Man of Honor/Best Lady...

I've noticed in some postings references to 'men of honor' and/or a 'best lady'...

What exactly does this mean?

When the Fh has a Best Lady instead of a Best Man,
When FW has a man of honor instead of a maid/maitron of honor.
I think!

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

I'm curious to know why a person would choose this option.

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My DH's best friend is a woman and mine is a man. We were not going to leave them out of our Bridal Party so, we had a Best Lady and a Man of Honor.

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Posted by sept20yay

I always thought that the bridal party consists of men and women and then they just divide out, women on one side, men on the other. I thought, for example, if my best friend was a man, dh, as a favor to me mostly but b/c he likes this guy too, would make him a groomsman. If the situation was reversed, vice versa. That is not the case?

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I think that is the way some people do it. For us we had no problem with having a mixed BP. It is becoming more common. I wanted the people closest to me on my side and so did my DH.

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Posted by heidla

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Posted by sept20yay

I always thought that the bridal party consists of men and women and then they just divide out, women on one side, men on the other. I thought, for example, if my best friend was a man, dh, as a favor to me mostly but b/c he likes this guy too, would make him a groomsman. If the situation was reversed, vice versa. That is not the case?

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I think that is the way some people do it. For us we had no problem with having a mixed BP. It is becoming more common. I wanted the people closest to me on my side and so did my DH.

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Thats the way we did it.

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Posted by sept20yay

I always thought that the bridal party consists of men and women and then they just divide out, women on one side, men on the other. I thought, for example, if my best friend was a man, dh, as a favor to me mostly but b/c he likes this guy too, would make him a groomsman. If the situation was reversed, vice versa. That is not the case?

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This is how I am doing it...Hense the large bridal party. I however, I have no male friends and FH has no female friends. So it's mostly all family...My boy cousins are ushers/groomsmen...His female cousins are BM's...I guess it's all semantics.

My fiance and I are doing a very non-traditional wedding party because we wanted our friends closest to us to be in the party and we wanted to be authentic. We don't think it's genuine to have even numbers and guys on his side and girls on mine because of tradition or for photos.

He is having two- three people on his side- all women (a Best Maid and one to two Groomswomen). I am having four women and a man. My sister who lives far away will be my Maid of Honor and my close friend who lives nearby will be my Matron of Honor, and I will have two Bridesmaids and one Bridesman. We will have two flower girls and a ring bearer.

These days weddings can be exactly what you want! I love the ceremony of tradition, but sometimes you have to buck it and make your own traditions! This is the moment where you should have the person/ people you want most at your side, whatever their gender!