major vent & i need some help ladies!!

Okay so I need a little help with this. This might be long & I'll apologize now... So I'm not the type of person to really talk to my exes or at least enough to have them at my wedding.. I recently found out bc of aim & fb that one of my friends was seeing my ex since at least September that I noticed. Theres a lot of details that I know about with whats going on with them just by whats been posted on aim & fb.

I've been friends with HER for about 8years but over the past few years sort of drifted apart & things have happened.. started to talk recently after I had my baby. As for the ex we broke up about 7years ago talking awhileee back. She told me HER & her bf that she cheated on were having issues but she didn't tell me the cheating part I saw it all happening. & my ex & HER are at the point for months of saying 'ilove you'

I've tried to have my friend come out saying things to her when I know she'd be at his house or out with him bc of a status' but she keeps lying to me about anything when I really know the truth I wouldn't care that she's dating him or whatever but lying.. but if she is dating she'd have to come dateless & definately can not bring him to my wedding!!

But I'll get to the point of my question..
If you were in my situation would you still be inviting HER to the wedding? I haven't sent HER a STD just bc if SHE stops dating him before invites go out then I can change my mind...
This also has me questioning bc my friend texted me the other day saying how SHE texted her asking if my other friend was part of the bridal party since were close with the babies & stuff & SHE is hurt that SHE's not IN THE BRIDAL PARTY!! Wait till she finds out she's not even invited

ETA....
would you invite her with no guest or not invite at all?

I think first you need to talk to her about her dating your ex and all the lies. Maybe ask her to meet for coffee. Go with an open mind and hear what she has to say. Also be honest with her how feel very hurt about her actions. I think you two need to deal with the main issue and then worry about if you are inviting her to the wedding. Also if you don't feel comfortable with your at your wedding I think you should be honest about that as well. I think once you speak to her you will know what to do.

Sorry for your stress. Good luck

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Posted by adelz

If you have to question inviting her, I say don't invite her at all. It sounds like there's still a lot of things you guys need to work out, and it could lead to a lot of unecessary drama (i.e. she might want to bring your ex as her guest, which would be ackward IMO).

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^ This. On all days in your life you definitely do not need to be around an ex bf and a friend who is acting shady and lying to you.

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Posted by SeptemberBride2012

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Posted by adelz

If you have to question inviting her, I say don't invite her at all. It sounds like there's still a lot of things you guys need to work out, and it could lead to a lot of unecessary drama (i.e. she might want to bring your ex as her guest, which would be ackward IMO).

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^ This. On all days in your life you definitely do not need to be around an ex bf and a friend who is acting shady and lying to you.

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ITA if you are questioning it now and you don't feel like a resolution is near, don't invite her... you don't need to be stressing about THAT on your wedding day and the days leading up to it. HTH