vagueness....why can't folks just say what they have to say w/out being cryptic?
You have a problem with something/someone - flat out say what that problem is....why is it necessary to privately send an email/make a phone call, etc....all extra work!
I hate cliff-hangers!
CLMon7906
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Fine. I hate bananas. There, I said it. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
greenfreak
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I try not to buy into vagueness and not ask. I figure if they really wanted anyone to know, they'd come out and say it.
There's a guy here who, if you ask him how he's doing, will say some kind of open ended thing like, 'Absolutely terrible.' and nothing more. I know he's just begging for someone to ask why, so I just say I'm sorry to hear that, hope it gets better, and walk away.
chikita315
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If this at all reduces the likeliness that you will be attending later, I'll kick some azz
ChrissynRicky
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Posted by greenfreak
I try not to buy into vagueness and not ask. I figure if they really wanted anyone to know, they'd come out and say it.
There's a guy here who, if you ask him how he's doing, will say some kind of open ended thing like, 'Absolutely terrible.' and nothing more. I know he's just begging for someone to ask why, so I just say I'm sorry to hear that, hope it gets better, and walk away.
EXACTLY....and then you're called 'rude' for not asking why!
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Posted by ChrissynRicky
Posted by greenfreak
I try not to buy into vagueness and not ask. I figure if they really wanted anyone to know, they'd come out and say it.
There's a guy here who, if you ask him how he's doing, will say some kind of open ended thing like, 'Absolutely terrible.' and nothing more. I know he's just begging for someone to ask why, so I just say I'm sorry to hear that, hope it gets better, and walk away.
EXACTLY....and then you're called 'rude' for not asking why!
Take DH's advice: F-em.
JessicaM.
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I am the queen of vague and cryptic.
SuzBride
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but vagueness is a way to amuse myself at the expense of others.
Actually most AM vagueness is due to sleepiness. I don't even realize I am being vague. I am just too lazy to elaborate properly.
What I hate are those who overelaborate - mainly cause I have a short attention span and also becuase I usually don't care.
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Posted by CLMon7906
Posted by ChrissynRicky
Posted by greenfreak
I try not to buy into vagueness and not ask. I figure if they really wanted anyone to know, they'd come out and say it.
There's a guy here who, if you ask him how he's doing, will say some kind of open ended thing like, 'Absolutely terrible.' and nothing more. I know he's just begging for someone to ask why, so I just say I'm sorry to hear that, hope it gets better, and walk away.
EXACTLY....and then you're called 'rude' for not asking why!
Take DH's advice: F-em.
Please don't be upset at me for bringing such serious stuff to NWR, but I find this kind of thing fascinating.
I read a book a while ago called the Celestine Prophecy, and some of it was crazy talk, but one thing in particular stuck with me.
That a lot of people try to drain your energy or control you in four ways called 'control dramas' (or a combination of these):
Aloof: in order to get energy coming your way, you withdraw and look mysterious and secretive. You hope that someone will be pulled into this drama and try to figure out what's going on with you. When someone does, you remain vague, forcing them to struggle, dig and try to discern your true feelings.
Interrogator: sets up a drama of asking questions and probing into another person's world with the specific purpose of finding something wrong. Once they do, they criticize this aspect of the other's life.
Intimidator: someone who threatens you, either verbally or physically. You are forced, for fear of something bad happening to you, to pay attention to them and so to give him energy. This is the most aggressive kind of drama.
Poor Me: someone who tells you all the horrible things that are already happening to them, implying perhaps that you are responsible, and that, if you refuse to help, these horrible things are going to continue. Someone who makes you feel guilty when you're in their presence, even though you know there is no reason to feel that way.
