on here?

I feel even I have changed. I never, ever used to be demanding about anything. I took myself as easy going, mellow, and one who goes with the flow. I never cared to get huffy puffy, like everyone around has NO PROBLEM being that way towards me. I've gotten much more nastier too. Very snappy, sarcastic, and very insensitive, and that's just not me!

Someone, come find me, and slap me, and tell me I am going to have the most perfect day, no matter what happens.

Please.

I am not going to slap you but you will have the most perfect day ever

You will have the most amazing day. The night of our RD, FFIL & FMIL were angry about our line up and threatened not to come and would speak to us AT ALL. They were so drama filled up until our wedding day, I truly didn't even think I would make it, but I did! The wedding was amazing and I don't even remember anything that wasn't perfect! It was sincerely the happiest day ofmy life so far.

ETA: If you want me to hit you, make sure I use my weak hand.

Weddings bring out EVERYONE's true colors.

How you are feeling is comepletely understandable. Others who haven't been a Bride before have NO IDEA!!! Don't let them ruin this exciting time in your life. People can be really self absorbed and hearing about someone else's happiness just reminds them of how UNHAPPY they are in their own lives. Let them go.... chances are you and those people won't speak much after the wedding anyway.. .sad but true

As for all the sick people around you 's for them #1 and secondly there is nothing you can do about it. You can be disappointed and upset that these people can't come but try and let it go. Explain to them that the $$ is due this week and you need a definite. If you need/want too call them yourself. This way they know you are an adult and it isn't coming from your Mom or Dad and hopefully they are respectful enough to tell you what they plan to do. If they don't.... again don't let it bother you they might just feel so bladly themselves that they can't face you (on the phone or otherwise)

Hang in there sweetie. it is all worth it in the end...

First of all, i agree that your entire family should not be cancelling just because your great uncle's sick. As you said, it's perfectly understandable for him and his wife to cancel, but not the others!!!

I do totally understand how you feel .... i had a lot of BS during the wedding planning too. Just try to ignore it and move on ... your day WILL be amazing and perfect regardless. You'll be way too busy to notice who's there anyway

I know exactly how you feel. I had about 8 family members not come becasue of my aunts illness..yes they all decided not to come...we had a few people cancel due to deaths in the family and another due to another illness. I was panicked because this was a small wedding to begin with!!

But I looked on the bright side..less money I had to shell out!!

Dont worry you will have an amazing day anyway!!

I love you all. Thanks.

Just hang in there

once its over you will be back to your normal self again

I know exactly how you feel, too. All the facebook stuff and people canceling and not telling you, etc.... it sucks. I actually can say that I hated being engaged...

BUT your day will be perfect... Even if things go wrong... Nothing can go wrong that will be BIG ENOUGH to outshine your happiness at marrying the love of your life....

Trust me! People even pi s s ed me off at the wedding and I was like 'f that... I'm f-ing married, b!tch!!'

for you and for everyone who is so sick......

You're almost to your wedding day and once you get there, none of this will matter. You will have the most perfect day. just think about the beautiful end result: you're getting married!!!! Forget all those people who are making you cry. Hang in there and vent away any time!!

I know that feeling and it totally s ucks. Your day will be great.

Don't let anything that is out your control get you down. I was feeling the same way you are now because we are not going to make our minimum. I was really depressed and getting so mad at everyone, FH included.

Then I went to a friends wedding and it just reminded me that all of the things we as brides worry about are really not what's important. The most memorable part of that wedding was the ceremony. At the end of the day it is all about you and your FH.

It's going to all be fine. I promise!

Im so sorry--you certainly dont need the stress right now..

To those friends on FB who have nothing nice to say--delete them, if they cant say nice things and leave rude comments they r not people worth knowing..

For people who don't know if they are coming or not, whether it be family co workers friends whatever.. Id call and say Im sorry but by so and so date I need a 100% definite yes or no rsvp. A final total must be given to ur hall that can not be changed and thats that... If they r wavering, Id just make it a no..

As for your facebook friends, SHAME ON THEM. Really, shame on them for raining on your parade. You're at an exciting, (albeit stressful & at times confusing) stage in your life & have every right to post when something good comes your way. Misery loves company, so don't let people spread their negative energy your say.

And as for being snappy, sarcastic, insensitive, well, you're dealing with the stresses of wedding planning as well as feeling dissappointed with people you love & care about possibly not being at your wedding, so you have every right to be a little upset. So take a deep breath & do what you can, one day at a time.

At the end of the day, it will have all been worth it.

I've had some of the same problems on FB. Unhappy people are always bitter towards happy people. Best way to get them is to keep being happy!

Don't let the stress ruin this special time no matter what things will work out and your day will be AMAZING remember that and SMILE! YOUR GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!